Being Pursued

[Sabri]

I have been married for several years. I love my family.
However, I am being pursued by a former colleague( former friend). I say former friend because as I know it he’s married and knows I’m married. I don’t consider him a friend anymore because he refuses to accept me as a sister.
We became close over the last two years while working on community projects. I admit we both made mistakes during the time we worked closely together. We have since apologized to each other. I have moved back.
However, he continues to pursue a relationship. I have informed him that I want him to be my brother. He has adamantly refused and says he cares for me let me help you and don’t push me away.
What would you do?

 

[snoochface]

Cut off contact. He has said outright that he refuses to be just your friend. So, he is not your friend, nor is he your brother. He is your stalker. Cut off contact and recommit yourself to your husband and family.

 

[EmmaCat]

Tell him to go away and if he doesn't, call law enforcement.

 

[maintenance man]

You have to end contact with him. Maybe some time in the future you can be friends again, but that may never be possible. Obviously he has a problem with his marriage and you should encourage him to get help with that. Only when his marriage is secure could you be his friend.

 

[Deidre32]

I echo the advice to cut contact. He doesn’t want to be friends and if you keep hanging around him, he will continue to cross boundaries. So, just go no contact with texting and block him on social media. Unfortunately, it’s the only way to deal with this situation. Good luck!