Comandment Confusion.

[GarrickBrewer]

I am having a little bit of a quandry with the ten comandments. Most specificly: though shalt no lie, and though shalt honor thy mother and father.

My problem is is when my parents ask me questions sometimes, the truthful answer would dishonor them, and to honor them I would have to lie. I am not entirely sure what to do, I would apreciate some advice.

 

[Cribstyl]

I am having a little bit of a quandry with the ten comandments. Most specificly: though shalt no lie, and though shalt honor thy mother and father.

My problem is is when my parents ask me questions sometimes, the truthful answer would dishonor them, and to honor them I would have to lie. I am not entirely sure what to do, I would apreciate some advice.

That's does not sound right at all. The truth is, YES, they would be disappointed if you did something wrong. The only way you would be showing honor is if you tell them the truth. The honor is to recognize that God holds you accountable to your mother and father.
By you trusting God's word in that matter, God would quickly send angels to help you recover from your mistakes. But when someone lies, they begin living in a lie that they have to hide until it blows up on them.
Sin does have consequences but the soon you give in to what's right and what God calls honorable, the sooner you can turn arround and do what is right.


God calls us to "confess to our faults to another" so that when the truth comes out we're found walking in the light, rather than hiding in a web of lies to prevent consequences.

God bless

 

[stormdancer0]

There are many ways to tell the truth. Some cause pain, others cause rejoicing, even when the facts are the same.

 

[GarrickBrewer]

No, its not things that I have done wrong, its when we get in an argument and they ask the question "what do you want to say" I try to get them to drop it but they make me say it and its direspectful, and if i said anything different i would be lying.

 

[stormdancer0]

My father has a mental illness that makes it very difficult to be honest with him. He gets very angry if he is told that he's acting childish, or bullying, or such. There's always a way.

I used to use the phrase "her perceptions." (His anger usually was directed to my mom)
I would say, "When you say this, it seems to mom that you're saying that. She perceives things differently than you do. Your train of thought is not clear to her."

When put like this, he understands that people react differently to the same situations, and others' perceptions may or may not be the same as his. Neither is 100% accurate.

Try telling them that you think they should repeat the argument, only arguing the other side. Or ask each one, "Why do you think he feels that way? What do you think she was trying to get you to understand when she said that?" That will clarify the issues for them, and get you off the hook. I hated being the mediator between my parents, but I was, from the age of 8. I'll keep you in prayer.

 

[visionary]

I am having a little bit of a quandry with the ten comandments. Most specificly: though shalt no lie, and though shalt honor thy mother and father.

My problem is is when my parents ask me questions sometimes, the truthful answer would dishonor them, and to honor them I would have to lie. I am not entirely sure what to do, I would apreciate some advice.

Yeshua often answered a question with a question or with a story..

 

[dayhiker]

I can't think of an example that fits your situation. Can you give me one that you are experiencing?

 

[lilmissmontana]

I am having a little bit of a quandry with the ten comandments. Most specificly: though shalt no lie, and though shalt honor thy mother and father.

My problem is is when my parents ask me questions sometimes, the truthful answer would dishonor them, and to honor them I would have to lie. I am not entirely sure what to do, I would apreciate some advice.

we're to honor our parents ... that our days in the land may be long ... that part is often left out ... first, the part about honoring our parents ... that means to respect where you came from and how you got here ... it doesn't mean to lie ... God's Word is not contrary ... only the way we see it ... there is no way to justify lying from this verse ... it doesn't even mean we have to love them ... just to honor the fact that the Lord gave them to birth us ... He must have had good reason ...

the part about our days being long ... that means that our generations should carry forth ...

it seems to me if you 'have' to lie to honor them then it's something not good to begin with ... did they bring you up to lie ... if not, wouldn't you be dishonoring them just by lying ... no, lying is not justifiable in any case I'm aware of ... there must be another way or another something to this ... the Lord says He always makes a way ...

just seems there's more to this ...

jmo
lilmiss

 

[GarrickBrewer]

My parents and I dont get along sometimes, we will get in an argument, and they will say tell me if you think i am wrong, if i say what i think and tell them they are wrong I dishnor them, if i dont say what i think i am lying

 

[visionary]

Well phrased with honor and respect stated first helps.