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I agree with this. The nature of bikinis are not at all modest, and I believe that most of the time, they are inappropriate. However...


I agree with this, too. It is all about context. For example, I've known families that have swimming pools, and the girls would wear bikinis or whatever in the pool. But when their brother's guy friends would come over, they'd cover up a bunch more. And I respect a girl who does that, for looking out for their brothers in Christ.

But I mean, I'm torn too, because I can understand it not being a big deal on a crowded beach. Everyone's wearing one, and all the guys are used to it by then... But still, you never know who's out there stumbling.

As for me, I don't have to worry about it because I can't stand water.
 
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I don't mean to be nitpicky here, but I just wanted to point out, but I'm going to assume that you were probably chatting with women who wore "hijabs" and not the burqa. Which is something entirely different. The burqa is what's being forced upon women in those countries, which I feel is oppressive, because it basically erases them.

As far as it being freeing, well I'm friends with several hijab wearing Muslim women (who actually won't wear a burqa) and it's interesting, because to them they see Western women as being oppressed. To them the hijab frees them from being seen as sexual objects. So I can see how it can actually be liberating.



Thank you. It's that false dichotomy women are forced into.

On another note, I think it's really interesting how one's morality can be tied to what they wear, especially for women.
 
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Nah, it was actually a burqa, believe it or not. That's exactly why I talked to said ladies when I saw them, because it was such an unusual sight in Iowa. I don't really mind hijabs so much, at least they don't completely "erase" a person, as you so aptly put it.
 
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I just wanted to make a comment on this picture and say that if women really think that modesty is a set style of clothing, you're in big trouble. Because what happens is that the new "modest," if everyone actually wore what mainstream christian women say is modest, would make its own new "immodest." Pretty soon necklines, without cleavage, would start turning guys on, or the sight of exposed legs. The latter would mean that women would have to start always wearing full length dresses/pants. And when that became the new modest, then you would eventually start becoming like the picture above. Why? Because the more that's covered up, the more the female body, any part when it is exposed, starts to become "revealing," and therefore risque and arousing. Guys' minds will adjust to the new stricter standards, so that new things become sexualized.

There was a time when bathing suits didn't exist, and people didn't seem to have a problem getting along. I think it might be worthwhile for people to actually read up on the history of bathing suits, as they might find it rather interesting.
 
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I think it can and does. But I also think that a lot of women truly and simply have absolutely no idea how their dress affects people.

Really? Myself, and I'm willing to bet most guys, are pretty thoroughly convinced that women know exactly what they look like when they go out and what sort of reaction it will generate in guys. As a younger brother in a family full of women, I know women spend alot of time dwelling on that sort of stuff..
 
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I agree and I think you've done a good job of explaining the obvious psychological dynamics of it.


There was a time when bathing suits didn't exist, and people didn't seem to have a problem getting along. I think it might be worthwhile for people to actually read up on the history of bathing suits, as they might find it rather interesting.

Another good point.
 
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I will have to respectfully disagree with the first page. Just because our society says it is ok, does not mean that Christians should go along. Bikinis have caused so much struggle with lust in young American Christians. Intent doesn't matter. The more skin you give our minds to work with, the worse off we are. I'm sorry if one pieces are uncomfortable, but that check you're cashing now will pay off later when your husbands have no sexual desire for you because their relieving themselves to images of younger women on the beach in bikinis, intent of lust or not.

~Peace & Blessings
 
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Do you think a woman who is after God heart it's appropriate to wear a bikini? I know there are some bikini's that do show your all your breasts but very few are like this. I'm not talking about a thing bikini or a skimpy one

Do I think a woman who's heart is after God should be wearing a bikini? Not sure, I guess I would hope she was clumsily good natured about it and avoided wearing one. Maybe God would like that too, good intentions and all. Though I guess that thought partly stems from the belief that man is inherently evil and cannot help but take the chance to show off her exposed skin and enjoy it. Crossing one less chance of sinning, though with that thinking you would probably end up like Ned Flanders lol. Where you consider having house insurance "a form of gambling". Lol.
 
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You have a big set of cajones on you, son. Not to mention a sick mind.
 
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You have a big set of cajones on you, son. Not to mention a sick mind.

Now I didn't say my mind I just said future husbands

And in all seriousness, I've got where my eyes go under control right now, but in the past it's been a big spiritual problem.
 
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