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Coming to terms...

Idahofroggie

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I am an abused wife. It took me nearly 8 years to come to terms with that. Physically, emotionally, mentally... I'm abused, and I've allowed it to continue. And he does it all in God's name. The first time he was arrested was July of '01. I was 20 years old, with a one year old. I was terrified of being alone. I cried and pleaded with the judge and tried to convince him that it was my fault. In the summer of 2005, while I was in Seattle visiting family, I got a phone call from the local police, informing me that they were doing an investigation of him for child abuse because of massive bruising on his behind. I convinced myself that my son must have done something really bad. He had cheated on me a few months before and I didn't want to jepordize us recently getting back together. He cheated again in Nov. of 2006. We didn't speak for a couple of weeks. Then, in front of my son he held me to the floor and punched me six times. I got the strength to leave. I left.

I'm now in the middle of a huge custody battle. The children he wanted me to give up for adoption so we could have our marriage alone, are the subject of the divorce. He is trying to get my kids taken away from me and turned over to the state so he doesn't have to pay child support. But I left.

He claims to be a Christian. He throws God in my face and justifies his behavior by claiming he has visions of me and my "demons". He feels because I've been on anti-depressants since he cheated on me the first time, that I'm unfit to be a mother. But I left.

I'm alone and with my children. God is my father and I'm ok. I'm an abused wife. I don't have to deal with this abuse anymore.

Please pray, because I left.
 

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I am an abused wife. It took me nearly 8 years to come to terms with that. Physically, emotionally, mentally... I'm abused, and I've allowed it to continue. And he does it all in God's name. The first time he was arrested was July of '01. I was 20 years old, with a one year old. I was terrified of being alone. I cried and pleaded with the judge and tried to convince him that it was my fault. In the summer of 2005, while I was in Seattle visiting family, I got a phone call from the local police, informing me that they were doing an investigation of him for child abuse because of massive bruising on his behind. I convinced myself that my son must have done something really bad. He had cheated on me a few months before and I didn't want to jepordize us recently getting back together. He cheated again in Nov. of 2006. We didn't speak for a couple of weeks. Then, in front of my son he held me to the floor and punched me six times. I got the strength to leave. I left.

I'm now in the middle of a huge custody battle. The children he wanted me to give up for adoption so we could have our marriage alone, are the subject of the divorce. He is trying to get my kids taken away from me and turned over to the state so he doesn't have to pay child support. But I left.

He claims to be a Christian. He throws God in my face and justifies his behavior by claiming he has visions of me and my "demons". He feels because I've been on anti-depressants since he cheated on me the first time, that I'm unfit to be a mother. But I left.

I'm alone and with my children. God is my father and I'm ok. I'm an abused wife. I don't have to deal with this abuse anymore.

Please pray, because I left.
I am so glad you got out of there. There is no reason for any man wheather he CLAIMS to be a Christian or not to beat his wife and children. He is a control freak. Stay away and DO NOT GO BACK EVER!!!!!! He will become lonely at some point and claim he is a changed man. DONT believe it.
God Bless you and protect you
 
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4Christ2

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Give it all to the Lord. It is a very difficult thing to leave an abusive marriage, especially where children are involved. You are to be commended for having the courage to get away when you did. I stayed in my abusive marriage for 25 years!

This is the time for you to get to know Jesus. Spend time in His word and prayer. Ask Him to intervene in the situation regarding your children and your husband. With Jesus, all things are possible...even giving your husband a new heart - a heart solely fixed on Jesus.

Be wise. Be vigilent. Be loved. Jesus loves you very much and will bring forth good things when you believe.

Sis 4C
 
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