Channeling Romantic Desires

[gentlewhisper]

I'm a 43 year old guy, very easy going and open to hear all things (at least once !!). I am currently single and I am not sure if I am called to be such or if I am just being tested.
The Lord saved me in 1979 and I haven't always been His best son. I was married for 4 years (1984-1988), had 2 sons... both passed away. [One at 17, suicide ; one at 6 weeks, baby's death ]. Since then, I have been engaged though it ended and have been in a few relationships, not always Christian.

My dilemma is this:

I LOVE romance. I mean.......... Wow!! I enjoy making dinner for my princess, like to hold her hand under a moonlit sky, enjoy cuddling and kissing. When I am with no one, all I seem to do is fantasize about Romance.... sometimes even carry it out with a stranger. I do not know the "answer"... psychologically or otherwise, but when I am in Love, or being held often, or sharing intimate moments with a like minded Angel, I can think straight !! I do not get anxious; I do not get edgy or irritable. I AM myself.... layed back and sweet, encouraging and inspiring hope. But when I do not get a regular dose of affection or romance, I am a lost puppy in the subway station.

Am I alone, People or can someone relate to this???

 

[LadyDJ]

I don't think you're alone, although I'm not the best candidate to relate to what you're talking about since not one relationship I've ever been in included any sort of "romance"...I've long since figured that wasn't meant to be something I would get to experience and have dealt with the longing for such a relationship by accepting things as they are and just living my life.

 

[grace4sds]

Excuse me for being bold.....Maybe God is trying to get your attention. Don't you think He feels like a lost puppy in a subway station when we make gods of other things (including romance) and we don't pay attention to and give Him the time He deserves.

I love romance and all the things you mentioned but there is so much more to life also. Don't you see where you could be very dependent in a relationship and put really high expectations on someone?

God accepts and loves you just as you are. Once you find His love and acceptance you will not feel like a lost puppy in a subway and you will be free to truly love someone.

Blessings.

 

[Rand1956]

I'm a 43 year old guy, very easy going and open to hear all things (at least once !!). I am currently single and I am not sure if I am called to be such or if I am just being tested. ...
My dilemma is this: I LOVE romance. I mean.......... Wow!! I enjoy making dinner for my princess, like to hold her hand under a moonlit sky, enjoy cuddling and kissing. When I am with no one, all I seem to do is fantasize about Romance.... sometimes even carry it out with a stranger. I do not know the "answer"... psychologically or otherwise, but when I am in Love, or being held often, or sharing intimate moments with a like minded Angel, I can think straight !! I do not get anxious; I do not get edgy or irritable. I AM myself.... layed back and sweet, encouraging and inspiring hope. But when I do not get a regular dose of affection or romance, I am a lost puppy in the subway station.

Am I alone, People or can someone relate to this???

I can relate to it in that romance can be fun and fulfilling with the right person. But I'd be careful not to let your romantic tendencies overcome your good judgment; romance is often called intoxicating, and it can be. Just be aware of that power, and don't abuse it. I don't think I'm exaggerating when I say that a romantic person can be a very powerful influence on someone. So just keep other people's hearts foremost in your thoughts, and you'll be fine. ... And honestly, most of us would like a "regular dose of affection or romance", so you're definitely not alone in that! ... And, as was said earlier, it might be that God is simply asking for your attention in this way. He's there whenever we're lonely and is always willing to listen.
Good luck,
Randall