Bump and Grind

[aric714]

This is why I don't like going to school dances sometimes, I mean I still go but it gets so gross when everyone is bumping and grinding up against each other. That's not dancing and it gets old really fast. We all know what the guy is gettting from it but what about the girl? She's doing all the work and all he has to really do is stand there. That's not dancing. Does this happen @ you guys school to? How do you feel about it?

 

[Audiomechanic]

Been outa school for a while but I remember seeing the same stuff. Not really sure why the girl does it really except she is getting attention. You're right, though. It's not dancing (not that I can dance anyway). I think it's a great illustration, though, of the direction of society today and the morality of kids. Sex just isn't a big deal anymore. Sad. Truely sad.

 

[christian cutie danni]

Hm... Even though i'm a christian, and strongly believe in God, there are some things that I'm not sure how to feel about in society, and this happens to be one of them.

As a Cheerleader (well, ex anyway), I did a lot of dancing that many christians would deem inappropriate. The thing is, in High School, there's not really any other way to dance, according to the student population. Before I really became involved with God, I had learned to dance like that, and well, frankly, it's a habit that's hard to break...

I don't like it, to tell you the truth, but i suppose habits are hard to break. I think that this style of "dancing" is innappropriate, but well... if they want to dance like that, it's their choice. As for me, I'm going to keep on the DL at school dances and instead, freestyle.

 

[CJF]

As a dance leader of the kids dance team and the teen dance team at my church, I stay away from any moves that could be sesnual. And believe me, trying to choreograph a clean hip-hop dance is difficult. I've never taken any actual dance classes(I started dancing on the dance team at church, so there wasn't any sensual dancing) so I don't even know how to do anything sensual, but I've seen it done on movies and such and, even though the dance itself looks great, it's hard to be inspired when there's moves that don't glorify Jesus, they sexualize bodys. As a Christian, I believe that it's important to strve away from anything sensual and, if used to doing inappropriate moves, to try your hardest to break them. Anyways, there's my two-cents.

 

[bellasprite]

I go to a Catholic...so they have the good six inches rule. Stuff like that still happens but the school takes people's ids away if they are dancing inappropriately. I think it's a good policy and it does help keep some of our school dances cleaner than some of the other school's I've been to. I don't see the point of grinding up on some boy when you could be having so much more fun swing dancing or something. You can dance to fast music with a foot between you two. At least I have found it possible.

 

[ijustwantjesus]

This is why I don't like going to school dances sometimes, I mean I still go but it gets so gross when everyone is bumping and grinding up against each other. That's not dancing and it gets old really fast. We all know what the guy is gettting from it but what about the girl? She's doing all the work and all he has to really do is stand there. That's not dancing. Does this happen @ you guys school to? How do you feel about it?

Hey man personally I love my schools dances, everyone grinds and all that but I don't do it on purpose, sometimes you'll be dancing and some girl will just start to pop in front of you and you can't really like jump away from em or anything. But seriously just dance by yourself and be real confident, don't miss out on dances because of the way other people dance. Just be goofy and crazy and other people will respect you if your confident in your dancing skills. I can't dance but I try hard and so it all works out great. Good luck with it all, God bless you man.

 

[Palomino]

ewww. it's not for me either.

 

[willcoach]

Bump grinding can be uncomfortable for some. But I try to be like King David and dance with joy. I don't know about ya'll but I try to avoid it. Of course R.Kelly just had to sing a song of the same name. OW!

 

[Jenka]

There are other ways of dancing with the oppisite sex besides 'bumping and grinding'...it's all just lust, something we are warned against as Christians.
I used to go to a Catholic school, and they certianly didn't care about how the kids danced, you're school must be more strict then mine was.
I also avoided going to school dances, not so much for the dancing, you can avoid dirty dancing, and leave if nessisary.
It was more the poeple getting high, getting drunk, coming drunk/high...plus it was the best time to sell/buy drugs from other people as well...yeah, I just didn't go.

~Jenka

 

[godsgirl4ever]

when i would go to any school's dance even if i went with my ex it was still happenin there too. but i wouldn't let him do that to me. Cause im a christian & i don't do those kinds of things.

 

[willcoach]

when i would go to any school's dance even if i went with my ex it was still happenin there too. but i wouldn't let him do that to me. Cause im a christian & i don't do those kinds of things.

represent godz girl

 

[Lonnie]

This is why I don't like going to school dances sometimes, I mean I still go but it gets so gross when everyone is bumping and grinding up against each other. That's not dancing and it gets old really fast. We all know what the guy is gettting from it but what about the girl? She's doing all the work and all he has to really do is stand there. That's not dancing. Does this happen @ you guys school to? How do you feel about it?

Well, I am home schooled, but I have taken a couple years of ballroom dancing(swing, waltz, foxtrot, salsa, chacha, ect). And I was invited by a girl(no serious relationships for me) to go to a dance with her(she goes to a public school, and it would be the first time I went to a public school dance). So I went, and most people where bumping and grinding... did not really suprise me. But, there was no way I was going to do that, I thought it was wrong.

A couple of the girls tried to get me to bump and grind, but I refused to do so. Instead I tried Swing, and Waltz... well, it is hard to do that to techno music, and the girl I was dancing with did not know either of those. So I just messed around, and made up what ever(I tried to do some kung fu forms I knew). It thought the dance was alittle boring... WAY more boring than ballroom dancing.(and way more provocative too)

While I was at the dance though, I saw a cool guy named Chris, and he did not like all the bumping and grinding either, and I talked to a girl I have not seen for atleast 3 years, so that was quite fun. But, the dancing was quite boring...

 

[krumper11]

I'm not really here to judge this issue, but I just want to share my high school dance experiences...

When I was a softmore in high school, my "dancing" was more of a joke than anything else. I felt to embarrassed to try and move with the beat.

At my junior prom however, I had a date, and one that could dance well at that. I was obliged to try and dance, and this leads me to my bump and grind experience...

At first (because I had absolutely no idea what I was doing) I just moved in the middle of a huge throng of writhing bodies (which is surprisingly fun) while erratically jerking any limb I could move freely. It wasn't a pretty sight, but I was doing it more out of humor than out of my personal enjoyment. While I'm doing this I'm chasing my date in the crowd as she gracefully dances around looking for our friends. We find them, and we kind of dance in our own personal spaces for a few minutes. But eventually (out of no attempt by me mind you, you see I was afraid to even get with 2 feet of anybody because I felt myself such a hazard to those around me) my date takes my hand and brings me closer to her and "guided" me through the "bump n' grind". Let me just say that I'm an extremely self conscious individual when I'm with large groups of strangers, and that during this whole night I was either blindly ignoring my bashfulness while dancing awkwardly, or succumbing to it wholly while I was siting at a table by myself watching everyone dance. I just have to say what she did for me was extremely generous in my opinion. When the time came for slow dancing nearly fell flat on my face because couldn't do it well at all.

... Well looking back at it, I'm really glad I at least tried it because now I have a good idea of what it's about.

 

[FreeSpirit74]

I think it's a great illustration, though, of the direction of society today and the morality of kids.

Man, y'all need to do some research (this is for everyone who's posted, actually). "Grinding" is NOT an invention of "today's society". Didn't you ever see the movie Dirty Dancing? That story was based in 1963.

Plus, my best buddy is 65 years old, and HE used to dance like that when he was in his 20's. Of course, the music was different, R&B slow jams, and it was the guy who did most of the work with the girl up against a wall, which will usually produce the desired "results" faster than frenetic kabookie-style movement. But you get the idea..."sex you up" dancing is nothing new.

 

[onfire4him77]

School dances are quite mild compared to gogos here in DC...im sure most of you have never heard of Gogo music...cause well it is music that was originated in DC...well anyways...there are lots of gogos and 'blackouts' where basically the whole room is black so u can barely see anything that is going on...and much dirtier things go on then in school dances...and at these gogos, which, not to be like prejudce, but in reality it is mostly all us black people and hispanic people...and literally it is sex with your clothes...and in black outs, some don't even keep their clothes on
I used to go to thse parties, but since I came to Christ I stoped going, because i know that none of that is Godly...now my friends don't even ask me to go anymore cause they already know my answer
It truly hurts to know that they go to just grind for 'fun' its not fun, its degrading, because once the guy gets what he wants, he moves on to the next gurl...its sick...and i am so glad the the Lord showed me the light

 

[inhisstepsdancers]

Scripture says in Matthew 5:28... But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

The enemy knows God's word better than we do. He gets us to sin without our realizing it! Women can lust just as men do in this situation.