Is being sexy (the deliberate attempt to arouse sexual desire or interest) an acceptable why of presenting oneself?
Why or why not?
Why or why not?
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I think it's perfectly fine. It's fun to have people admire your body and to admire the bodies of others. It doesn't mean you'd have sex with them per se, I would consider anyone whose body I admire to be sexy. I consider some girls sexy, even though I'm heterosexual. I consider boys sexy often...
Sorry if that was rambling, I'm tired. But yeah, there is nothing wrong with being sexy, or throwing someone the occasional sultry and seductive glance!
Sorry if that was rambling, I'm tired. But yeah, there is nothing wrong with being sexy, or throwing someone the occasional sultry and seductive glance!
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No.
Girls who dress in a manner to get boys to gaze at them are just as guilty as the guys.
Girls who dress in a manner to get boys to gaze at them are just as guilty as the guys.
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It is not the first glance that causes lust, but the gaze.
To be more specific: guilty of lust.
To be more specific: guilty of lust.
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Nothing wrong with some good old fashioned lust. I'm a slave to lust every single day..my boyfriend is durn sexay!
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Hey, there's nothing wrong with sexiness. The Rofl appreciates sexy regardless of age, race, gender, height or alcohol consumption level. Too much, in some cases.
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Please don't redefine the object of the question. The object was sexiness not lust.UnionJack said:
Being "guilty" of sexiness is not the same as being guilty of lust.
FYI.
Sexiness: the deliberate attempt to arouse sexual desire or interest
Lust: An intense or unrestrained sexual craving
Lust: An intense or unrestrained sexual craving
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This was the first post in the thread.
Notice:
(the deliberate attempt to arouse sexual desire or interest)
I am not redefining the question. If anything I am defining it.
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If, in a discussion about someone, I describe him as "an actor" no one has the right to continue talking about that person as if I had described him as a "great actor." In essence, this is what you did. Being sexy is not necessarily being lustful, yet this is where you've taken it: being sexy = being lustful. This type of redefinition is a serious no-no, UnionJack, because it can easily derail and confuse an issue.
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lawtonfogle
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Depends upon the extent and the circumstances. At a formal occurrence, not really a good idea. On a date, just don't be too indecent for public.
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lawtonfogle
My solace my terror, my terror my solace.
Take a step back and look at how some people view this issue.
Some people view any sexual desire outside of marriage as lust. They also view someone who dresses sexy as wanting to increase sexual desire to towards them. Thus, outside of the context of the marriage, they see this as increasing the amount of lust, or at least attempting two.
Of course, this may not be what you meant, but that is the problem with using language. Even with all the dictionaries out there, each person has their own definition for certain words, and these can disagree is small or in large aspects, and while the dictionary may be backing your side, it can be far easier to explain what you said in a different manner than getting them to accept their definitions, their usage, of certain words are wrong, especially when these usages have been reinforced by many many years of that persons culture.
That being said, exactly what do you mean by attempting to appeal sexy? Exactly what thoughts are they wanting to trigger in those who view them?
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If someone wants to introduce a term with a nonstandard meaning all they have to do is explain such. As it stands this hasn't been done.lawtonfogle said:
You're right. Some people do have trouble with it, in which case we can either let it slide and hope for the best, or correct it to forestall further misunderstanding. In this case, I felt the correction might additionally benefit an otherwise well-spoken 16 year-old.
I never said anything about "appeal sexy," and my only use of "attempt" was in defining "being sexy" where I said: "deliberate attempt to arouse sexual desire or interest." But if this is what you're referring to then I assume you know what "arousing sexual desire" and "arousing sexual interest" are. If not, I'm sure Googling either or both will tell you.
Never having wanted to appear sexy, I can only guess, which, I suspect, wouldn't be any better than your thoughts.
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Since I don´t think there is anything wrong with sexual desire or interest, I don´t think there is anything wrong with attempting to arouse sexual desire or interest.
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I´d agree that they can´t complain about guys gazing at them when they dress in a manner to get boys gazing at them.
I don´t seem to understand where and why "guilt" comes into the equation, though.
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I think it depends on the circumstances. There are situations that require complete concentration for the task at hand - being present during such a situation while deliberatly clothed/acting to distract the people could be considered rude, not done, etc.
People acting/dressing sexily give every event that they're present at a "sexy" vibe. Sometimes that vibe simply is unwanted. (e.g. at a funeral, at a mathlete competition, during a serious discussion on theological implications of waging a war of insurgency against the foreign occupiers, etc)
(edit: the exact same thread could be made for "being funny" imho. Wearing a homer-simpson tie and making quippy remarks about everything might be nice, but in certain occasions it's just distracting and unwanted.)
People acting/dressing sexily give every event that they're present at a "sexy" vibe. Sometimes that vibe simply is unwanted. (e.g. at a funeral, at a mathlete competition, during a serious discussion on theological implications of waging a war of insurgency against the foreign occupiers, etc)
(edit: the exact same thread could be made for "being funny" imho. Wearing a homer-simpson tie and making quippy remarks about everything might be nice, but in certain occasions it's just distracting and unwanted.)
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CreedIsChrist
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I agree, if not more guilty, considering they are being the protagonist. Unless the guy is actively seeking an erotic image the culpability is in the woman's hands more since she is instigating the visual images and arousing his born instincts. Things like this can lead to infidelity, especially when seduction is involved.
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