Brother's bad temper

[Sharky]

As you all may know my brother has a very short fuse. A mere look at my other younger brother gets him on fire. He will argue, go nuts, even get to the point of yelling at my parents totally out of respect. I just got to the point of taking full action now. I've had enough of seeing him burn everyone else all because nothing goes his way. I am continuing to pray for him but are there any ways i can do something about it because i feel useless just asking God to help him.

I'll show you how bad it is. Everything we do MUST be in his way otherwise he'll get angry. If he can't use the computer, he'll get angry. If i help my little brother, he'll get angry. If i can't drive him to school when he doesn't want to take a free trip on the bus he'll get angry. If he loses in a game he'll totally blow his top, bang the controller on the floor (often breaking it) and tell me to SHUTUP when all i said was 'it's just a game'.

In front of friends, he's like all saint, friendly, natural, pretends that things that don't go his way is alright but in front of us, we're like his garbage. We give advice and he shoves it back in our face.

I want to do something about it. I've prayed to God about it but nothing is changing. Well, i can be patient but if this gets out of hand i'm gonna need to forcefully shove it in his face UNTIL he listens. I fear for his future you know.

Anyway any advice would be cool. By the way he's not always like this. He's a good brother but only when things are cool. I want him to be like that ALL the time not when things go his own way. I can't even enjoy myself with a multiplayer game with him because if i beat him, he'll get mad at me.

Oh yeah, i'm feeling really armored now. I guess patience is my forte.

 

[Lost]

Hi Sharky!

Before I say anything, I'd like to know how old your brother is?

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OK, that must be very hard for you being so close in age. 

I have two children, 18 & 14.  I will ask them  if they have any suggestions and let you know in a day or two.

You might try the one I taught my oldest:

Anytime her little brother would act like that she would tell him no.  (BTW:  Now he does it back to her.....LOL)

Example:  I'm betting that your brother likes to play the video games with you.    But, as you said, he likes to control the outcome.  Next time he wants to play tell him this:  "No, I am not going to play with you this time.  You are my brother and I love you but you are no fun to play with.  If you are a good sport about it I will play with you tomorrow." 

Then stick to it.  Don't back down.  Even if you say a week.  (Start with one day, then two, then etc.)  After he has to play alone long enough he may learn that the only way to get your cooperation is to behave.  

It's rewarding his good behavior and ignoring his bad.  If when he throws the temper around he gets everyone going and receives attention he will probably continue.  If no one allows his attitude to bother them and he spends enough time alone maybe he will think about his actions?  (This has worked in our home.) 

If it sounds good to you try it, it may help.  


(You said a mere look at your younger brother and he is fighting, being disrespectful to your parents.  Makes me think he is jealous of younger sibling and wants attention.)

Also:  When I am unable to drive my children anywhere at a given time, if they throw a fit, I tell them:  If you make me mad the next time you ask for a ride it will be no then too.  (For some reason they suddenly quit complaining, LOL!  It's because they know I will stick to it and say no next time too.) 

Good Luck Sharky!  I will be praying for you.

 

 

Lost
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[Sharky]

17. i year yonger than me. i think i mentioned it in my post but i think i deleted several paragraphs cause i thought it was too long. Anyway, just want to make it easier for people to read

 

[forjesus]

i'll pray for your brother, and you.