Come Together

[kyzar]

I recently came across a young couple (like myself and my fiance) who have just (6 months or so) gotten married. They have had a few problems deciding on whose church to go to, but have agreed on his after much prayer and discussion. The 'problem' with this is that they still have different beliefs even thought they go to the same church (you can't ignore 20 years of learning in 6 months)...

Their solution. Rather than fighting and arguing about it, they have come to an agreement that, yes, they both believe the fundamentals of Chrisitianity. The other teachings that they disagree on however are going to be used as bible study topics aiming at building their relationship together and mroe importantly their relationship with God. Hopefully they can come to an agreeance on these topics, but if not, then what a great idea for a constructive useful bible study!!!

 

[Velcro]

My husband and I grew up in a cult. I got kicked out a few years ago, and started attending the congregation I attend now. A little over a year after that, he left it, searched for a place to attend, then joined the church he is in now. I knew before they kicked me out that we both carried a lot of bad doctrine and twisted ideas; he knew the same not long before he left.

We use debate to help us to shake loose all those cobwebs and their accompanying spiders with all eight legs. Initially, we debated a lot, but now only occasionally as thing arise. Debate is a great tool, because it force us to be sure our thought matches the Bible, and if one of us is off, the other often catches it and brings it up.

Debate, however, is only for the mature and those determined to act in a mature manner, not giving in to anger, derision, and underhanded tactics. Debate must be handled in such a way that no one walks away upset, and if the same conclusion is not met, the debaters remain friends without rancor. Debate demands that one learn to say, "Oops! I was wrong and you were right" -- a healthy statement only about 1% of the population can grasp.

(By way of explanation, when I was kicked out, I immediately became a member of a congregation I was already affiliated with, in my search for Truth. Unfortunately, the service times are such that he cannot attend, so he had to find another place. I could never be a member there, because I disagree with several of their teachings, but it is a good place anyway.)

 

[ZiSunka]

What a good solution!!!!!!!

 

[integra evan]

Great solution. And, it's basically what these forums are for, too!

 

[22 Degree Halo]

I am Baptist and my husband is Catholic. We go to mass on Saturdays and to an FBC on Sundays.