College confusion

[faithgirl]

First off, I am not leaving for college for another 2 years seeings I am only 16. I already know where I am going to college. I willl be going to a community college while living in an apartment for 2 years then transferring to a bigger school to get a nursing degree. Well, my friend is going to do the same thing and be my roomate. She already has a boyfriend and they will definatly get married most likely. I am scared I won't meet anybody and I will be in her shadows. She is a cute blonde and I don't know I just am scared I won't meet anybody. Any tips or something?

 

[plum]

Well actually, one serious tip I have:
don't become roommates/flatmates with friends. it's great to have roomies that become friends, but in all of my experience (4 years of living with others at college, being staff at camp, a job where i lived with co-workers, etc.) I have not once seen a rooming relationship work out well when the folks were friends first before becoming roommates. I speak from personal experience with one friend as well.
So I guess I'll be straight with you: don't decide on a roommate now. it's too early! and also, don't room with her if you find it ever becoming a problem.

 

[Labradorlight]

I'm in the same situation..my friends are in relationships and i'm not......I'm going into my 3rd year of university and have been living with friends and there has been no problems...it just depends on the friendship i guess...take care

 

[seamstressfortheband]

I must say i also think it's a tad too soon to be picking out all of the details of college. Personally, I thought I was going to go to one college from around the age of 10, and i wound up going to a completely different college. and i LOVE it. i also agree a/b not necessarily rooming with friends. sometimes it can work out, (although no times it has come immediately to mind...) but quite often not so much. just pray long and hard a/b it first.

 

[Solitaire]

College is different to high school. Generally, you can start with a clean slate. Hardly anybody will know you and your friend. So if you end up living in her shadows, it will be by your choice.

Use college to get out and make new friends, join different clubs and pursue your own interest. By all means don't neglect your friend, but you don't have to do everything she does, and you don't have to live in her shadows.

And I agree with missju about the roomate thing. Very few friendships are able to survive a shared living situation. Maybe take the opportunity to make new friends and establish your own identity by not rooming with her?

Good luck