Caught kissing....embarassed

[machazure]

Me and my gf have been together for almost 10 months now...she is amazing and we are in this relationship for the long haul, pursuing marriage.

Anyway, she was over at my house tonight and we were in the recliner together watching tv. We started kissing and what happens? Mom walks in and sees us, says nothing and then leaves after getting what she needed. So, in essence this is the most embarassed I've ever been. My gf is super embarassed and thinks my mom will no longer like her. She thinks that now my mom thinks we are having sex or something (which we are not, all we do is kiss).

So, I've decided I'm probably gonna need to talk to my mom so its not really weird. What do you think I should do and/or say to her???

Thanks in advance,
Bradley

 

[Lexi]

I think that your mom probably understands that you were just kissing but I'd let her know that it is only kissing that is going on between the two of you.

 

[Linnis]

You are 19, I don't think it's that horrible for you to be kissing your GF.

If your mom hints around the topic or the topic comes up, just reassure her you two arn't having sex and leave it at that.

Your mother was 19 once too you know.

 

[Briseis]

Yeah, although I can understand how that would be embarrassing, sicne I never kiss my bf infront of my parents, I think they would understand if they saw us. But I am pretty sure that my parents would bring it up, bug me about it. They are both jokers, and it would give me an opportunity to clear it up, although I dont think I would have to, my parents know me well enough.
I am not saying that your dont.

I dont know your parents, so perhaps they wont as quickly bring up the subject, but even if they dont, I think your mother would understand, and that you would only have to mention it if she seems awkward about it or mentions it first. Just dont make a big deal out of it, just saying something simple and short would probably be good enough

 

[Inperfected]

Tho i can't understand in some respects (me and my boyfriend try to keep it similar in private and public, his house is mine type of thing), i did get caught at 13...

Explain that is all it was, and just say you don't want her to be worried that worse is happening... you may get a lecture, but let her get it out, talk about it and move on...

Oh, and just a hint, not getting caught makes it a lot easier

 

[OrangeHope]

i would be embarassed too, thing is i will never kiss my bf when my mom is around, i never got caught but next time maybe don't kiss in a room where your parents can come running into

 

[Wayne56]

oops I am sure your mum understands buddy. I have been going out with my girlfriend also for 10 months and if we were caught kissing I am sure my mum would understand! (I hope) no honestly your mum was young once.

 

[Arclight610]

I started kissing my girlfriend after about 4 months of dating. Her mother found out eventually through my GF's twin sister, but she just thought it was cute. I still don't like the idea of kissing in front of her though, it just seems yea embarrassing. She is all right with it though. Just try to keep it discreet, even though your mom will already know what your probably doing .

 

[spokenforbyHim]

My mom caught me and my bf kissing too...it was pretty embarassing. I remember laughing but i know my boyfriend was really embarassed about it. But..idk...im sure your mom is fine with it. I mean...if you want to let her know that thats all your doing then just bring it up.

 

[Hope_0004]

I feel so bad for your girlfriend! I would just let her know how much your mother likes her, and make sure she knows that it is nothing to be embarrassed of. Might be a little tough at first but you will get over it.

 

[fieldmouse3]

It probably was a bigger deal to you two than it was to your mom.

 

[Doubledb]

Im wondering if you were just kissing or making-out? If i was parent that would make a diffrence to me.

personally, i dont know if making-out is good idea... some kissing maybe but not a lot - i think this simply because i woulndt want to make a stupid decision to fall into sin and have sex. its best to protect yourself from yourself and the person you are dating as well.. i think it shows that you respect her enough to be cautious - and also shows both of yalls commitment to Christ.

-Doubledb

 

[Johnnz]

If you weren't raised in an openly affectionate family you will be embarrased by being seen showing affection.

If we had caught our kids kissing they would have just been doing what they had seen my wife and I doing openly all their lives.

John
NZ

 

[KristianJ]

Im wondering if you were just kissing or making-out? If i was parent that would make a diffrence to me.

Same here...I guess it depends on the depth of your affection at the time as to whether you should feel embarrassed or not.

Personally I think it's better to err on the side of a light kiss if you're in a spot where anybody in the house could walk through. This way it won't convey any sort of message that wasn't intended to be conveyed. And parents won't need to be worried or anything. Naturally I'm not assuming the "depth" of the kiss, but simply presenting what I feel would provide minimal embarrassment for all concerned.

 

[Briseis]

If you weren't raised in an openly affectionate family you will be embarrased by being seen showing affection.

If we had caught our kids kissing they would have just been doing what they had seen my wife and I doing openly all their lives.

Yeah, my parents kiss all the time in front of us, its normal. But I would still be embarassed if my parents saw me kiss my bf.

 

[AceHero]

Yeah, my parents kiss all the time in front of us, its normal. But I would still be embarassed if my parents saw me kiss my bf.

My thoughts exactly. I wouldn't know from personal experience, but I don't think someone could be more embarrassed when being caught kissing than if it was their parents catching them.

 

[ChildOfGod20]

my boyfriends mom saw me and him making out before and i was so embarassed i didn't want to go near her. it makes me uncomfortable for our parents to see us kiss...but to see us making out?!

 

[murple_kitty]

I think she will understand. Just don't do what I did when my mom found out that my bf and I had been kissing. I tried to hide it even though she asked me a direct question. She didn't mind that we had been kissing, but that I had tried to hide it from her.
We actually just kissed for the first time in front of my parents on New Year's at Midnight. They didn't care. No where near the way we kiss when we are alone, but a kiss that was nonetheless publicalbe. (If that is a word)
Good luck and reassure your girlfriend.

 

[Inperfected]

Wish i had a bf who tried to not kiss in front of his parents.. but he doesn't really care... Infact we got told off for being sily around them (and yeah that includes kissing and playfighting...)

 

[murple_kitty]

Wish i had a bf who tried to not kiss in front of his parents.. but he doesn't really care... Infact we got told off for being sily around them (and yeah that includes kissing and playfighting...)

My parents used to get on to me and my boyfriend because we would be silly around them. They said that we were not mature enough for what we were thinking about. So we stopped for the longest time. It has only been in the past few months that we felt comfortable enough to start again. And this time they know where we stand and are cool with it.