caught in the middle at work

[basil0187]

One of the facets of my OCD is that I am always wondering if I did something/said something to make somebody angry or upset after a conversation, and thinking that I need to apologize to them (even if I didn't say anything hurtful).
Today I stood up for myself and for my boss (the president) by not letting a co-worker intimidate me into doing his work before other things that I'm working on for the boss. It's something I've really been working on as a way to show respect for my boss. I tried to handle the confrontation as nicely as I could and probably did end up getting a bit defensive, but I stood my ground.
But now I just feel guilt and anxiety that I made my co-worker angry! Maybe his project really was more important and I should have pushed it through to the front of the line and I was just being prideful.
Does anybody else struggle with this? I'm always feeling like I'm caught in the middle trying to make everyone happy and my OCD just has a hayday with anxiety and guilt.

 

[the.Sheepdog]

Just my take dear but if the co-workers project was more important wouldnt he do it? and if it was more important and he needed your talented help, he should have gone to your supervisor to ask for your help as a priority. Then if your supervisor came to you to ask you to drop anything else you would know.

If anyone wants you to help them smile and just says "sure, just take it to my supervisor, won't you?"

I think you did exactly the proper thing and have nothing to feel guilt for! Bravo!

 

[bliz]

If anyone wants you to help them smile and just says "sure, just take it to my supervisor, won't you?"

 

[shelovesChrist]

I'm glad you stood your ground. The boss's work is more important than his and you made your decision based off of priority. He could of respected that and asked you for help after you finished the boss's work but how can he get angry if you were just following priority. Sometimes our mind tries to trap us. Like if we stand up, we're being too prideful but if we don't then we're just pushovers. I struggle with my mind trapping me too . Like it gives you two extremes that both seem unfair and it makes you feel like a bad person either way. But the Lord will continue to see us through and there is no problem too small for Him so if you feel like this is something that you need help with, we need to ask. He said ask and we shall recieve and I believe He will help you overcome this . Praying.

 

[zingiber]

You did the right thing. You are under the authority of your boss, and you are accountable to God to obey him. The boss's orders are your law, unless they are countermanded by a higher authority, which can be either God or the government.

The only improvement that you could have made was to be even gentler with your co-worker. Never get into an argument - just say no and explain why. Anyway, it sounds like you did a really good job, so don't beat yourself up!

Now, one can defend the right thing for the wrong reasons. My OCD often tells me that my motives are wrong; it tells me that pride, not love drives me. When OCD tells you this, just say "So what? I know the right thing, and I have to do it to honour and thank my God; even if my motives are wrong, I still have to do it." Then pray once to God to make your motives pure, and after having prayed that, leave the thoughts alone.

Sorry if that sounded preachy. I mean well. I have had great help from following the advice in the above paragraph; it sort of works like ERP!