Prayer Request Childless at 28

[CAR356]

Hi everyone,

Like I posted in the "I'm New" section, I'm motherless at 28 and hoping that faith and spirituality will let me have the peace I have been seeking. I'm sad that I don't have the family that I have always dreamed of however know there are other options to fulfilling those. For the latter I know time is what it will take to become out of debt and be where we want to be before seeking those options. There is the void in my life of caring for a human being and seeing everyone else have a child deeply saddens me. I'm praying for the peace that I seek to allow me to get through the days and not allow the depression to take a hold of me as I watch everyone around me have children even those who should never have kids have kids that will not grow up properly. I know God and Jesus have a plan for me but I'm not sure what that plan is just yet.

 

[BelleC]

I had my only child at 40. I spent many long years married and hoping for a child and trying to have peace even if that never happened. Having a child brought some peace in one way, frustrations and worries in other ways. What if something happens her? Will she be upset to be an only child someday, lonely, or overly spoiled? What if something happens to me or my husband? Living in a future of what ifs isn't really living. We have to overcome the temptation to dwell on what might or might not happen.

We have to remind ourselves that God is love. His perfect love drives out fear if we let it. God does have plans for us. Plans to prosper and not to harm. I pray right now you will be able to be filled with the Holy Spirit and God's perfect peace.

 

[turkle]

I'm a little confused. You said that you are "motherless", meaning that you don't have a mother. But you go on to say that you want a child, so you are childless as well. Are you struggling with both issues at the same time?

28 is still very young. I had my children later, and I'm very glad I did, because by the time I did, I had a chance to mature. This made me a much better mother than I would have at a younger age. It's good that you are taking care of financial responsibilities prior to having a child so that when you do, you will be less stressed financially and will be able to care for the child better.

I do know what it's like to long for a child for years before it actually happens, but I think you'll find that in the end, it's a good thing. Hold on.

 

[CAR356]

I meant childless. I realized that later and haven't changed it. Thank you for your wisdom.