Can love conquer all ?

[Superman117]

There is this couple that I know.


The husband is named Patrick and the wife is Samantha. Samantha is a tall lady.
If there was a girl's football league, she'd be in it. Patrick is average height and build.
He is a smart and funny man. She is stoic and the silent type. They have three grown
kids and their kids are my friends. I once talked to Patrick about choices and
sexual orientation (not long ago). I learned a lot from talking to those two. Patrick said that he
is bisexual and his wife is okay with it. I was shocked. They knew each other since high school. Patrick was 17 when he realized he was bisexual and wanted to commit suicide because he was a christian and didnt want to shame his family. Samantha was his friend at the time and she talked him out of suicide. They remained friends after that. She encouraged him to explore himself. Patrick actively explored his sexually with literally dozens of women and quite a few men.
One day, he came to Samantha after ending an affair with a woman AND a man ! She comforted him. They made love. They began to live together. Patrick saw in Samantha the person who completed him and made him feel whole in ways no man or woman ever had.
Samantha confessed to having loved Patrick since high school. They got married and had kids.

I find their story to be fascinating.

I am quite cynical in matters of love, politics and whatnot. But it makes me wonder. Can love conquer all ?

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

I think it is up to the person being told about the behaviour. If that person is strong enough to handle it, and will not bring it up against the person in the future as part of an argument, then by all means - love in that instance can.

If the person being told really does have legitimate reasons to be upset, and can't seem to get past it, and it nags on their conscience - then they should not be in a relationship with that person. The person who did those things probably feels REALLY bad about it anyway, and bringing it up again and again will just make that person feel worse and unworthy. So in that instance - the relationship should dissolve PRIOR to marriage.

I have heard a similar story, and I say WOW - I would pray I had the strength for this.

Funny - the thought that someone had multiple sexual partners of the OPPOSITE sex before becoming a christian and meeting me doesn't bother me one bit - the fact that it could be someone of the SAME sex - eesh, I'd need to pray a bit!!!

Of course, I'm assuming that regular STD tests have been taken by the party - and if I want them to, then I sure as heck better go too!!

Sasch

 

[desi]

Relationships are weird because people looking in can see all kinds of things wrong with them while the people in them can see everything right with them. In short, yes this relationship can work. Whether it is healthy or not is another question.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

IMO - so long as they are faithful to one another now (ie without other parties) and the party who was told knows to leave it well enough alone and can move on without constantly reflecting on it (I know this isn't easy!), then it can be a healthy one

Sasch