Boy meets girl

[Joven]

Does anyone read this book by Joshua Harris? What are your comments?

 

[the_man]

Read it a loooooooong time ago (or so it seems). I took a few things away from it that were beneficial. It was a good follow up to IKDG.

 

[renaistre]

I really liked it. I think IKDG gave me a lot of good reasons to delay dating/courting until I was really ready for a relationship, but didn't really give me much practical advice on where to go from there. Boy Meets Girl helped to tie up a lot of the loose ends.

 

[SOLDOUT4HIM]

Very good book on courting.

 

[Matt.9:22]

I thought it was a good follow up for IKDG. It gave pointers that will be helpful whenever I get around to courting. And it was encouraging to know that there is an alternative to dating. I recommend both I kissed dating goodbye and boy meets girl to singles.

 

[JPPT1974]

Makes me want to look at the book myself!! Maybe I will!

 

[waterbear]

I'm always surprised people read these books and take them seriously. Create your own justifications for your beliefs!

 

[Jon_]

I am not a Joshua Harris fan.

 

[Apollonian]

So... what is the book actually about? Besides the obvious story about how he met his wife, I don't quite get the concept. (I haven't read the book)

Would someone care to explain his premise and/or thesis?

 

[JPPT1974]

Well you all have your opinions and I have mind so that is the reason God created us is to have opinions on stuff. We may agree or disagree.

 

[Durden Singer]

This would be THE book (I obligitarily say "apart from the Bible") that I would recommend for anyone who is single to read. Heck, even anyone who is in an unmarried relationship.

 

[Macrina]

I would also be interested if someone who has read the book could give us the gist of it. What the point is, etc. I've never read it.

 

[jenptcfan]

I've read it.

It's the follow up book to his I Kissed Dating Goodbye book. It's the story of how he met his wife and some things they did to help guard their purity during their courtship/engagement.

It's a pretty good book. I didn't take every single word of what Harris wrote and try to incorporate it into my own life, but I was able to glean some good stuff from it.

 

[Macrina]

I've read it.

It's the follow up book to his I Kissed Dating Goodbye book. It's the story of how he met his wife and some things they did to help guard their purity during their courtship/engagement.

It's a pretty good book. I didn't take every single word of what Harris wrote and try to incorporate it into my own life, but I was able to glean some good stuff from it.

Thanks, Jen.


What kind of suggestions does he give?

 

[jenptcfan]

Thanks, Jen.


What kind of suggestions does he give?

Let me dig it out and see if I can find anything specific.

What I remember off the top of my head is that the general theme with him was going to extremes to make sure that his/his wife's purity was not compromised in any way. I respected that because I think a lot of times we (myself included) say that purity is important to us, but when we start getting further along in the relationship and the going gets tough, we get discouraged and don't do enough to fight temptation. Then when we fall we say, "It just happened."

What I gleaned from the book is...it doesn't just happen. There are things we can do to prevent us getting into tempting situations in the first place--and if we don't get into the situation to begin with, it won't "just happen."

But like I said, he was extreme--no one on one dates where they would have too much privacy, no kissing, etc. But he was willing to sacrifice all of those "fun" and seemingly harmless things to ensure that they wouldn't fall to temptation before their wedding day. Not everyone will agree with his views, but I read it more as an autobiography than I did as an "instruction manual" and gleaned some interesting stuff from it. I didn't agree with every little point he made, but my overall opinion of the book is that it's got some good stuff in it.

Here's the amazon link: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1576737098/qid=1112968664/sr=8-1/ref=pd_csp_1/002-2270234-4082447?v=glance&s=books&n=507846

 

[Macrina]

Thanks, Jen, that's what I was wanting to find out. It sounds like reading it as autobiography, not manual, is probably the way to go. I probably wouldn't agree with everything, either, but a reminder that purity (and impurity) is a choice is helpful.

 

[boilerblues]

In all honesty, reading this book threw me into a spiral of depression that I still can't really explain. I don't know what it is, I just know I won't touch it again.

I recommend "The Book of Romance" by Tommy Nelson. It's an exposition of Song of Solomon and approaches the whole relationship, from "who should I be looking for" to "death do you part". I've found it to be a very encouraging book, not from the point of view that I'm going to find a wife but from the point of view that I can trust God and I need to take an honest look at my life to see if I'm really ready for a God honoring relationship. Our pastor used to make every couple read it for premarital counseling.

If some people find some helpful wisdom from Josh Harris' books that's great. I'll say I'm not a big fan.

 

[JPPT1974]

In all honesty, reading this book threw me into a spiral of depression that I still can't really explain. I don't know what it is, I just know I won't touch it again.

I recommend "The Book of Romance" by Tommy Nelson. It's an exposition of Song of Solomon and approaches the whole relationship, from "who should I be looking for" to "death do you part". I've found it to be a very encouraging book, not from the point of view that I'm going to find a wife but from the point of view that I can trust God and I need to take an honest look at my life to see if I'm really ready for a God honoring relationship. Our pastor used to make every couple read it for premarital counseling.

If some people find some helpful wisdom from Josh Harris' books that's great. I'll say I'm not a big fan.

It seems to be a very encouraging book as well as being wed until death do you part indeed and look at marriage from the perpesctive from what God wants you to do.