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It's an interesting proposition.

In my youth, my answer would have been in line with the genetic probabilities stated by Professor Dawkins et al; namely, siblings and children first, followed by grandchildren and cousins, etc.

However, now that my surviving siblings and I are beyond reproductive age (as are most of my children), I find that my emotional response is that I now value the survival of my grandchildren and great-grandchildren and grand nieces and nephews over my own or my siblings or childrens' survival.

And, of course, I value any of these over that of 1000 strangers.
 
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In a very real sense, I already do that, chose the one I love, and myself, over numberless strangers. I live in relative luxury while children starve and people die of preventable diseases. I give some, but not all, not enough - so I tend not to think about it.
 
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If you had to choose between saving the one person you loved the most from death, or 1000 people you know to varying degrees (or no degree), do you have an obligation to do either?

I would say that you should do what harms you the least, and that I can't determine what that choice is. Only you can.


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The one I love most would sacrifice herself for 1000 others... so I guess it would be respectful to make that decision.

I'm not sure I could do it, but I know for sure that if I did make that choice, I'd be following her into oblivion right after.
 
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Sorry, my brain isn't working enough to read and understand all that.

 
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What happens if we can't choose?

That'd be too much pressure for me.

Well in the game if you do nothing, the many die.

Personally I chose the one over the many.

But a good point is made later on in thread. Unless you give most of your money to charity, you already choose comfort over the lives of others.
 
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That's an excellent point. We all pretty much do this anyway, and just for comfort, not even someone we love.

I'm glad you brought this up. I hadn't thought about it this way.

Perhaps we should have moral problems with this, but most people don't care about leaving people to die in other countries (or they just don't think about it).
 
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I would say that you should do what harms you the least, and that I can't determine what that choice is. Only you can.


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You don't think the other people matter? What about the harm of others?

I'm not saying you're wrong, I'm just asking.
 
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You don't think the other people matter? What about the harm of others?

Other people matter...to you. You should look to your character and to your principles and do the least harm to yourself in making your decision.

If you can't live with yourself sacrificing your beloved, you may want to save your beloved. If saving your beloved and sacrificing other people means that you can't live with yourself, you may want to save those other people. If you can't live with either decision, you're screwed and there is no good decision.

I realize this doesn't sit well with a utilitarian perspective that views human worth in terms of numbers. It's more of a virtue ethics perspective where one is a good person to the extent to which one has admirable traits of character and decisions flow from this character. People ought to do the best they can as the individuals that they are, and I don't think that there are any easy answers in lifeboat situations which are designed to be inescapably tragic.


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I wouldn't say I'm utilitarian, but I'm not sure this view of yours sounds virtuous. Isn't just doing what makes you feel best selfish, and isn't that a vice?

 
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I wouldn't say I'm utilitarian, but I'm not sure this view of yours sounds virtuous. Isn't just doing what makes you feel best selfish, and isn't that a vice?

No, selfishness -- of a rational sort -- is a virtue. We can call that prudence instead, which can be described as acting on knowledge of one's best interests. Selflessness is the vice.

It isn't really about how it makes one feel, but the objective impact of the decision on oneself. How destructive is the choice on your functioning as an individual? How much does it eat into your principles, your values, your self-respect, your zest for living? This goes far beyond a trivial notion of how one "feels".


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No, selfishness -- of a rational sort -- is a virtue. We can call that prudence instead, which can be described as acting on knowledge of one's best interests. Selflessness is the vice.

I wouldn't say selfishness is prudence. Selfishness tend to mean going beyond what is required for yourself, and taking more than you need.

Selflessness is a vice? So jumping on a grenade for others is bad? I wouldn't say it's an obligation, but it's morally praiseworthy in my opinion.


That's pretty close to what I meant. Your principles, etc, are feelings if they have no grounding beyond what one wants.

To be honest, this virtue ethics doesn't sound very virtuous. It sounds more like a disguise for self-interest.

If someone doesn't believe in morality, I get that; but I don't see the need to say self-interest is morality.

No offence meant; just voicing my thoughts.
 
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I wouldn't say selfishness is prudence.

I said of a rational sort. I don't mean selfishness in the irrational, negative sense.

Selfishness tend to mean going beyond what is required for yourself, and taking more than you need.

And that's not what I was defending. I was precisely talking about doing what is required for yourself, taking exactly what you need.

Selflessness is a vice? So jumping on a grenade for others is bad? I wouldn't say it's an obligation, but it's morally praiseworthy in my opinion.

It may be, depending on the circumstances. However, if it was truly morally praiseworthy, I'd call that rationally selfish, i.e., prudent. One died to defend one's values. One cared about one's country, one's family, one's comrades-in-arms, and one's freedom so much that one died to protect those values. That is blessedly "selfish".

To be honest, this virtue ethics doesn't sound very virtuous. It sounds more like a disguise for self-interest.

Self-interest is virtuous if it is wise and justified self-interest. Unfortunately, "selflessness" has been painted as virtuous even though it so often isn't.

If someone doesn't believe in morality, I get that; but I don't see the need to say self-interest is morality.

It is morality because it is normative. It pertains to oughts. Any set of oughts is a morality. There's nothing else to call it.

I have a moral code. This moral code is a set of values. It is based on justified self-interest. It is morality. It is in many ways similar to what people already think of as morality, except stressing how moral people benefit from being moral, instead of emphasizing self-destructiveness and death. My morality isn't death-worship, it upholds life and personal flourishing, even though there can be rare, tragic circumstances in which one might legitimately lose one's life.

No offence meant; just voicing my thoughts.

No offense taken.


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I said of a rational sort. I don't mean selfishness in the irrational, negative sense.

And that's not what I was defending. I was precisely talking about doing what is required for yourself, taking exactly what you need.

I think I'd call that self-interest, not selfishness.


I don't see how acting on one's values is necessarily prudent.

I also wouldn't call it selfish. I'd think most people who do that are thinking of others, not themselves, when doing it.

Self-interest is virtuous if it is wise and justified self-interest. Unfortunately, "selflessness" has been painted as virtuous even though it so often isn't.

I can see how selflessness could be bad, but I'm not sure how it would often be bad.

It is morality because it is normative. It pertains to oughts. Any set of oughts is a morality. There's nothing else to call it.

I don't think self-interest is 'ought' related. I don't avoid hunger because I ought to, I just do it because I want to.


I wouldn't say my morality is death worship. Sacrifice can be commendable, but I don't think it's often (or perhaps ever) a duty.
 
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Oh yes, situation ethics again. We seldom if ever are faced with this. But if it were my wife, I have a Covenant Marriage and because I honor my commitment's I would save my wife. No question about it!
 
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