Could someone please explain courting??

[MusicMelOU]

I must ask, how is courting different than having a steady boyfriend/girlfriend? I keep hearing this talk about courting, but I just don't see the difference. I guess I am missing something .

 

[John the Engineer]

Courting is different from having a steady boyfriend/girlfriend because courting is the two people looking toward being married. A steady boyfriend/girlfriend can be courting if the two people are planning on and making the preparations for being married.

 

[MusicMelOU]

I see...so how do you know if this person is who you are going to spend your life with? Do you just know upon meeting this person or are you friends first or what?

 

[FarFromHome]

With courting you enter a relationship with the intention of finding out if you are compatible for marriage while keeping God at the center of your relationship. If at some point in the future you find out that you aren't compatible for marriage you would break off the relationship at that instant. Most courting couples I know are very strict on the physical side of the relationship. They may hold hands, but no kissing until marriage. Some will give "peck" type kisses, but no open mouth or prolonged kissing until after marriage.

Hope this helps!

 

[MusicMelOU]

I don't knwo how to describe my love life. I won't "date" multiple people at one time. Whenever I have a boyfriend, it's usually a friend whom I know and we have decided to persue a relationship. I always enter a relationship with the idea of "this could be the person I marry", and if it doesn't work out, then it ends. In the past it wasn't really centerd on God, but my current relationship is, and it is working a lot better. If it doesn't work out, I'm tempted to try courting.

 

[OurGodIsLove]

Courting also takes place in the home. You have both sets of parents there during all visits.

 

[Warrior Poet]

Courting also takes place in the home. You have both sets of parents there during all visits.

Really ???

 

[Krystina661]

I must ask, how is courting different than having a steady boyfriend/girlfriend? I keep hearing this talk about courting, but I just don't see the difference. I guess I am missing something .

I think "courting" is like dating?

Which I don't really believe in dating anyway. Your either with someone or your not.

 

[Krystina661]

Courting also takes place in the home. You have both sets of parents there during all visits.

:o

 

[katelyn]

I think courting has multiple definitions. For some people, courting means that you never go out alone...you are either with parents or perhaps with a group. For others, it simply means that you are not interested in casual dating, and that you realize that the whole point of dating (or "courting") is to find out if this is the person you want to marry. I try not to get too hung up on the terms, especially since people often mean different things when using the same term.

 

[ufonium2]

I think my relationship is considered "courting," and I would say don't knock it till you've tried it.

Courting is dating with a purpose. My boyfriend and I talked about serious future issues (religion, kids, jobs) on the first date, because we both believe there is no point in dating someone you wouldn't marry. We are older (mid 20's) so our parents aren't always around, but they are aware of and important to our relationship and have been since the first date.

We limit ourselves pretty strictly regarding physical romance, but that is offset by the knowledge that in six months or so we will either be married or broken up; we don't see a need for an extended dating period.

My last relationship lasted 2 years, with a guy who wouldn't even talk marriage. For me, it's nice to be in a dating situation where the end is in sight, even from the beginning. Your mileage may vary though.

 

[MusicMelOU]

So I mean, is getting together as "courting" the same as when you get together with "dating"?