Celibacy

[Cita]

How do you conquer sexual temptation?

 

[ahava777]

How do you conquer sexual temptation?

Hi Cita,

Key thing is setting proper boundaries. There are a lot of books that will help us understand how to set boundaries in dating, establish boundaries and keep them. Keeping them is the hardest thing to do, but it gets easier if we're committed to it.

Sexual temptation for us women is at its peak when we have a person in mind whom we truly care about. Note that it gets harder as we grow older, as our hormonal levels change as well. When temptation comes, we have a small window of opportunity to lift it up to the Lord. Once the window of opportunity to say no to temptation expires, we're in trouble. The window is usually 5 seconds. also, as a woman, we shouldn't put all the blame on the man. We have to be proactive, too, while always aware that nothing escapes God's eyes. =)

 

[Cita]

Thanks for the encouraging word

 

[bluemarkus]

stop with all the sexual temptation BS: i ve been reading this cr-p now for 10 yrs.

if u want to abstain go live ina place where theres no sexual trigger.
if u want to be in the world and minister and be a smell of life to people.
go get a mate cuz if you dont you wont stand a chance..

happy nu year

st.mark

 

[amenkid777]

confess it and turn away from it. be completely honest with the Lord. everything that is wrong sexually is simply sin (not to lessen how bad it is, I'm saying it's sin, not something that can't be taken care of). Decide it is sin, confess it and turn away from it. don't agree with all of the messages around you that influence you to agree with it. get God's thoughts instead. let His thoughts be your thoughts, get the Word and focus on that instead. don't let even a fraction of sexually sinful thoughts come into your mind, because if you let even one in, that invites the devil to give you even more, and lead you into bondage. there also may be a demon behind any kind of bondage that is there. I would also suggest going and talking to a pastor or minister who can help you. it isn't impossible. the world around you and satan want you to think that, but it is completely possible to live pure. keep praying and asking God for help.

 

[iambren]

1 I think it will always be a struggle so avoid getting in a situation where you are alone with a guy and things could happen. Also date a gentleman/Christian that will help but not guarantee.

2 I was intrigued by this statement:

" Sexual temptation for us women is at its peak when we have a person in mind whom we truly care about."

Sounds true but why? Is it because you want to please the guy more? Or is it that a gal has love/sex linked together?

 

[Daughter of Ararat]

1 I think it will always be a struggle so avoid getting in a situation where you are alone with a guy and things could happen. Also date a gentleman/Christian that will help but not guarantee.

2 I was intrigued by this statement:

" Sexual temptation for us women is at its peak when we have a person in mind whom we truly care about."

Sounds true but why? Is it because you want to please the guy more? Or is it that a gal has love/sex linked together?

I read somewhere that sex is more physical for men and emotional for women.

 

[OGM]

I read somewhere that sex is more physical for men and emotional for women.

You will hear that often. However it is more complicated...

 

[enelya_taralom]

2 I was intrigued by this statement:

" Sexual temptation for us women is at its peak when we have a person in mind whom we truly care about."

Sounds true but why? Is it because you want to please the guy more? Or is it that a gal has love/sex linked together?

I can agree with this statement aswell. The key here is that sexual temptation is at it's peak when... I still have temptations even when I don't have a particular person (I am a sexual being, afterall) but when I do, my desire to give of myself to them and comfort them definitely gets stronger, which is an obvious source of contentsion in a romantic relationship. I think it's wrapped up in that, just wanting to comfort the person, to let them know they are loved. It's like wanting to take someone and wrap them in your arms either out of joy for them or comfort... in addition to seeking what is best for the other, love also seeks the others happiness, and, even though receiving me may not be what is best for them, and it might not even make them happy in a full or long term sense, sex is one of the greatest sources of pleasure, and is widely viewed and accepted as a source and expression of love... so in loving someone, caring for them etc giving of self gets wrapped into that. It's a more intimate form of giving someone a hug out of affection and/ or buying them their favorite food at the end of a rough day... my thoughts, anyway

 

[ButterflyPoette]

I struggle with this too. I am single, want a partner, yet it's hard to find guys who don't expect me to sleep with them if they'll go out with me.