Hello!
My boyfriend is new to the city that I live in and he's looking for a church where he will find great community and worship. I have been going to this one church for several years now. He's not really into the church that I go to. He's given it a shot for a couple of months. He's talked about being "called to a church" and maybe we are being called to two separate churches. If this is the case...then maybe our relationship shouldn't advance. He says that maybe things will change and that he will fit in at the church I am at right now...but I'm not sure.
I know if it is God's will for us to be together that somehow this will all get sorted out. I'm totally up for going to a new church but I don't know. I don't really understand what it means to be "called to a church" I go to the church where I'm at right now because it was convenient at the time...they had good community (at least I thought they did). Maybe it is different because I am a woman? The men there aren't exactly outgoing and it's not good for the men that are trying to find a church where they belong.
Should we try to find churches separately? Should I be going with him? He's very introverted and he finds it difficult to introduce himself to whomever. He comes from more of a Charismatic background and mine is more conservative. I'm extremely open to new experiences and ways of worship. I'm not feeling like I am compromising at all when searching for a new church, if this is what needs to be done to keep our relationship together. I feel like I can fit in at almost any place. Maybe this is isn't about fitting in? I want Christ to come first and not the relationship. This is sort of our first relationship hurdle and it's been a long time since I've been in a relationship.
If you have any other questions please ask. I tried to fit in as much as I could.
My boyfriend is new to the city that I live in and he's looking for a church where he will find great community and worship. I have been going to this one church for several years now. He's not really into the church that I go to. He's given it a shot for a couple of months. He's talked about being "called to a church" and maybe we are being called to two separate churches. If this is the case...then maybe our relationship shouldn't advance. He says that maybe things will change and that he will fit in at the church I am at right now...but I'm not sure.
I know if it is God's will for us to be together that somehow this will all get sorted out. I'm totally up for going to a new church but I don't know. I don't really understand what it means to be "called to a church" I go to the church where I'm at right now because it was convenient at the time...they had good community (at least I thought they did). Maybe it is different because I am a woman? The men there aren't exactly outgoing and it's not good for the men that are trying to find a church where they belong.
Should we try to find churches separately? Should I be going with him? He's very introverted and he finds it difficult to introduce himself to whomever. He comes from more of a Charismatic background and mine is more conservative. I'm extremely open to new experiences and ways of worship. I'm not feeling like I am compromising at all when searching for a new church, if this is what needs to be done to keep our relationship together. I feel like I can fit in at almost any place. Maybe this is isn't about fitting in? I want Christ to come first and not the relationship. This is sort of our first relationship hurdle and it's been a long time since I've been in a relationship.
If you have any other questions please ask. I tried to fit in as much as I could.
