christmas

[hasnoname]

So...I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months now. In my past relationship I was at a point where it was not necessarily appropriate, but given how 'high schoolish' the relationship was I could get away with getting her jewelry.

This relationship is different...and I am wiser. I want more than anything to guard her heart and i dont think jewelry is appropriate yet. I dont want to defraud her with false promises...etc...

So I am kinda stuck...I have no idea what to give her. I want something that will show her I care for her, but not something that is generally associated with love. Because as I care for her greatly...more than I have cared for anyone before...I know love is something special and we are not there yet...no matter how much I feel we are. Any ideas?

So far these things are suggestions/ideas that I have:

Clothes (I think this is horrible...but it was her ex who suggested it...and it was funny because he got her a sweater...and she hated it)
Books (when we were talking about gifts she says she always gets books...so there is no way i would get her a book)
CD (not personal enough)
Stuffed animal (the best idea yet, but too cliche...way too cliche...I want something special)

In the end I will come up with something, but I find it is best if I generally have ideas to jump start my thinking. For her b-day I made her a cd...but I wrote her a letter with the lyrics to the first two songs on that cd...Every Little Thing by Hawk Nelson and Heavens Missing an Angel by 98 degrees. As far as being personal...my standards are very high. And of course roses.

Any ideas...and thanks in advance for the help.

 

[winglovesall]

Well, Christmas isn't really materialism. But you should share your love with her, share how much you love her and communicate to her - show her how much you do love.

 

[Inperfected]

A special day out.
Free hug coupons (these are great!)
Cd she REALLY wants and can't find (try the internet, just done it for my fiances birthday)
Soft toy

Or a few cheaper sweet things all in a gift box (done this with normal christmas pressies. Ie candy cane, money (5c coins), voucher, soft toy, choc bar, i love you thingy, and a painted rock (coz he told me to get him a rock).

 

[winglovesall]

Yeah - Imperfected has some very good ideas but yeah - really - share your love.

Christmas is about the birth of Jesus though.

 

[AngylBelle]

Ok, you stated in your OP that you don't want anything that will lead her too quickly to the *love* concept, but want to let her know how much she means to you and how much you care about her, correct?

I know you mentioned two things that you specifically didn't want to do, but I see nothing wrong with a simple piece of jewelry in a box held in the hands of a teddy bear. Of course, STAY AWAY FROM RINGS, as that could give her the wrong idea of the state of your present relationship, but a charm bracelet I think would be a great idea. You could give her one charm to go on it, something representing her specific tastes, and leave a little note with it saying that as your relationship grows and develops, new charms will be added. Then for anniversaries, birthdays, whatever, giving her a charm for her bracelet can be *your* thing. Anyway, I think it's a cute idea!

Also, how about a picture frame? If you have any pictures of the two of you, you could put it in there, and if you don't, put a sheet of paper in the frame with I.O.U written on it, letting her know you two will get a picture/snap shot taken for the frame.

You could also make her something. Are you creative or artsy in any way? One year back in a high school, a boyfriend made me a bouquet of paper roses because he couldn't afford to get me a dozen. It was very sweet and thoughtful I thought. Or you could make a book about your first date. There are plenty of places, like Kinko's, that will bind it for you.

Or how about a Christmas box? Inside is a gift, with another wrapped present, and inside that present is a gift with another wrapped present, so on and so forth. This could be special and fun!

Hope I was able to help. If I think of anything else I will post them for you.

 

[hasnoname]

Thanks for the ideas...

 

[winglovesall]

Not a problem, bro - we're here to help!

 

[Adela]

I also suggest a nice picture frame with the two of you in it. A necklace would be a great idea, that was my husband's first gift to me when we first started dating and I still wear it. Another gift my husband got me that I love is a really nice photo album. It's really pretty on the outside and holds 300 photographs and we've got our names on the inside cover. It's only for pictures of the two of us and our experiences together from the beginning of our relationship to now.

Just put some thought into it. Girls love gifts from the heart.

 

[KristianJ]

I also suggest a nice picture frame with the two of you in it. A necklace would be a great idea, that was my husband's first gift to me when we first started dating and I still wear it. Another gift my husband got me that I love is a really nice photo album. It's really pretty on the outside and holds 300 photographs and we've got our names on the inside cover. It's only for pictures of the two of us and our experiences together from the beginning of our relationship to now.

Just put some thought into it. Girls love gifts from the heart.

I must keep the album idea in mind - I've had ideas of doing such a thing for some time now for personal "reflection".

I also agree with the frame idea - I have a framed pic of Lauren and I, and she has one of us that I gave her for her birthday in March.

 

[FaithfulServant]

How about making a picture frame? Your local craft store will have one you can decorate. This way it looks like you spent time and thought on it. I've done this before.

My passion is cooking? Does she like to cook? I know a great website with REALLY CUTE recipe cards. I bought a photo album to turn into a recipe album and bought some of the recipe cards. Lol, for Christmas this year I asked my fiance for this cute apron I found online

Write her a sweet note and include a big container of her her favorite candies you picked out and put in a nice looking container/basket

Get her a wall calender of something that she likes! Kittens? lol That what mine is haha Childish maybe but I cant have pets in my apartment so they are my substitute.

A prayer journal? Christian bookstores sell nice journals that have verses written on each or some of the pages.

Gotta go to class now

 

[MN John]

What about a custom calendar with a picture of you or the two of you on each month. This implies that you're there for the long run.

 

[joseph6791]

i have been dating my girlfriend for four months and i got her a necklace with three hearts On it(yellow white and pink gold)but like you said youy dontthink you should get her jewelery
if i were you i would find what her favorit thing to do is like playing music or whatever she likes and get her something that has to do with that
she will love it and it will show how much you love her