Being Absent again?

[Christianmusicroo]

Is there such thing as going back to being absent again? As in no sex until marriage type thing, if you have already have had sex before? Like if you have been having sex and deiced to stop and go wait this isn't right I'm suppose to wait for that one God wants me to be with, does it still consider absent, even though you are not a virgin? And does God look down at you for breaking that promise etc? Is it a sin, even if I have made the descion to stop and wait? Can someone help me out please?

 

[Ariel]

I have heard of a concept called "secondary virginity," where although you have had sex, you decide to stop and honor God instead by waiting until marriage.

I know that God honors this decision. God forgives the moment you ask Him to forgive, He loves you, He wants the best for you. Certainly deciding to wait until marriage is a much safer and saner decision.

I am praying for you

 

[Ariel]

If you google "secondary virginity" you will find a number of sites. Here is one:

http://www.geocities.com/thevirginclub/Secondary.htm

 

[Andres88]

I understand what you are saying, and a lot of people do that. As a matter of fact, many Christians throughout history have made that decision. We see, especially in apostle Paul's epistles, that there were true Christians in church who had practiced sexual immorality in the past, but later turned away from their sins and decided to honor God. Many well known Christians in our days also practiced sexual immorality, but they repented and decided to obey God from then on in this aspect. And of course, it was/is never an easy decision, for great temptations will always be there, and that is why we are to remain vigilant.

The decision of being sexually pure, however, does not mean that being sexually immoral in the past was not a sin. With this I address your last question: "Is it a sin, even if I have made the descion to stop and wait?" Yes, it was a sin, no matter the decision made afterwards. Its like if my mom told me not to eat the cake in the refrigerator. I ate it, but I bought a new cake exactly like the one I ate, and put it in the refrigerator. There is a cake in the refrigerator, and it's exactly like the one that was there before, but I still disobeyed.

Of course, God is willing to forgive (1 John 1:9), but He calls us to a holy life (1 Peter 1:16, Romans 6), and to turn away from sinful patterns if we are really seeking to honor Him (2 Timothy 2:19b). God bless you!

 

[Criada]

When we ask forgiveness, God not only forgives, He makes us clean... and He removes the sin 'as far as the East is from the West'
1 John 1:9
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

He has made you righteous, and that is how He sees you.. clean and blameless.
It was sin, but it has been removed by the blood of Jesus.
God loves you, sweetie, and He is proud of you.

 

[aj777]

Is there such thing as going back to being absent again? As in no sex until marriage type thing, if you have already have had sex before? Like if you have been having sex and deiced to stop and go wait this isn't right I'm suppose to wait for that one God wants me to be with, does it still consider absent, even though you are not a virgin? And does God look down at you for breaking that promise etc? Is it a sin, even if I have made the descion to stop and wait? Can someone help me out please?

I am absent now and plan to stay that way until I die. I'm very happy this way. I hope you can find happiness in whichever path you choose. I'll be praying for you. God bless you.