My Confirmation name was kind of chosen for me, in a way....
You back in the day when I was Confirmed, Sister Andrew (our confirmation teacher) said that our chosen Saints names must be of the same gender that we are. I being the rebel that I was said yeah, ok....well I choose St. Francis...because of his love for animals and peaceful ways. I studied him and wrote a long paper on him....which I failed on, because he was a male Saint. Sister Andrew told me that I would choose a female Saints name, or she would choose one for me....well, I could have followed in St. Francis peaceful ways....but I chose not to and when it came time to be Confirmed, she asked me who I chose and I didn't answer her, I said she would just have to wait and see....so when Cardinal Deardon....yes, we had the Cardinal!! asked me the name I chose, I started to say Francis and Sister Andrew jumped in and said she chose Mary!!! And that is my story....I was quite angry, until I really thought about it and I realized that I had the name of Jesus' mom for my Confirmation name!!
And, Sister Andrew and I never really got along very well...we were both very hard headed, but at my graduation, she was in tears to see me leave! We kept in touch and I loved her very much until she died a few years after my graduation....she was actually a great person! And...times have changed and most parishes will allow you to choose either a female or male saints name, as long as you truly want to use them as an example of how to live your life on earth!
God bless you and I will keep you in my prayers!!