After being married for 6 yrs, I have been thrust back into dating! I did not want Divorce, but it was out of my hands. SO anyway any "new" christian singles that have resently been through this? Listening to advice
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S.T.A.R.S.
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I don't know what advice to give you but be careful out there. It's a different world then what it use to be.
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BeautyForAshes
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Ditto!S.T.A.R.S. said:
Just be sure to take you time getting to know the other person. You'll find that there are a lot of people who are NOT whom they appear to be. Its a hard juggling act (getting to know someone vs. guarding your heart from the wrong influences).
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Glorianna
I'm a proud Canadian who married an American!
christianmike said:After being married for 6 yrs, I have been thrust back into dating! I did not want Divorce, but it was out of my hands. SO anyway any "new" christian singles that have resently been through this? Listening to advice
Oh wow, I am so sorry that you had to get a divorce. I will be praying for you.
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I'm in the same boat as you, Mike. And the advice that was given me by my pastor was to take some time to heal and establish my relationship with God. And some of the advice I've seen on here was to allow God's timing and hand to lead me into dating someone. I pray you are wise in what you do. God Bless Ya, bro!
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Caligirl
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I feel for ya. I wasn't married, but I was engaged for a long time, so when it was over it felt like a divorce.
The hardest part of getting back into dating was re-learning how to be at the beginning. After being in a long-term relationship with someone you knew down to their very last toothbrush perference, it can be a little tricky and scary to start from scratch. The best thing to do is be patient and not to expect a new person or relationship to feel as comfortable right away.
It is also important not to fall into the pitfall of wanting the new relationship to be everything the last one was or wasn't, doing exactly the same things or exactly the opposite things is not going to ensure that this new relationship turns out well.
Get a feel for the other person, and for who you are now, and then let go of any harbored guilt or expectations from your previous marriage, and give your new direction a chance to show you the way.
The hardest part of getting back into dating was re-learning how to be at the beginning. After being in a long-term relationship with someone you knew down to their very last toothbrush perference, it can be a little tricky and scary to start from scratch. The best thing to do is be patient and not to expect a new person or relationship to feel as comfortable right away.
It is also important not to fall into the pitfall of wanting the new relationship to be everything the last one was or wasn't, doing exactly the same things or exactly the opposite things is not going to ensure that this new relationship turns out well.
Get a feel for the other person, and for who you are now, and then let go of any harbored guilt or expectations from your previous marriage, and give your new direction a chance to show you the way.
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Highland Watchman
Keeping watch from my ebony tower
Um... All I can think of is to take some time as a single guy, dating aside. You need some time to heal and get to know who you are as the man God created you to be. You can go right back into the dating scene, but it's dangerous to do that, both for your heart and for the other hearts involved... it's that whole rebound thing... not good, trust me!
When the timing is right, God will show you what to do. It may be tough, especially in our sex-saturated culture... but trust me, everyone will be better for it, especially you.
When the timing is right, God will show you what to do. It may be tough, especially in our sex-saturated culture... but trust me, everyone will be better for it, especially you.
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Agape4u said:
Sorry to here about your situation. It really can be frustrating, especially knowing tha this (divorce) is not GODS best/will for us. You are correct though we haave to let GOD direct us and just get closer to him and spend more time in the word and things will workout.
THANKS
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