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WrongAgain2006
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Hi!
I recently found myself attracted to this man I know from a local cafe'. He is very nice, funny and decent-looking. He seemed to 'flirt' with me first by the way he smiled at me and he has an EXCELLENT memory of things I tell him when we talk. However, last week I became heart-broken when I spoke to a mutual friend who told me she heard 'he was gay.' There are some 'holes' in her story...1) she actually hasn't seen this man in over 20 years but talks to his mother and 2) I don't know 'who' she heard this from. She also told me that 'he didn't know she knew and may not want anything said because of how people may react.' Well, this man has at LEAST one coworker who I KNOW is homosexual and I've watched their interaction with each other when I've been in there and can't tell a difference between them and when he's dealing with his straight male coworkers and female coworkers. I gave him a 'non-mushy' Valentine's card (prior to the talk with my other friend) and he's continually been nice to me. I would think if he was homosexual and had no attraction to me (a female) that he would at least act like he's not interested in me. His actions would suggest something other than what my friend said about him. He's so sweet and has such a big heart I would have pegged him for a Christian, honestly. Do any of you know someone who is 'stuck in the closet' and have they ever been pursued by someone of the opposite sex? If so, what has been their reaction? Did they just let the situation continue and risk hurting the pursuer just to keep their secret intact?
Any advice or comments will be helpful.
Thanks,
WrongAgain2006
I recently found myself attracted to this man I know from a local cafe'. He is very nice, funny and decent-looking. He seemed to 'flirt' with me first by the way he smiled at me and he has an EXCELLENT memory of things I tell him when we talk. However, last week I became heart-broken when I spoke to a mutual friend who told me she heard 'he was gay.' There are some 'holes' in her story...1) she actually hasn't seen this man in over 20 years but talks to his mother and 2) I don't know 'who' she heard this from. She also told me that 'he didn't know she knew and may not want anything said because of how people may react.' Well, this man has at LEAST one coworker who I KNOW is homosexual and I've watched their interaction with each other when I've been in there and can't tell a difference between them and when he's dealing with his straight male coworkers and female coworkers. I gave him a 'non-mushy' Valentine's card (prior to the talk with my other friend) and he's continually been nice to me. I would think if he was homosexual and had no attraction to me (a female) that he would at least act like he's not interested in me. His actions would suggest something other than what my friend said about him. He's so sweet and has such a big heart I would have pegged him for a Christian, honestly. Do any of you know someone who is 'stuck in the closet' and have they ever been pursued by someone of the opposite sex? If so, what has been their reaction? Did they just let the situation continue and risk hurting the pursuer just to keep their secret intact?
Any advice or comments will be helpful.
Thanks,
WrongAgain2006
