This is my first post on here. I was searching the internet specifically for Christian forums, actually on dating, but I'm glad I found this one. It seems great, has so many things on it!
But yes, I am in need of some advice. And I'm sure that you guys need to know something about my boyfriend and I. So here ya go...
Joe and I are both 20 years old. We are both Christians, have been since childhood, his father is even a pastor. He and I have known each other since we were 12, but we didn't start dating until 15 months ago. I was very careful about getting into this relationship with him, I very carefully prayed about it, and up until the past few weeks, things have been great. Something is concerning me...
Joe frequents the mall in-between his classes, especially to visit a particular store where they sell video and computer games. This has been for about a year now. Well, come to find out, a girl named Michelle that he met once back when were in high school at a multi-school muscial thing, worked there. They hadn't had any contact since then, for years. He also joined the jazz band at school in January, of which Michelle is also in. Now, this semester, they have a class together. So they regularly see each other. I am pretty sure that one of the reasons he goes to the mall sometimes is to see Michelle, too. He has told me that she and him and another girl have gone and eaten lunch somewhere together at least two times in the last few months. There have been times when he and I are on a date, and he has talked a LOT about Michelle. We can go to the mall together, and he'll say, "Wonder if she's working?" I hate it, but I think, "Why should I care, how should I know?" Michelle and he have several things in common that he and I don't, like playing the trombone and absolutely LOVING to play music, while I just kinda love it (playing flute). They also both like video and computer games and play them a lot, while I don't, and also love anime and mangas and comic books. Those things are alright sometimes, but I prefer to do, watch, read, different things.
What I'm trying to get at is, how MUCH do I need to be concerned? We love each other and God, and most of the time, our communication is excellent. I trust him, but I admit I feel uncomfortable with the thought of him going to see her, hanging out with her even if she is working, and things like that.
What do you all think?
PS- I am fervently praying about this and our relationship. Also, I don't think Michelle knows Christ.
But yes, I am in need of some advice. And I'm sure that you guys need to know something about my boyfriend and I. So here ya go...
Joe and I are both 20 years old. We are both Christians, have been since childhood, his father is even a pastor. He and I have known each other since we were 12, but we didn't start dating until 15 months ago. I was very careful about getting into this relationship with him, I very carefully prayed about it, and up until the past few weeks, things have been great. Something is concerning me...
Joe frequents the mall in-between his classes, especially to visit a particular store where they sell video and computer games. This has been for about a year now. Well, come to find out, a girl named Michelle that he met once back when were in high school at a multi-school muscial thing, worked there. They hadn't had any contact since then, for years. He also joined the jazz band at school in January, of which Michelle is also in. Now, this semester, they have a class together. So they regularly see each other. I am pretty sure that one of the reasons he goes to the mall sometimes is to see Michelle, too. He has told me that she and him and another girl have gone and eaten lunch somewhere together at least two times in the last few months. There have been times when he and I are on a date, and he has talked a LOT about Michelle. We can go to the mall together, and he'll say, "Wonder if she's working?" I hate it, but I think, "Why should I care, how should I know?" Michelle and he have several things in common that he and I don't, like playing the trombone and absolutely LOVING to play music, while I just kinda love it (playing flute). They also both like video and computer games and play them a lot, while I don't, and also love anime and mangas and comic books. Those things are alright sometimes, but I prefer to do, watch, read, different things.
What I'm trying to get at is, how MUCH do I need to be concerned? We love each other and God, and most of the time, our communication is excellent. I trust him, but I admit I feel uncomfortable with the thought of him going to see her, hanging out with her even if she is working, and things like that.
What do you all think?
PS- I am fervently praying about this and our relationship. Also, I don't think Michelle knows Christ.