couple checkup

[bluegreysky]

15 Months until the wedding.

Set a date. Check.
October 20, 2012

Started planning the event, budgeting and saving money. Check.

Checked in with a pastor for counseling on current issues
Check.

Made plans to get premarital counseling this fall or winter. Check.

Talked to skeptical (of everything) parents and got them to understand that, yes, I AM marrying him and they can trust him. Check.

Started making plans for the first few years after
(house we will live in, jobs we want to get, the rest of his college courses, etc) Check.

Bought a few Christian couple books and follow them. Check.

Joined a smallgroup of young married couples. Check.

Realized that 70% of tendencies he has and that I have are part of us and they will never change and we need to embrace that and love each other anyway. (says the counselor) Check.



Anything I'm forgetting? Speak now or forever hold your peace. jk.

 

[Luther073082]

Oh there is always something to do. Have you two talked about what you wanted to do or where you wanted to go on your honeymoon?

Do you know where you are going to live after the wedding?

By started planning the event and budgeting, does this mean you have a place for the reception and the appropriate personnel hired? DJ, Photographer etc?

Also something you may want to look into is having engagement photos taken.

The good news is you have plenty of time. But don't let that go to your head, you can be surprised how fast it all approaches if you sluff off on preparing everything.

 

[mina]

Congrats!!!!
You do have a bit of time, enjoy the process!

 

[TheDag]

don't know if I'm allowed to post in here as a married person but I'll put my little bit in.

Remember not to get carried away by the day. It is just a wedding. The marriage is what is important. I actually told a friend a few months before our wedding that as long as the minister, my bride and two people to act as witnesses turned up I didn't care. Obviously it is nice to have people there but if not as long as you can still get married that is what counts. On the day only one thing went wrong which was the sound system stopped working (outdoor wedding). We just all moved closer in so people hear. We spent about a minute trying to get it working and then moved on. So if a dress isn't quite right or something like that ask yourself "Will this stop me from getting married?" If not don't stress. This is good to keep in mind for any preparations.

Oh yeah remember it is your wedding and if you don't want to do the traditional bridal waltz then don't! My experience is most people these days don't know how to waltz and the older guests the next day at church are making negative comments about the waltz. So work out what the two of you would really like and don't allow your fiancee to just say whatever you want!

 

[dayhiker]

forgetting .. have fun and enjoy the relationships.