Greenriser said:
Okay, I have seen bullying with my own eyes, and I know the motives. If the person being bullied and doesn't change their actions, they will lose out. But while saying that, you have to be careful.
Bully's play on peoples pride and dignity. See, bully's don't care; they think that they can get away with what they are doing. It's very weak when you put it into context. Exposing a bully, or removing yourself completely, are the two definitive answers here.
Right, this is what it's about. Bully's will try to find victims. They are like zombies who need fresh meat (the bullies are the real victims though).
If the bully doesn't find a victim, he will punish himself.
The best thing to do is find the bullies weakness. The obvious strength is friends of the bully. If the bully has no friends, then your son is more likely to be able to handle him.
If the bully has lots of friends, and those friends follow the bully, then you should consider removing yourself from the situation (i.e. like moving schools).
You can involve teachers but, it can hurt your sons pride and respect. There is nothing worse than bringing teachers into the situation when it prevents your son from standing up the bully, especially verbally. Your son may feel inadequate if he cannot stand up to a single bully through aversion and verbal defence.
If the bully is physical, then you have the option of going to the police. Evidence of physical harm has to be proven here.
If the bully works in a gang, either clear out of the situation, otherwise your son must work in a gang here too.
Okay, hope I helped.
I'm sorry, I disagree with just bout all of what you said here, bullies hardly need a reason to do anythin. Bullies thrieve on reaction, sayin er hittin back only encourages a bully, I do agree if they operate in a crowd then it's best to jes clear out seeins how it becomes a mob mentallity. The best thin I've seen to work wit bully situations is to not give the bully what they want, a reaction or attention. Personnaly if a bully wants to punish emsef I ain't gonna stand in his way
I'd also certainly hope no child would feel inadequate that they couldn't "deal with a single bully". Pride always goes before a fall, an pride is what gits folks into a mess of trouble. If folks would swallow their pride, humble themselves alot of nonsense could simply be avoided. Bullies always end up being bigger, older, stronger, in a crowd etc and the whole reason a bullie is a bullie is because thier bigger and can take on someone smaller/weaker then they are, given the situation where their confronted by someone thier own size the wimp out every time. Confrontin a bullie is not always the best way to deal wit one, as well as goin off on a crusade to search out the bullies weaknesses is liable to encourage a confrontation. Children aren't always tactiful bout such thins. I think showin you could careless bout whatever is a better approach, it's been my experience they git bored an move onto someone er sumthin else.
I'm a firm believer in home schoolin simply cause I'm so sick of the public school system it's flat out a joke, an this nonsense of it bein outside of school is simply total bs, the fact that they have said this is because they aren't willin to git involved, not because they cain't.
If I understand this correctly you pick em up at school and this sorta thin is bein done right in front of you, I think perhaps a bit of intimidation might help, or a few references to talkin with their parents etc. That's how crazy this world has become also isn't it? They'll try an pick a fight right in front of you, if the school won't do anythin that doesn't stop you from tellin these kids to knock it off, just becareful they don't "turn on you" in the sense that you give them such a reaction that they'd prey on as well.
One other thin an the most important I could advise, pray for your children and remind them even in this that as believers in Christ we're goin to endure trials, even though your sons faith isn't in dispute with these bullies I think it could be a good life lesson as well, an remind your son to bless those who would do him harm.
