Cry Babies
So, do you or your mate cry?
My husband does not cry. If like I am dying , he will have tears running down his face, or in his eyes, and at the birth of our first child he had tears in his eyes, but he never cries because of anger, frustration, sadness, or touchy movies, etc.
I on the other hand , I do cry. I cry if my husband barks at me, or speaks crossly to me, or bawls me out (thankfully he usually tries to talk loving and nicely). It is not that I have such low self esteem, or that I can get my way if I cry, he certainly will not change his mind because of me crying. I guess, it is because my life revolves around trying to please him and have him be happy with me, so it feels awful if he is not pleased. I still think I am a great person and all that, I just hate the feeling of disappointing someone. My husband does not yell and scream at me, he is pretty even keel, so I guess I take barking or a grumpy tone, the same way that others would take yelling.
But also, if one of his snow or lawn customers calls and chews me out or bawls me out, (think crabby old lady here), I will usually start crying as soon as I am off the phone. My husband told me to just hang up the phone if they do that any more. This does not happen very often.
I remember that as a teen, I felt like crying when I had given the wrong answer in Bible class, I guess cuz I felt bad for disappointing my teacher.
I think that in situations where other people swear, argue or yell, get bitter, etc., I substitute crying. It is not like I cry every day, though, maybe once or twice a month?
For, instance, my sister who I really like and who is a Christian and trying to be submissive like me, etc. was coming to visit with her hubby and baby. They were coming from another state for Thanksgiving. This year we had Thanksgiving with his folks (their turn). I wanted to see my sister as much as I could. When my hubby heard that she was coming in, he said that I would have to work with him doing fall cleanups during that time period, but he would make sure that I got to see her sometime while she was in. My dad was gonna make a big family meal while she was in, and hubby told me that he did not think we would be able to make it to that because of fall cleanups. I was extremely disappointed cuz I really love my sis and wanted to see her, and tears were running down my face. I dont think I cried at all in front of my hubby (more like went into a different room), and I understood that he was trying to be responsible and that the cleanups go faster when I help, and all of that.
Anyhow, it snowed, so I got to see her TWO whole days and we had the family meal, so God really blessed me, like He usually does!
If I have PMS then I tend to cry more, I just informed my hubby last night, that in a little over a week, I will start getting PMS. Then if he makes too many things I have to get done during the day, in addition to my own mental list, then I will cry (I mean tears by this, not necessarily sobbing or something), or if he seems grumpy at me. So, he does try to talk extra nice, or smile at me after giving me my chores etc, then. Normally I do not cry every time he acts crabby at me, I just reason that he had a long day and is not feeling the best, but sometimes I do.
I do not think I am a cry baby, some ladies cry way more than me, and it is not like people tip toe around me, for fear of making me cry, or something.
My mom, on the other hand, does not cry. She argues or snips instead, or just looks crabby. My youngest sister is like me though, and my sister that came in for a visit is kinda like me, in this regard.
Thankfully my hubby usually talks very loving and thoughtful to me and compliments me on how well I cleaned or cooked, or tells me how much he appreciates it. (So dont start thinking he is an evil beast again!)
So, do you or your mate cry?
My husband does not cry. If like I am dying , he will have tears running down his face, or in his eyes, and at the birth of our first child he had tears in his eyes, but he never cries because of anger, frustration, sadness, or touchy movies, etc.
I on the other hand , I do cry. I cry if my husband barks at me, or speaks crossly to me, or bawls me out (thankfully he usually tries to talk loving and nicely). It is not that I have such low self esteem, or that I can get my way if I cry, he certainly will not change his mind because of me crying. I guess, it is because my life revolves around trying to please him and have him be happy with me, so it feels awful if he is not pleased. I still think I am a great person and all that, I just hate the feeling of disappointing someone. My husband does not yell and scream at me, he is pretty even keel, so I guess I take barking or a grumpy tone, the same way that others would take yelling.
But also, if one of his snow or lawn customers calls and chews me out or bawls me out, (think crabby old lady here), I will usually start crying as soon as I am off the phone. My husband told me to just hang up the phone if they do that any more. This does not happen very often.
I remember that as a teen, I felt like crying when I had given the wrong answer in Bible class, I guess cuz I felt bad for disappointing my teacher.
I think that in situations where other people swear, argue or yell, get bitter, etc., I substitute crying. It is not like I cry every day, though, maybe once or twice a month?
For, instance, my sister who I really like and who is a Christian and trying to be submissive like me, etc. was coming to visit with her hubby and baby. They were coming from another state for Thanksgiving. This year we had Thanksgiving with his folks (their turn). I wanted to see my sister as much as I could. When my hubby heard that she was coming in, he said that I would have to work with him doing fall cleanups during that time period, but he would make sure that I got to see her sometime while she was in. My dad was gonna make a big family meal while she was in, and hubby told me that he did not think we would be able to make it to that because of fall cleanups. I was extremely disappointed cuz I really love my sis and wanted to see her, and tears were running down my face. I dont think I cried at all in front of my hubby (more like went into a different room), and I understood that he was trying to be responsible and that the cleanups go faster when I help, and all of that.
Anyhow, it snowed, so I got to see her TWO whole days and we had the family meal, so God really blessed me, like He usually does!
If I have PMS then I tend to cry more, I just informed my hubby last night, that in a little over a week, I will start getting PMS. Then if he makes too many things I have to get done during the day, in addition to my own mental list, then I will cry (I mean tears by this, not necessarily sobbing or something), or if he seems grumpy at me. So, he does try to talk extra nice, or smile at me after giving me my chores etc, then. Normally I do not cry every time he acts crabby at me, I just reason that he had a long day and is not feeling the best, but sometimes I do.
I do not think I am a cry baby, some ladies cry way more than me, and it is not like people tip toe around me, for fear of making me cry, or something.
My mom, on the other hand, does not cry. She argues or snips instead, or just looks crabby. My youngest sister is like me though, and my sister that came in for a visit is kinda like me, in this regard.
Thankfully my hubby usually talks very loving and thoughtful to me and compliments me on how well I cleaned or cooked, or tells me how much he appreciates it. (So dont start thinking he is an evil beast again!)
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