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Marycita said:I don't think bikinis are appropriate. As women after God's own heart, we are to be thinking of others before ourselves. That includes what we wear on the beach in the presence of guys. No, we aren't responsible for what they think or what they do in reaction to it...but God doesn't tempt them or put stumbling blocks in their way and we shouldn't even think about doing it either.
I don't buy into this idea that because each individual is responsible, ultimately, for his/her own actions, that we as fellow people (especially Christ following people) don't have a responsibility to protect them from temptation when it's in our power to do so.
I prefer tankinis, sometimes a one piece. Though really, anything will stick to your skin when it's wet, so it's hard to draw the line with modesty when it comes to swimwear. I think bikinis on a christian retreat, with teenagers OR young adults is inappropriate. I remember going to some when I was younger and being appalled that a few girls were wearing bikinis and watching all the boys staring at them. It seems like a bad environment. However to go to a regular beach, I don't think its such a big deal as you won't be standing out from the crowd and most of the people probably don't care. So for me, it's all about context.
I'm sure there are some women who really feel it is "freeing," despite the repression it (now) seems to suggest. However, in my chats with burqa-wearing women at my university, their approval of such dress feels more "Stockholm Syndrome-ish" than anything else.
I suspect the strong distaste for such dress wouldn't exist if some Islamic countries didn't force such things on women on penalty of lashings or worse.
Whatever people feel comfortable in. I'm not going to go to the beach and go "oh, has she no shame? She may as well wear nothing" and I do not expect people to turn around and judge someone based on their choice to cover up. If you go for skimpy/nothing you're a shameless hussy, if you cover up you're oppressed or ashamed of your body. You can't win, so it's best just to do whatever you feel is appropriate for you.
I don't mean to be nitpicky here, but I just wanted to point out, but I'm going to assume that you were probably chatting with women who wore "hijabs" and not the burqa. Which is something entirely different. The burqa is what's being forced upon women in those countries, which I feel is oppressive, because it basically erases them.
As far as it being freeing, well I'm friends with several hijab wearing Muslim women (who actually won't wear a burqa) and it's interesting, because to them they see Western women as being oppressed. To them the hijab frees them from being seen as sexual objects. So I can see how it can actually be liberating.
On another note, I think it's really interesting how one's morality can be tied to what they wear, especially for women.
I think it can and does. But I also think that a lot of women truly and simply have absolutely no idea how their dress affects people.
I just wanted to make a comment on this picture and say that if women really think that modesty is a set style of clothing, you're in big trouble. Because what happens is that the new "modest," if everyone actually wore what mainstream christian women say is modest, would make its own new "immodest." Pretty soon necklines, without cleavage, would start turning guys on, or the sight of exposed legs. The latter would mean that women would have to start always wearing full length dresses/pants. And when that became the new modest, then you would eventually start becoming like the picture above. Why? Because the more that's covered up, the more the female body, any part when it is exposed, starts to become "revealing," and therefore risque and arousing. Guys' minds will adjust to the new stricter standards, so that new things become sexualized.
There was a time when bathing suits didn't exist, and people didn't seem to have a problem getting along. I think it might be worthwhile for people to actually read up on the history of bathing suits, as they might find it rather interesting.
Do you think a woman who is after God heart it's appropriate to wear a bikini? I know there are some bikini's that do show your all your breasts but very few are like this. I'm not talking about a thing bikini or a skimpy one
I will have to respectfully disagree with the first page. Just because our society says it is ok, does not mean that Christians should go along. Bikinis have caused so much struggle with lust in young American Christians. Intent doesn't matter. The more skin you give our minds to work with, the worse off we are. I'm sorry if one pieces are uncomfortable, but that check you're cashing now will pay off later when your husbands have no sexual desire for you because their relieving themselves to images of younger women on the beach in bikinis, intent of lust or not.
~Peace & Blessings
You have a big set of cajones on you, son. Not to mention a sick mind.
You have a big set of cajones on you, son. Not to mention a sick mind.
i personally dont wear a bikini at the beach.
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