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Can't stop stressing about bumping a car

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Story is below but disclaimer: I don't know who's car it is but I'm pretty sure it's a doctor's which scares me as that's basically my boss. Also I didn't leave a note, and when I drove back they were gone. And yes, I know I should have stopped right when it happened. I screwed up.

So I was driving through a narrow lane in a parking lot at work. I came around the corner, and I was a little tight on my turn. I needed to thread the needle between two cars, one of which had a bike rack sticking out from the back, making the lane even narrower.

Since I'd taken the turn too tight, I needed to come at the narrow lane at an angle to clear both cars, because otherwise I'd collide with the one on the driver's side (I ended up too far to the left). I slowed way down, and cleared them both with my front end. (Bike rack car is on the drivers side, the left side.) I nudged my car over to the left the slightest bit. But as I keep going, I look back, and I'm 99.9% sure I see the bike rack touching the back of my car (at the back doors).

So I kept going, picked up my dinner, then decided to go back to the lot. But the bike rack car is gone, so I can't leave a note. (Pretty sure it'll be back though as I've seen it before.)

I spent the better part of the evening trying to figure out how on earth I bumped it since I CLEARED IT with the front part of my car, and looked out my drivers side window at it to make sure. But I guess since I was at an angle and really close to it, I bumped it with the back of my car as it came through at the angle and straightened out.

So I'm thinking on Monday (if it's there) I'd leave a note saying "hey, pretty sure I bumped your bike rack." Part of me doesn't want to, because I think it's a doctor's car (so sort of like my boss which is scary) and I feel like ten to one I just barely nudged it and didn't do any damage, and because it's really embarrassing. But I also feel like it's the right thing to do.

Needless to say, I'm stressed out and I can't do anything about this until Monday. I feel like it's probably fine, as I wasn't going fast... But still. I woke up and practically had a panic attack over it. It's killing me that I can't do anything about this right now.
 

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Story is below but disclaimer: I don't know who's car it is but I'm pretty sure it's a doctor's which scares me as that's basically my boss. Also I didn't leave a note, and when I drove back they were gone. And yes, I know I should have stopped right when it happened. I screwed up.

So I was driving through a narrow lane in a parking lot at work. I came around the corner, and I was a little tight on my turn. I needed to thread the needle between two cars, one of which had a bike rack sticking out from the back, making the lane even narrower.

Since I'd taken the turn too tight, I needed to come at the narrow lane at an angle to clear both cars, because otherwise I'd collide with the one on the driver's side (I ended up too far to the left). I slowed way down, and cleared them both with my front end. (Bike rack car is on the drivers side, the left side.) I nudged my car over to the left the slightest bit. But as I keep going, I look back, and I'm 99.9% sure I see the bike rack touching the back of my car (at the back doors).

So I kept going, picked up my dinner, then decided to go back to the lot. But the bike rack car is gone, so I can't leave a note. (Pretty sure it'll be back though as I've seen it before.)

I spent the better part of the evening trying to figure out how on earth I bumped it since I CLEARED IT with the front part of my car, and looked out my drivers side window at it to make sure. But I guess since I was at an angle and really close to it, I bumped it with the back of my car as it came through at the angle and straightened out.

So I'm thinking on Monday (if it's there) I'd leave a note saying "hey, pretty sure I bumped your bike rack." Part of me doesn't want to, because I think it's a doctor's car (so sort of like my boss which is scary) and I feel like ten to one I just barely nudged it and didn't do any damage, and because it's really embarrassing. But I also feel like it's the right thing to do.

Needless to say, I'm stressed out and I can't do anything about this until Monday. I feel like it's probably fine, as I wasn't going fast... But still. I woke up and practically had a panic attack over it. It's killing me that I can't do anything about this right now.

You probably didn't do any damage at that speed; modern cars are made to bump into; so I wouldn't worry about it.

If you find the car you could look it over for any damage; if you see none; again; don't worry about it.
 
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You probably didn't do any damage at that speed; modern cars are made to bump into; so I wouldn't worry about it.

If you find the car you could look it over for any damage; if you see none; again; don't worry about it.

I'm worried about the bike rack, which I would think is more fragile...
 
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If you didn't hear a noise; you probably didn't hit it.
I always worry/obsess a lot about damaging people's property, too. I think often those of us with OCD make a big deal out of something other people wouldn't even notice. For example, what is actually "I might have possibly nudged the bike rack a little" becomes "OH NO! I crashed into their car and I'm a terrible person!" So...that might be something to consider. :) Did you ever come to a solution?
 
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