Can a relationship make you CRAZY?

[hawkeyelovejs]

I am just getting out of something that became very unhealthy for me towards the end and I'm wondering if anyone else experienced something similar, but ended up having a healthy relationship?

It's hard to describe, but being my own worst enemy I created so many different stories in my head. Everything from he's not really interested, to he likes someone else, to he's just playing me, etc etc. At the end I nearly had a mental breakdown and ultimately pushed him away. I have apologized for my behavior.

As I look back, I think to myself "WHAT was that and WHO was that"?? It's been a long time since I've been in a relationship. I don't know what caused me to act so crazy, but I don't want it to happen again.

Did anyone else have a relationship start like this or feel this way? Can you offer any insight? Thanks in advance!

 

[GregoryT89]

I've dealt with similar thoughts. I think most people have them to a degree, but I think you had let them grow unchecked and they turned into a monster. There's a spiritual battle going on behind the scenes that we MUST be aware of. Satan is a master of lies and confusion. Take your fears to God DAILY. If I don't then the thoughts get more potent, they breed new thoughts, and it torments me to my core. Kill those thoughts before they take hold of you.

And remember, this life isn't about finding that special someone (as nice as that is)... you've already found Him, and He will never let you down. He loves you unconditionally and sacrificially. Be confident in who you are and don't let the affections of another person control your heart and your mind.

God bless you.

 

[dayhiker]

I was just in a situation with a GF yesterday to talk about a narrative that she had created in her mind about someone that was all made up and not true at all.

Years ago I learned that all my narratives I make up about other people were wrong. So I stopped making up narratives as they use a lot of energy so they waste my energy. Life is so much similar to just go and ask them a few question so I know what they are thinking. This helps me to know them better and its based on knowledge of them not a fantasy I've made up in my head.