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Do I think a woman after God's heart can wear a bikini without: shame, incident, desiring to cause someone to lust? Of course.

This.

Honestly, it's all about intent. In some cultures that aren't so hung up on nudity, a thong bikini or sunbathing topless is not about getting attention, and barely makes the notice of other patrons. Heck, I'd argue most who wear a bikini of some sort are just looking for something they feel comfortable in at the beach.

You can be flagrant, tacky, and attention-seeking in a turtleneck. The litmus test for skankiness is not, and should not be based on what you choose to wear the beach.

But no man should wear, or looks good wearing, a Speedo. I draw the line there.
 
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I don't even own a one piece suit. They're the most uncomfortable things on the planet. Nothing but bikinis here, and not much material at that.

Anyway, I would say its your intentions that matter more so than how you are dressed. Obviously, if your intent is just to wear something comfortable and cute at the beach, you're not going to pick out the skimpy, sexy suits that are made to get attention (If you want attention, you pick out one of those). But a simple bikini? Its nothing out of the ordinary, and you're not going to stand out unless you behave in a manner that brings attention to yourself (in which case you could also do so in an ankle length skirt) or if you have one heck of a body.
 
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I don't think any bikini is appropriate attire for a Christian woman. I don't think most one-pieces are, either. Heck, most women nowadays can't even wear non-swimming clothes in a modest manner. But anywho...I think a bathing suit that completely covers all cleavage and has one of those lil skirts/shorts at the bottom is OK. It's not just about what's being perceived by my dress, it's what I'm sending out by my dress. Whether a guy is around lusting at me or not, I need to be modest because I'm a modest woman, period.
 
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I'm going to notice an attractive woman regardless of what she is wearing, but having spent over half my life near the beach if a woman walks by wearing a bikini you're no more likely, or less likely to notice her in casual attire. I think in a lot of cases someone wearing a one piece, or a tankini, or little shorts/skirt is going to stand out even more because it's such an uncommon piece of swimwear. It's not a bikini and it's not ordinary clothing.
 
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Seriously?

And even if you "noticed" the above because it isn't a bikini, which one is more likely to make you drool? That one or this one?



Everyone has to follow their own conscience in the end, and answer to the Lord. I'm not here to disparage any bikini-wearers, only to state my personal beliefs on the subject, so... with that, I shan't say more
 
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I've always worn one pieces, I'm modest so I don't like showing off that much skin. I don't think it's appropriate for myself. What you wear is up to you and God in the end. If you think you would be comfortable infront of God in it, and He's okay with it. Then go for it!
 
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My two-piece covers more than a one piece: halter-like top with shorts, no tummy or bum showing. Its a really nice looking suit without having to have anything on display to swim.

Kinda like this:
http://www.worldswimwear.com/catalog/Halter Tankini Shorts details.jpg

Believe me, some guys ARE watching, and they'll still be oogling if you were in a scuba suit. The attitude is their problem and responsibility, but I'd still personally prefer to cover as much as possible for my own sanity. It keeps the rude comments down and at least I know they're not actually getting to see any skin.
 
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What an odd topic for winter; lol
I agree with White Dove . It's important for you to do whatever God convicts you of; but to judge other women wearing bikinis and their heart intent based only on a piece of clothing is sorta unchristian also. If we are going to judge bathing suits; all of them are tight and show your body and parts of your body that you wouldn't normally show in regular clothing even the modest ones, unless you are wearing a woolen victorian suit. If you go to the beach you just have to know that there will be all sorts of things and styles there, even styles you don't agree with.
 
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Would you walk around in a bra and underwear? Essentially, it's the same look, just different material. Just because one is marketed for the beach doesn't mean the image presented is any different.

I wouldn't go so far to say that bikinis are sinful (who am I to make that rule?) but I sure don't have any faith that they are appropriate for Godly women who are called to a higher standard in all areas of their lives.

I wear a tankini with a skirted bottom. Just cause I like skirts.

But I would agree that attitude and intent makes up about 75% of modesty. But I like to go the other 25% and make sure my wardrobe is giving the right impression as well.
 
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I'm not judging, I just know that most Christian women that I know were raise to not put men in a position to lust. You have some churches so old school that they can not wear certain clothing because they dont want men to focus on their breast and butt. I know for a fact it wouldn't be allowed in the biblical days but Christianity is modernize today.

I'm asking this because I am going to Miami for my b day and someone I know wants to wear one so she can show off her body and get attention. I feel uncomfortable around people in seepdos and bikini's, it's like they are butt naked.

My butt is very large, I could never wear a bikini because of it, I always cover my body because I do not like men looking at me but every woman is different. Some say they will look regardless what you have on, that hasn't been my case.
 
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This topic is so full of face palms I don't know where to begin....


It's winter.....why are we talking about kini's or swim suits in the first place?

If you're going swimming who cares what you wear...kini, one piece, jeans shorts, birthday suit...
 
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