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Hey guys,
My ex and I has been dating for almost 2.5 years. In my eyes, everything was perfect, this was the girl I was planning to marry. Even though we met at a college party (I was a weak christian and she was non-believer), we both quickly fell for each other and in the end, I was privileged enough to baptize her.
We tried to put God in the center of our relationship but we end up filling that part with each other. I know God is in the relationship but quite honestly he wasn't in the center.
We have been through a lot together, yes we made tons of mistakes as a couple but I believe it made us stronger together.
Nonetheless, heres the story: I went away for winter break for a month, couldn't really access any communication besides email. Since the time zone is flipped, I was only abled to talk to her once a day via email. When I finally got back from my trip, she said we needed a break and from then on, she made the decision to end the relationship.
Her reasoning was the fact that once I was gone for my trip, she didn't realized how much she depended on me for everything (Physically and emotionally) so as a result, she saw how she should depend on God for everything she needs. She told me she needs to put god in the center of her life first and needs to do this alone.
I understand the stance she is taking. I understand that God is first in anyones life so I am not going to stand in gods way. She also mentioned that if we were meant to be then we will be together again in the end. She also mentioned how she needed to figure out if i was the one God provided for her.
So that was two weeks ago: I still see her since we go to the same college but things has gotten awkward. I don't know what to say to her, my instinct is to win her back but I am not doing that. I am trying to spent time with God and grow myself in Christ. Been reading scripture and taping them on my wall. Have a bunch of supportive guys to comfort me and discern wisdom for me.
I never had this happen before, i don't know how long I should wait for her or should I even have the hope of us getting back together. Read tons of forums and everyone that is in my position say to move on.
Should I contact her at all? V-day is coming up, should I do anything with her?
Sorry for the long post.
My ex and I has been dating for almost 2.5 years. In my eyes, everything was perfect, this was the girl I was planning to marry. Even though we met at a college party (I was a weak christian and she was non-believer), we both quickly fell for each other and in the end, I was privileged enough to baptize her.
We tried to put God in the center of our relationship but we end up filling that part with each other. I know God is in the relationship but quite honestly he wasn't in the center.
We have been through a lot together, yes we made tons of mistakes as a couple but I believe it made us stronger together.
Nonetheless, heres the story: I went away for winter break for a month, couldn't really access any communication besides email. Since the time zone is flipped, I was only abled to talk to her once a day via email. When I finally got back from my trip, she said we needed a break and from then on, she made the decision to end the relationship.
Her reasoning was the fact that once I was gone for my trip, she didn't realized how much she depended on me for everything (Physically and emotionally) so as a result, she saw how she should depend on God for everything she needs. She told me she needs to put god in the center of her life first and needs to do this alone.
I understand the stance she is taking. I understand that God is first in anyones life so I am not going to stand in gods way. She also mentioned that if we were meant to be then we will be together again in the end. She also mentioned how she needed to figure out if i was the one God provided for her.
So that was two weeks ago: I still see her since we go to the same college but things has gotten awkward. I don't know what to say to her, my instinct is to win her back but I am not doing that. I am trying to spent time with God and grow myself in Christ. Been reading scripture and taping them on my wall. Have a bunch of supportive guys to comfort me and discern wisdom for me.
I never had this happen before, i don't know how long I should wait for her or should I even have the hope of us getting back together. Read tons of forums and everyone that is in my position say to move on.
Should I contact her at all? V-day is coming up, should I do anything with her?
Sorry for the long post.
