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Well...................... i finially told someone. Well an adult that is. one that i trust quite a bit too, my step grandma. She said she knows a very good shrink that could help me. But now that i think about it i wish i hadn't. I wish i hadn't told her a lot of things. Even though i needed help, and she helped me and always has, i still think i made the wrong decision. I didn't want to tell anyone. I didn't want to go to a shrink, but now that's unavoidable! i'm so confused. i thought i could stop be myself, but now i know i can't. I still don't want help though! And the other thing before i told my grandma my mother saw the scars on my sides, well side she only saw one side and i told her that it was only on that side. But that's not true, and i also told her that i've stopped. So my grandmother is tha only one that knows i still do and that it's kinda become a habit. Oh i hope both my parents don't find out, i know it would be aweful if they did.
 

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I know how you feel - when I self harmed I was so afraid of my parents (and other family members) finding out and I hated the idea of having to go and see a counselor as well, as I didn't feel I needed help and I didn't particulaly want to talk about my most personal feelings with a complete stranger.
However, my parents did eventually find out and I did eventually have to go and see a counselor. At the time it seemed like the worst possible situation had happened but now I think it was the best thing that happened to me. The idea of counseling seemed really daunting to me at first but I am really glad I did it - my counselor was the most nicest person who helped me tremendously. Through seeing a counselor I managed to realise that I did need help and I stopped - now I haven't self harmed in over a year. Also having my parents find out and know prevents me from going back and hurting myself again.
I know it seems really bad now but I'm sure it will get better.
I'll pray for you if you want? God bless, Eby.
 
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not neccesaraly alot of councellors now will see you without ur parents having to know. I understand totally what you mean about wishing you hadnt said anything...recently I've been feeling really bad thinking about ending it alot...i made the mistake of opening up and telling my youth leader what was going on and now she wants me to go and see another dr the thing is i dont want my mum to know that im any worse. It will be ok counselling can help alot and you might even be glad you asked for help
 
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Hiya Ebony,

Congrats on telling someone! It takes a lot of courage to take such a big step like that. It was the right decision to make, even if it doesn't seem like it right now. I think everyone believes at one point or another that they can stop self injuring on their own. The reality is that most people can't, and the longer it progresses, the harder it gets. It's kind of like smoking. I know a person who smoked for years, decades even, and when he decided to stop, he was able to just quit cold turkey on the first try and never looked back. Some people can stop self injuring like that. For most people, though, it takes a lot of effort and determination and support. It can be done, though, and it'll be a lot easier to do if you have a real life support system.

I'm glad you have the support and understanding of your step grandma, and I'm glad you're going to get professional help as well. Give therapy a chance. It might not be as bad as you think.

One question: Why don't you want your parents to know? What might happen if they do?

Best of luck to you. Take care
 
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Hey Guys thanx for all the posts. To answer your question renwolf, i know my parent will think its just a fad for me and that its something stupid.And they'll think that if they'll tell me too stop than i will. But it's not and it is very serious and i don't think they'll understand the seriousness of it at all. Like my mom say me scars on my hip once and she flipped out saying that it was a very stupid thing and that i shouldn't do it because other people do it. And she said that only americans do stuff like self harm and that everyone else has better sense than that. So now i'm afraid of her finding out that after she told me that i still did it. But i'm extremely careful now if i do cut. so that no one sees. Well thats not true my boyfriend still sees and so does my best friend.. But they actually understand it!
 
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