Changing your physical image

[Zita123]

Being bi-polar, and all the good stuff that comes along with it, I have often thought that " if only " I could have a tummy tuck and botox and fat put in my top lip or even breast implants. " if only " I could look like a movie star, " if only ". I often think that it would make me so much better and I will never think that I will ever be depressed again!! " if only " that was true! I started out just wanting a tummy tuck. Then everything else started. I try so hard to think, GOD made me like this and this is what I am supposed to look like. To be honest my family goes crazy over it all, sometimes I obsess in it. They constantly tell me I'm beautiful inside and out. I really pray I could believe that, but, I'm 42 a size 6. 5 feet and 130 lbs.!! Having 4 children, guess where the extra pounds went? I always where long shirts to cover my belly. Oh well, I could go on forever about this.. ANY INPUT???
GOD BLESS TO ALL!!
Zita123

 

[Alive again]

Your "belly" is the mark of a mother-a source of joy and place to celebrate the love, the memories, everything that God says is wonderful about bringing new life into His creation!!!! Remind yourself of this everytime you see it. Remember-- let only God decide if you are loveable or not!!! In some cultures and times in this old world, women were looked down on for not having that "belly". I hope we can come to a time when we all learn how to rejoice, whether mother's or not, in who God treated us to be!!!! And none of will be looked down on!!!

Easier said then done many times, but it is a process of changing you rthoughts in your mind to agree with God's truth-"renewing you mind" and "taking every thought captive"

 

[Zita123]

I do remmeber reading about those times even Marilyn Monroe was a size 10!! She was a sexgoddess. Why can't people stop the magazines with just skin and bones!! Everytime I pick one up that's the most important thing in the book.I don't remember if I told you about the author you gave me? I gave an e-mail to my husband on one of the authors words. He hasn't said anything yet.
Hope it will turn out good!!
Love ya!!
Zita

Your "belly" is the mark of a mother-a source of joy and place to celebrate the love, the memories, everything that God says is wonderful about bringing new life into His creation!!!! Remind yourself of this everytime you see it. Remember-- let only God decide if you are loveable or not!!! In some cultures and times in this old world, women were looked down on for not having that "belly". I hope we can come to a time when we all learn how to rejoice, whether mother's or not, in who God treated us to be!!!! And none of will be looked down on!!!

Easier said then done many times, but it is a process of changing you rthoughts in your mind to agree with God's truth-"renewing you mind" and "taking every thought captive"

 

[invisiblebabe]

I'm one of those skinny girls... you know, 5'7" and a size one. I still feel like I'm too big when I wear certain outfits.

My point in telling you this is not to make you feel bad for being bigger than me (on the contrary... I've had guys tell me I was too skinny for them.... and I've never heard of a guy telling a girl your size that she was too heavy. a size 6 is still small.). My point is, even if you did lose the 15 lbs or whatever, would you be satisfied? I can't read your mind, but my guess is probably not. I know 'cause I've been there.... first I wanted contacts, and then I got them and was happy for awhile. Then I wanted to dye my hair, so I did. Then I wanted braces, and same thing.... I'm never satisfied. Of course, that could have something to do with having the curse of acne and acne scars that haven't gone away in 10 years.... but yeah, you get the idea.

Nothing wrong with making the most of your physical assets, either, and trying to minimize your less than ideal points (ie wearing longer shirts). Eat healthy food, exercise, do sit-ups, buy some sort of tummy control top to help too, and wear heels (you'll be a bit taller, and the line being slightly longer will also make you look slightly thinner). As for wanting breast implants, buy a padded bra. Those are just as good as the real thing, plus they'll never sag! (haha, I'm a 32A or 32B, and trust me, padded bras work).

You might also just be bored with your current look.... a new hairstyle or hair color would help with that, as would going to one of those free makeup consultation things at the mall and finding a new way to do your makeup.

Maybe these things won't make you look "perfect" (after all, we don't have airbrushes in real life ), but I guarantee you will feel more confident about your appearance.

Blessings
Kayli

 

[loves_cairns]

Dearest Zita, I am blessing you with 100 blessings. You have to be gorgeous!! I think you're right about God making us the way we are and loving ourselves. I just find it hard to do when I am wearing a size 16 and used to be a 10. I am trying very hard to do what I'm saying. But I am very proud of you and you should be too!! Blessings Beth

 

[Alive again]

Okay. I cna understand where you are all coming from!!! I used to be a size 14 and felt very overweight all my life-not to mention ugly. I had a brother who told me from the time I was 10 or 11 that I was fat, ugly and no one would ever love me repeatedly. somehow I gave his words the power to define my life and become my reality. I have since seen picture of myself at that age and realized HE WAS LYING!!!!! I din't even have curves!!!! I was a tomboy and taller than even the boys until the fifth grade. Turned out my brother was afraid of me because I could beat him at some games and things. So I have lived of life of believing a lie. I day i lookeed around and realized that my response and choices had made what my bro said about me come dagerously close to being true. I had in desperation of never being asked taken the first offer that came along. So I married a man that ended up being moderately controlling and verbally abusive for the first 20+ years of our married life. I have chosen to remain in this marriage due to major changes, but although the abuse and controlling have basically stopped. It is still as major struggle to keep a hard boundary against that on somedays. My marriage will never by the loving partnership I always envisioned. (This has something to do with my encouragement to other women who are in abusive marrriages to GET OUT!!!_but that is several other chapters). Then I allowed this belief to hurt me and became more and more depressed until I was unable to work, gradually gaining weight the whole time-after all I was fat, ugly and unloveable-did I ever really expect anything to be different. So Last fall I topped out with a weight in the range of 250-260, my size in the 30-32 range.

Finally I started taking control of my choices and I have lost 50 pounds and am down to almost the 200# mark.

What have I learned along the way???? Have any of you meet very many people who actually like how they LOOK???? I HAVEN'T!!!!! WOW! What a realization! The really pretty ones by my definition and cultures are just as unhappy, feel just as insecure and complain about their bodies to with my lips are too big, my ears stick out to far.

THAT IS WHEN I REALIZED THAT WE HAVE ALLOWED SATAN AN INCREDIBLE TOOL IN OUR LIVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Where in God's word does God say we have to look a certain way to be beautiful????????? It says we are created in HIS LIKENESS!!! And That HE (God) said "It is GOOD!!!" WOW!!! Anything other than that is a LIE!!!

Thus you have seen me post around the forum the words-"ONly let God decide whether you are loveable or not" everything else is a lie!!!

SO did God quit loving me when I was a child of 10?????? NOOOOOO!!!!
Did HE quit loving me when I was in my 40"s and 250+ pounds???? NOOOO!!!!!
Did God quit loving me when I was a sinner with an ugly black heart???? NOOOOO!!!!!!!! HE SENT HIS SON TO DIE ON THE CROSS WITH ME!!!!!!!!!!!

So I am trying to remember these truths now. I still suffer with the same feelings. I just now know the truth to help me fight this battle. The truth of God's word. The truth of the choice I made knowingly and unknowingly. And guess what-people like Jamie Lee Curtis started coming out with the truth about photo retouching and other false manipulations and others then stepped forward and we learned more about the unhelthyness of eating patterns of models and I began to realize that the stars and models can't even live up to thse imaginary standards in our culture because of the power of these lies that pervade our culture-that we have to look and act a certain way-because we are created!!!! So none of us are happy and no of us can truly achieve "the look". and if we did IT WOULDS CHANGE!!!!!!

Blessings on your day! And sorry for the long drawn out post!!!

Just my thoughts for the day!

 

[Zita123]

Like I said before , I know if I get 1 thing done then I'll want 2 and 3 and I'm losing my home because we have no money I can't imagine taking a huge loan out ( just to make my outsides look good ) and adding another huge bill!!! Thank you to all for your thoughts!
BLESS EVERYONE!!!
Zita

Okay. I cna understand where you are all coming from!!! I used to be a size 14 and felt very overweight all my life-not to mention ugly. I had a brother who told me from the time I was 10 or 11 that I was fat, ugly and no one would ever love me repeatedly. somehow I gave his words the power to define my life and become my reality. I have since seen picture of myself at that age and realized HE WAS LYING!!!!! I din't even have curves!!!! I was a tomboy and taller than even the boys until the fifth grade. Turned out my brother was afraid of me because I could beat him at some games and things. So I have lived of life of believing a lie. I day i lookeed around and realized that my response and choices had made what my bro said about me come dagerously close to being true. I had in desperation of never being asked taken the first offer that came along. So I married a man that ended up being moderately controlling and verbally abusive for the first 20+ years of our married life. I have chosen to remain in this marriage due to major changes, but although the abuse and controlling have basically stopped. It is still as major struggle to keep a hard boundary against that on somedays. My marriage will never by the loving partnership I always envisioned. (This has something to do with my encouragement to other women who are in abusive marrriages to GET OUT!!!_but that is several other chapters). Then I allowed this belief to hurt me and became more and more depressed until I was unable to work, gradually gaining weight the whole time-after all I was fat, ugly and unloveable-did I ever really expect anything to be different. So Last fall I topped out with a weight in the range of 250-260, my size in the 30-32 range.

Finally I started taking control of my choices and I have lost 50 pounds and am down to almost the 200# mark.

What have I learned along the way???? Have any of you meet very many people who actually like how they LOOK???? I HAVEN'T!!!!! WOW! What a realization! The really pretty ones by my definition and cultures are just as unhappy, feel just as insecure and complain about their bodies to with my lips are too big, my ears stick out to far.

THAT IS WHEN I REALIZED THAT WE HAVE ALLOWED SATAN AN INCREDIBLE TOOL IN OUR LIVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Where in God's word does God say we have to look a certain way to be beautiful????????? It says we are created in HIS LIKENESS!!! And That HE (God) said "It is GOOD!!!" WOW!!! Anything other than that is a LIE!!!

Thus you have seen me post around the forum the words-"ONly let God decide whether you are loveable or not" everything else is a lie!!!

SO did God quit loving me when I was a child of 10?????? NOOOOOO!!!!
Did HE quit loving me when I was in my 40"s and 250+ pounds???? NOOOO!!!!!
Did God quit loving me when I was a sinner with an ugly black heart???? NOOOOO!!!!!!!! HE SENT HIS SON TO DIE ON THE CROSS WITH ME!!!!!!!!!!!

So I am trying to remember these truths now. I still suffer with the same feelings. I just now know the truth to help me fight this battle. The truth of God's word. The truth of the choice I made knowingly and unknowingly. And guess what-people like Jamie Lee Curtis started coming out with the truth about photo retouching and other false manipulations and others then stepped forward and we learned more about the unhelthyness of eating patterns of models and I began to realize that the stars and models can't even live up to thse imaginary standards in our culture because of the power of these lies that pervade our culture-that we have to look and act a certain way-because we are created!!!! So none of us are happy and no of us can truly achieve "the look". and if we did IT WOULDS CHANGE!!!!!!

Blessings on your day! And sorry for the long drawn out post!!!

Just my thoughts for the day!

 

[Zita123]

Just want to tell you " I AM VERY PROUD OF THE WEIGHT YOU LOST!!! I know for a fact that you are very beautiful! When someone is on the inside then it shows right on through to the outside!!!
Zita123

Okay. I cna understand where you are all coming from!!! I used to be a size 14 and felt very overweight all my life-not to mention ugly. I had a brother who told me from the time I was 10 or 11 that I was fat, ugly and no one would ever love me repeatedly. somehow I gave his words the power to define my life and become my reality. I have since seen picture of myself at that age and realized HE WAS LYING!!!!! I din't even have curves!!!! I was a tomboy and taller than even the boys until the fifth grade. Turned out my brother was afraid of me because I could beat him at some games and things. So I have lived of life of believing a lie. I day i lookeed around and realized that my response and choices had made what my bro said about me come dagerously close to being true. I had in desperation of never being asked taken the first offer that came along. So I married a man that ended up being moderately controlling and verbally abusive for the first 20+ years of our married life. I have chosen to remain in this marriage due to major changes, but although the abuse and controlling have basically stopped. It is still as major struggle to keep a hard boundary against that on somedays. My marriage will never by the loving partnership I always envisioned. (This has something to do with my encouragement to other women who are in abusive marrriages to GET OUT!!!_but that is several other chapters). Then I allowed this belief to hurt me and became more and more depressed until I was unable to work, gradually gaining weight the whole time-after all I was fat, ugly and unloveable-did I ever really expect anything to be different. So Last fall I topped out with a weight in the range of 250-260, my size in the 30-32 range.

Finally I started taking control of my choices and I have lost 50 pounds and am down to almost the 200# mark.

What have I learned along the way???? Have any of you meet very many people who actually like how they LOOK???? I HAVEN'T!!!!! WOW! What a realization! The really pretty ones by my definition and cultures are just as unhappy, feel just as insecure and complain about their bodies to with my lips are too big, my ears stick out to far.

THAT IS WHEN I REALIZED THAT WE HAVE ALLOWED SATAN AN INCREDIBLE TOOL IN OUR LIVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Where in God's word does God say we have to look a certain way to be beautiful????????? It says we are created in HIS LIKENESS!!! And That HE (God) said "It is GOOD!!!" WOW!!! Anything other than that is a LIE!!!

Thus you have seen me post around the forum the words-"ONly let God decide whether you are loveable or not" everything else is a lie!!!

SO did God quit loving me when I was a child of 10?????? NOOOOOO!!!!
Did HE quit loving me when I was in my 40"s and 250+ pounds???? NOOOO!!!!!
Did God quit loving me when I was a sinner with an ugly black heart???? NOOOOO!!!!!!!! HE SENT HIS SON TO DIE ON THE CROSS WITH ME!!!!!!!!!!!

So I am trying to remember these truths now. I still suffer with the same feelings. I just now know the truth to help me fight this battle. The truth of God's word. The truth of the choice I made knowingly and unknowingly. And guess what-people like Jamie Lee Curtis started coming out with the truth about photo retouching and other false manipulations and others then stepped forward and we learned more about the unhelthyness of eating patterns of models and I began to realize that the stars and models can't even live up to thse imaginary standards in our culture because of the power of these lies that pervade our culture-that we have to look and act a certain way-because we are created!!!! So none of us are happy and no of us can truly achieve "the look". and if we did IT WOULDS CHANGE!!!!!!

Blessings on your day! And sorry for the long drawn out post!!!

Just my thoughts for the day!

 

[Alive again]

Yep Zita. I have to admit I am hoping my wewight lose does not happen in my chest so I can get a reduction there and they will look better We are all in the same boat wishing . . .

And we are all working on accepting. some days are better than others, but thankfully God is faithful and unchanging!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!