Celibacy???

TanteBelle · Feb 15, 2009

G'day there everybody! I'm new! I've never had deep discussions with older people before (well 21 at the most!), so this is way out of my comfort zone!, but I just wanted to ask this!

I know this was posted on the Teens section; a lot of them still being a bit fickle about everything, you know, "Oh my gosh I can't live without getting married!" So I just wanted to ask you older folks what you all think about it. Someone in the teens stated that it was against what God intended for mankind or something like that.

So how do you feel about it? And are there any on here who are going to remain celibate? Hey, I intend to!!!

E.C. · Feb 15, 2009

My thoughts are this...

If God wishes for me to have a wife and family, He'll let me know in some way, shape or form. That is probably the one thing in my life that I truly desire.

Yet, if God says I need to join a monastery and become a monk, than so be it! I'll survive.

Caoimhe · Feb 15, 2009

The whole concept of marriage doesn't appeal to me because I function better as a single, Christian woman. My free status enables me to enjoy life more and serve God more. While some people are motivated by both Eros and love, I'm more inclined towards Agape. God is my soulmate, my greatest lover. My passion. My soul. How can any man, a mere mortal, compare with the Almighty?

Now, I am aware that the future is in God's hands and none of us can affirm with certainty what our lives will be like down the road. God might have a spouse reserved for me in the future and I could be married I suppose, but I enjoy being single so much that I don't want to give up my lifestyle. In fact, I could easily perceive marriage as an inconvenience for me.

Apostle Paul did mention in the Scripture that while it is good to marry, it is better to remain single for the sake of the ministry. If God truly wants me to marry the man of His choice, I will, but that man would have to be very, very special and godly. But I doubt that will happen as I've already made my choice (though not an oath) to remain single. Recently, I've been asking God to compel men to leave me alone, especially those who are looking for romance. I pray that such men will NOT find me attractive and look elsewhere. Strange? I know. But this is me.

RobinRedbreast · Feb 15, 2009

I love being married. But I certainly don't bawk at anyone who would choose celebacy and the single life. It is your own individual decision. No one else can tell you whether it is right or wrong for your life.

Each person's relationship with God is dynamic and unique -- what exists in your life, between you and God, is like no other. To get the answers for your life, as a reslut, take your advice from Him... not from the Teens section

Cheers.

Hot Mocha · Feb 15, 2009

I really don't no what my future holds for me, but I have grown up watching a lovely marriage of my Mum & Dad and I would really enjoy having something like that someday. If it happens then it happens. If it don't I guess i will live with that as well.

Sketcher · Feb 15, 2009

I want to have a family one day. I plan on being celibate until marriage.

TanteBelle · Feb 15, 2009

Caoimhe said:
The whole concept of marriage doesn't appeal to me because I function better as a single, Christian woman. My free status enables me to enjoy life more and serve God more. While some people are motivated by both Eros and love, I'm more inclined towards Agape. God is my soulmate, my greatest lover. My passion. My soul. How can any man, a mere mortal, compare with the Almighty?

Now, I am aware that the future is in God's hands and none of us can affirm with certainty what our lives will be like down the road. God might have a spouse reserved for me in the future and I could be married I suppose, but I enjoy being single so much that I don't want to give up my lifestyle. In fact, I could easily perceive marriage as an inconvenience for me.

Apostle Paul did mention in the Scripture that while it is good to marry, it is better to remain single for the sake of the ministry. If God truly wants me to marry the man of His choice, I will, but that man would have to be very, very special and godly. But I doubt that will happen as I've already made my choice (though not an oath) to remain single. Recently, I've been asking God to compel men to leave me alone, especially those who are looking for romance. I pray that such men will NOT find me attractive and look elsewhere. Strange? I know. But this is me.

No, I do understand where you are coming from! My plans to stay single are exactly that; my plans! I'd be having a hard time either trying to convince or prevent the 'Boss upstairs' from carrying out His plans!

Morning~Glory said:
I love being married. But I certainly don't bawk at anyone who would choose celebacy and the single life. It is your own individual decision. No one else can tell you whether it is right or wrong for your life.

Each person's relationship with God is dynamic and unique -- what exists in your life, between you and God, is like no other. To get the answers for your life, as a reslut, take your advice from Him... not from the Teens section

Cheers.

LOL! Thanks, but I wasn't exactly seeking advise from the teens, but looking for a more mature view of it all on here!

twistedsketch said:
I want to have a family one day. I plan on being celibate until marriage.

Ain't celibacy staying single for the rest of your life??? I'd say your just keeping pure mate! And that is the best thing by the way!

JennyKatz · Feb 15, 2009

Celibacy can either be abstention from sexual relations or abstention from marriage. So, a single Christian who isn't having sex until they're married is celibate, but so is a monk who is never going to be married or sexually active.
My personal views on celibacy are that there's nothing wrong with it, if that's what God is calling you to be. Some people are called to marriage, some people aren't. We each have something different and unique to do for God's kingdom. If you feel called to remain single and celibate, perhaps God has something planned for you that would be otherwise impossible if you were a husband and father.
As for myself, I feel like I'm called to marriage, but only time will tell if that's going to become true or not. If it isn't, I certainly will remain celibate, and, no, it won't be the end of the world.

nememorifacias · Feb 16, 2009

If God wants me to have a family, then so be it. But I don't mind being single and I don't mind being celibate. It's actually easier for me to serve God that way.

Sketcher · Feb 16, 2009

TanteBelle said:
Ain't celibacy staying single for the rest of your life??? I'd say your just keeping pure mate! And that is the best thing by the way!

Well, there's celibacy and then there's celibacy.

Quoth · Feb 18, 2009

Until I'm married, I intend to be a virgin. If I'm ever divorced (please God forbid it), I'll remain celibate. Once I'm married and that marriage is terminated by divorce or death, that's it for me.

I've gone 23 years as a virgin. I am living, breathing proof that there is life in the absence of sex. If God requires me to live my life single, I'll be okay. I'm sure sex is fun, but life isn't about being happy.

Nella Fantasia · Feb 19, 2009

Morning~Glory said:
Each person's relationship with God is dynamic and unique -- what exists in your life, between you and God, is like no other.

Agree.

There's nothing at all wrong with choosing to remain celibate throughout your life. Generally speaking, each decision has their own pros and cons so neither is better than the other. But personally, there is a better decision, and it's up to you and God to figure out which one it is for your life

CCinoklahoma87 · Feb 22, 2009

Skellington said:
Until I'm married, I intend to be a virgin. If I'm ever divorced (please God forbid it), I'll remain celibate. Once I'm married and that marriage is terminated by divorce or death, that's it for me.

I've gone 23 years as a virgin. I am living, breathing proof that there is life in the absence of sex. If God requires me to live my life single, I'll be okay. I'm sure sex is fun, but life isn't about being happy.

I love your point skellington! I think exactly the same way, God intended sex as a wonderful amazing gift that should be saved until marriage and never abused or misused! it's great to see christians who are focused on purity, it proves exactly how strong one's faith in God and will to please Him, not the world. I DO wish to someday find my true soulmate whom I will marry, but I'm willing to wait however long that may take God to fulfill. the thought of losing my purity before marriage is a devastating thought!virginity is something that you have only once, once it's gone there's no going back!

AncientEnchanter · Feb 22, 2009

TanteBelle said:
G'day there everybody! I'm new! I've never had deep discussions with older people before (well 21 at the most!), so this is way out of my comfort zone!, but I just wanted to ask this!

I know this was posted on the Teens section; a lot of them still being a bit fickle about everything, you know, "Oh my gosh I can't live without getting married!" So I just wanted to ask you older folks what you all think about it. Someone in the teens stated that it was against what God intended for mankind or something like that.

So how do you feel about it? And are there any on here who are going to remain celibate? Hey, I intend to!!!

why do singles think about celibacy???

Quoth · Feb 22, 2009

AncientEnchanter said:
why do singles think about celibacy???

As people who are at an age where we seriously consider dating for marriage, lust and sexual sin can be a very...alluring...trap for us. I believe that in my own life, now more than ever, I need to be focused and committed to being the person God wants me to be, and part of that is reasserting (to God and myself) my vows of abstinence until marriage.

#1Brat · Feb 22, 2009

I just don't see this for me. I am not a virgin and enjoy the company of a good guy way too much to even see myself celibate for the rest of my life. I think it may work for others, but as for me there is way to much the attraction to the opposite sex that could keep me from finding someone to live with the remainder of my life.

TanteBelle · Feb 22, 2009

AncientEnchanter said:
why do singles think about celibacy???

I can't exactly think about it once I'm married, can I! LOL!

CarinaMarie · Feb 25, 2009

Well I do think my calling is to be a wife/mother, but I am open to anything God wants for me. But I will say, I have a REALLY hard time imagining myself staying single.

Hunter Mac · Feb 25, 2009

If I am beng clled to be a husband/father then I doubt if God will give me that for several years at least until I am finished most of my Medical School training. IDK, I think I am going to leave it in His hands,

fritz300 · Feb 25, 2009

I have a couple of close friends who are called to celibacy, and I think it's great. I think it really comes down to a personal conviction just as Rav Shaul said, it is for those who can recieve it.

As for me, I know I am called to full fill the commandment, "Be fruitful and multiply"! I think this applies to all who do not specifically have a calling of celibacy.

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Zak

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