being punished for being raped

[chloeobrien]

I feel like I am being punished for being raped. *athiest* My school is punishing me for it and saying I can't stay here because my grades aren't good enough, because they messed up on paper work, and won't be able to give me an answer anytime soon, and are telling me I can't be here anymore. The semester has already started I've been attending classes although I'm not enrolled in them because they just have to let me be here... and I can't even start up classes anywhere else because classes have started up at every college around here, and then I will be behind and will do poorly because I missed so much. I am fighting to stay here, and everyone who I thought would be of help isn't and I feel like everyone at my school is trying to punish me for be a victim of a crime and trying to blame it all on me. and its not fair, I shouldn't have to go through this crap with the school. They let some really stupid people stay here but me a really smart person who just had a couple of difficult semesters can't. And I can't even get a job because the thing is, at least its this way here... is that you need experience to get a job, but you need a job to get the experience...and I can't work at fast food or anything that you don't need experience for because they say I'm overqualified for the job... and its just not fair... what the hell am I supposed to do???


help!

 

[UnitynLove]

I am praying for you sister. I know the Lord will make a way! Trust in him.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

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[BelindaP]

It's not so much that you are being punished for being raped. It's just that when that man hurt you, not all the damage occurred immediately. Everything that is happening to you right now was caused by him. It is not your fault in any way--it is his.

The world can be very insensitive to the vulnerabilities of others. Perhaps your counselor could have a sit-down with the administration at your school and ask for special circumstances relief.

 

[BigToe]

Most schools have a clause that if you have a therapist write a note about mental stress, you can withdraw from the classes with no bad marks against you academically. Do you have a therapist you're speaking with? You could ask them about how that works.

And you are not being punished for being raped. Schools are so impersonal that usually what troubles you in your personal life is of no concern to them. Have you mentioned what you went through to any of your teachers? I know the semester after I was raped, I wasn't doing well and told one of my professors. They were then able to help me work out a way to still do well in the class. But if you don't tell anyone, they can't help you.

 

[lostndown]

WHAT????????????????????????? honey im me on msn please. for 1. i havent heard from u and am worried and 2. that is rediculous of ur school. they cannot blame u for being raped that is just wrong. i have no clue what u should do but ill keep u in my prayers. i was gonna call u but its kinda early to call anyone its 9:18am.


hun please get on msn so we can talk bout this. u know im here for u. i miss my best friend (you) its gonna be ok sis.

-alicia-

 

[lavenderskies]

I would advise seeing a counselor for the rape, its difficult to move past such things. Second if jobs say you are over qualified, try telling them you need the job to make ends meet while you are in school, just be honest.
Hang in there, God will make a way. I am praying for his will. Remember if you have to leave this school (a door closes) that God will open a window.

 

[noholdsbarred]

I feel like I am being punished for being raped. *athiest* My school is punishing me for it and saying I can't stay here because my grades aren't good enough, because they messed up on paper work, and won't be able to give me an answer anytime soon, and are telling me I can't be here anymore. The semester has already started I've been attending classes although I'm not enrolled in them because they just have to let me be here... and I can't even start up classes anywhere else because classes have started up at every college around here, and then I will be behind and will do poorly because I missed so much. I am fighting to stay here, and everyone who I thought would be of help isn't and I feel like everyone at my school is trying to punish me for be a victim of a crime and trying to blame it all on me. and its not fair, I shouldn't have to go through this crap with the school. They let some really stupid people stay here but me a really smart person who just had a couple of difficult semesters can't. And I can't even get a job because the thing is, at least its this way here... is that you need experience to get a job, but you need a job to get the experience...and I can't work at fast food or anything that you don't need experience for because they say I'm overqualified for the job... and its just not fair... what the hell am I supposed to do???


help!

i will keep you in prayer.

noholdsbarred

 

[Solaris]

How did the entire school find out? Lots of good advice posted here.
On the mundane aspect of Jobs and being overqualified. I had a friend who had the same problem. He just did not mention all his accmplishments and degrees. He got a low paying job.