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D'Ann
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I think everyone has been encouraged or pushed to do something they would prefer not to have done. The first time, we all kinda do it because we are not sure what else to do... The second time, we either know that we want to or don't want to.
Depending upon what it is, usually, at first... I'll politely say, Nope, and have a truthful reason or excuse... if they get real pushy... then I forget to be polite and I say bluntly... NOPE.
Of course, there are some situations that we end up having to do even though we don't want to. I mean how many of us like to do house work? Or yard work? And yet, we do it, because we have to... it's our job or responsibility. So, I guess, it may depend on the situation and who it is doing the pushing.
I don't know if this was helpful, but it's nice to know that you are not alone struggling with this kind of thing.
God's Peace,
D'Ann
Depending upon what it is, usually, at first... I'll politely say, Nope, and have a truthful reason or excuse... if they get real pushy... then I forget to be polite and I say bluntly... NOPE.
Of course, there are some situations that we end up having to do even though we don't want to. I mean how many of us like to do house work? Or yard work? And yet, we do it, because we have to... it's our job or responsibility. So, I guess, it may depend on the situation and who it is doing the pushing.
I don't know if this was helpful, but it's nice to know that you are not alone struggling with this kind of thing.
God's Peace,
D'Ann
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tjboie2001
I can forgive can you
D'Ann said:
I never liked being pushed at all my dad would all ways push me to do stuff that I did not want to do when I was younger. And if I didn't do it then he would get mad at me very mad at me. But now that I am older and I have my own family it is a little bite different.
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D'Ann
Catholic... Faith, Hope and the greatest is LOVE
tjboie2001 said:
My mom use to push me to eat and do the dishes all of the time. I didn't mind eating or doing the dishes... It just that she would charge into my room, yelling at me to do this or that and I think that angered me - much more than doing what she was telling me to do.
Of course, my mom, most of time though was a pleasure and joy to always be around and most of the time we had fun and a very loving and close relationship.
I didn't really grow up with my dad, but when I was 18 yrs old, I moved in with him and his 4th wife. He was kind and respectful of me. Although, he was very much into his authority trip... I thought it was cute because I pretty did whatever and he didn't seem to be all mean or nasty with me either. He didn't really ever yell at me during that time that I lived with him.
All that my parents wanted from me was for me to do well in school and have a happy life... that was always their goal for me and my siblings. I guess that was why we were close to each other. They only pushed me when they felt it was necessary and most of the time, I did what they told me to do. I honored my parents and they honored me. It kinda went hand-n-hand.
I always had trouble with my older sister... She was the PUSHY one. She was a nightmare and horrible to the bone during our child hood. Now, we talk and we are close in some ways on some levels, but I'm still careful with her. Long story, difficult to explain.
God's Peace,
D'Ann
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tjboie2001
I can forgive can you
D'Ann said:
I am an only child. Now that I think about it I wish that i had a older sister instead of being an only child well that will never happen.
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D'Ann
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tjboie2001 said:
When I was growing up and sharing a bedroom with my older sister and older brother... I couldn't wait for them to move out, so that I could have my own room...
When they did move out, I was lonely and I had missed them sooooo much. Especially my brother. He moved out at 16 to live with my dad and then when he was a month away from being 18, he signed up for the Navy. He then got married and we do not spend too much time together anymore. We haven't for years. He lives 4000 miles away from me too. I pray for him always.
My sister and I are friends. Although, she is very ill with Diabetes and needs a liver transplant. So, I pray for her too.
I use to admire my friends who were the only child, but now, I understand their loneliness and I feel for them.
God's Peace,
D'Ann
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