blog for those who have never had a dating experience

[soyness]

For those who want to save themselves from the person that are to marry. this is to vent from their singleness, their thoughts about dating, the opposite sex, God's thoughts on dating, etc.

 

[winglovesall]

Being single is perfectly right and sex is after marriage - that's God's view.

 

[Sketcher]

Uh, ok. I never had a "real" dating experience. Guys I know who have dated envy me because of this, but I have no idea why.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

dating isn't worth it in my eyes. I'm holding out for my future husband. I have dated, had relationships; though not a lot. I think it can be very destructive, and in some ways just a result of our impatience to wait for the one God actually has for us and us attempting to hurry things up by our own means and strength when God knows we aren't ready for marriage yet. People didn't date in the bible just for the sake of dating anyways. When it was time for them to go get married, God brought them to the right person. Besides, why would you want to date someone else's future husband or wife??

dating may work for some people, we are all built differently. But I wouldn't reccomend it to someone who hasn't, as being all that neccessary. But it is definately important to have relationships as in friendships with the opposite sex if you don't date, otherwise, how will you learn about having healthy interactions with them.

 

[Sketcher]

But how do you know someone is your future spouse if you won't date them?

 

[the_man]

But how do you know someone is your future spouse if you won't date them?

You don't. You need a process to get to know someone before you marry them. Some call it dating, others courtship, others just being friends. Whatever you call it, it is necessary. (Unless you are in an arranged marriage situation).

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

But how do you know someone is your future spouse if you won't date them?

I'm trusting God to tell me and to tell them. I think I'll "just know" I dont have a problem dating someone once we both know God intends marriage for us. But I don't think its neccessary to date someone first in order to try and figure out whether it is marriage material. Why not just be friends?

 

[Sketcher]

I agree with being friends to a point, but if you get close enough as friends, doesn't that naturally lead to dating, formal or not?

I don't trust signs or any of that, because they can be easily misinterpreted. I do agree with the premise of getting to know someone as a friend first, and being careful about those who you do date. But I don't think dating is wrong unless your motivation for it is wrong.

 

[JPPT1974]

Being single is perfectly right and sex is after marriage - that's God's view.

I agree! Amen to that my friend! I look at it from that perspective too!

 

[winglovesall]

Thanks.

I have never dated - but it's your choice and you should ask the Lord what to do - pray before you go out and date someone.

Trust in the Lord is important and believe me, he loves you very much.

 

[meselfs]

Yep, I'm a dateless loser as well.
I'm trying to stay away from forming a relationship until I finish college and get a good job. I don't want to mess myself real early like my parents did :->

It also coud have something to do with the fact that I look quite unfriendly. Really, many people have told me that they tried to stay away from me, but later (after forced contact, eg lab partner) they found I wasn't all too bad.

My grandma says I look like a terrorist. Everyone says that if I put on sunglasses.

 

[Sketcher]

Hey, you could shave. A guy I knew looked just like a terrorist when he had his beard. Since the Army made him shave it off, he looks like an American again.

 

[soyness]

so it's important to have friendships with the opposite sex?

 

[JeremiahJ]

Yes.

 

[invisiblebabe]

Uh, ok. I never had a "real" dating experience. Guys I know who have dated envy me because of this, but I have no idea why.

Probably because dating isn't all it's cracked up to be.

For the overly idealistic ones in here (and I admit I am most definitely one of them, although I used to be much more so before I got experienced w/relationships): I'd be wary of setting too high of expectations when it comes to "firsts." I did that, and I regret it.

 

[winglovesall]

I think it is important to have friends that are the opposite sex.

I have a few - both Non Christians and Christians.

Even if you're shy like me, you could have friends that are the opposite sex - they can build up your confidence.

 

[JPPT1974]

I think it is important to have friends that are the opposite sex.

I have a few - both Non Christians and Christians.

Even if you're shy like me, you could have friends that are the opposite sex - they can build up your confidence.

Same here, though shy, friends do build up my confidence and self-esteem if they treat me the right way as I do them.

 

[WITNESS8]

Hmmm....

 

[winglovesall]

The Lord created us for a reason.

I think it is important that we don't have enemies.

I don't know whether this is right - but currently, we already have 6 billion friends - that's the world's population - and almost all of them you won't get to meet in real life but it's your decision whether to talk to them if you met a new person, it's your decision whether you should have a relationship with them, it's your decision whether to accept them as your friend.

Yeah - I don't know whether this is the correct view. There are so many differences and the Lord made us so that we aren't 100.000........% perfectly similar to each other. The Lord made us so that we could learn about acceptance and accepting differences that the Lord created. There's reasons. We're unique.

And it is important to have a relationship with the opposite sex - which answers exactly what Soyness wants - from there, it could also tell us how many differences there are in this world - Non Christians and Christians are both acceptable. We could show Non-Christians about the Lord - about faith, the holy spirit, love, hope.......

 

[beetlequeendiva]

I dated when I was 13 for a while and made some HUGE mistakes, then I dated again when I was 17 for like 2 weeks so I don't count either of those as dating experieces, I've pretty much been single my entire life!!! I have certainly never dated a Christian man and I know that before I do date I need to know where he feels the relationship is going to go - as in I wouldn't date someone if there was no future in it!!!