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Basic Requirements for Spiritual Growth

Homer Les

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We came across many people in our wilderness journey and each one was a lesson for us. Each time we were betrayed, hated, despised or lied about gave us an opportunity to see into the heart of that person as well as ourselves. Each time we were blessed, helped, cared for and loved we also saw into the heart of the other person. God wasted nothing as He taught us about 'self' and spirit through these interactions. Eventually we learned from God about three spiritual basics that will tell us if a person is growing up into spiritual maturity or not. The presence of these three basics means that the person is growing and their absence means the opposite.

The first basic we recognized as being crucial for spiritual growth was humility. Seems like a simple thing but we found it to be very, very rare. Humility brings down pride in ourselves and allows us to hear God. God Himself is humble and so if we are to be like Him we too need to be humble. It is not as easy as it sounds. Growing in humility starts with making decisions that don't feel good because it hurts our pride. Oftentimes those decisions also make us look bad in front of others as well as it hurts their pride. These decisions for humility are counter to how our world works but then the whole world is counter to God. So start by making decisions that bring down pride in your life and you will find humility beginning to grow. As Wanda likes to say, "Go lower than the strife" which means when conflict comes, humble yourself, say you are sorry. This is a great start in your journey to spiritual maturity.

The second basic we found is necessary for spiritual maturity is self-sacrifice. This is also very, very rare in our world today that puts so much emphasis on self. If you ever wondered why God put such an emphasis on sacrifices in the Old Testament wonder no longer. From the very beginning He has been trying to teach us that to give up, to self-sacrifice, is very important to spiritual growth. David said once that he would not give to God "that which costs me nothing." We ignore his words to our peril. Too often in our journey we heard many words from people and sometimes they would help us with finances or other resources. Very few people actually gave us something that really cost them. It was sad to see for these people missed the blessing that comes from giving, truly giving, of oneself for another. Try looking today for ways to give what is precious to you, that which costs you something, to those who are needy.

The third basic we found that is critical for spiritual growth is empathy. Strange as it seems empathy is extremely rare in our society. Some people were nice to us on our journey but that is not empathy. Empathy means we enter in to another person's situation. It means we walk with that person, giving of ourselves and loving them more than ourselves. This is not easy to do and we had to be trained in it. Each difficulty we went through led us to deeper understanding of what the poor and homeless go through. We had to choose to give up 'self' each time and think of others instead of what we needed even when we needed food, warmth and shelter. We found a few people that had been through hardship but it had turned to bitterness in their lives and the sour fruit came out at us. It wasn't nice to go through that. Take the time to understand what another person is going through and 'enter in' to help them. It will cost you something but the reward is greater, much greater, than anything you could ever imagine.

I would encourage you today to talk to God about these three basics of spiritual maturity. If you are serious about your faith then pray and ask Him to start bringing out these three basics in your life. You won't like the lessons, I can guarantee it, but if you stick with Him and don't quit you will grow up. if you succeed He will take you into the wilderness and grow you into a mature son or daughter and give you Himself!

Homer Les and Wanda Ring
 

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Good stuff.

About the last line " if you succeed He will take you into the wilderness and grow you into a mature son or daughter and give you Himself!"

There is actually a real promise, worded differently:

15“If you love me, keep my commands. 16And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever— 17the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will bec in you. 18I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. 19Before long, the world will not see me anymore, but you will see me. Because I live, you also will live. 20On that day you will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you. 21Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me. The one who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love them and show myself to them.”

22Then Judas (not Judas Iscariot) said, “But, Lord, why do you intend to show yourself to us and not to the world?”

23Jesus replied, “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them."

John chapter 14

Now the described empathy is indeed part of love for many. It's not the only kind of love, nor the love-in-action we are also required explicitly to do, actual aid to our brothers and sisters in their need. But, still, empathy is one part of love, and good and real.

The other parts are very well said. Humility is key, fundamental, necessary.
 
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David said once that he would not give to God "that which costs me nothing."
Very well said. Humility, Self-Denial (a living sacrifice) and empathy are true marks of a maturity. Thank you for sharing.

I quoted your quote from David only to make the point that David sinned, and made that statement as a means of owning up to his sin. Christian self sacrifice is not based on sin, but esteeming others more than ourselves and preferring the will of God over our own will. Otherwise, kudos to a clear summation of Christians maturity.
 
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Hello Homer Les, and welcome to CF.

I just wanted to say that you've hit on some very good truths here.

We have a long tradition too of pursuing these ideals, especially developed within desert traditions and carried out in the fullest sense by monastics, but many of the same disciplines and techniques are available to anyone.

Fasting especially is helpful to us, but it is usually (always) accompanied by almsgiving, more attention to prayer, and fasting within the thoughts - directing ourselves to think in ways intended to develop the values you mention.

Good stuff. It's always good to read anything that lays out ways to grow in Christlikeness and draw closer to God.

Again, welcome to CF. God be with you and yours.

 
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