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BookwormPrincess

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Hi everyone,
I used this forum a lot when I was ttcing my first in 2006/2007. It took me 7 months to conceive my son, who is now 19 months old and adorable. He is such a blessing, although I had the hardest time after he was born with severe post natal depression, which was so out of the blue. I had the rarest form of PND called Peurperal Pyschosis, which only 1 in 500 women get. It was a nightmare, but I am now better and despite being scared of becoming mentally ill again after another birth, we are about to start trying for baby no. 2 because we have always wanted a large family.

It's strange that this time round my fears aren't about whether or not I can have children (as now I know I can) but whether or not I will get post natal depression again, something I didn't even think about before.

For the next two months of not using BC my husband doesn't want me to work out when I ovulate etc. as he just wants to take things slowly and naturally before we start charting when to BD etc. I can understand why, but I have told him I am still going to chart my temp and use OPKs this month as I want to know whether my cycle has changed or not, although I won't tell him what's going on. You see I had to take medication for the PND that messed up my cycle and I didn't have periods for 16 months after my son was born, so I don't know if everything is working how it should.

Previously I had on average a 27 day cycle and ovulated on day 12 or 13. Currently I am on CD 12 and I have had E/W CM but negative OPKs (not even a faint line, nothing). So I am worried that I might not be ovulating - is that crazy? I am sure I used to see faint lines on the OPKs in the test area until I got the positive darker line the day before I ovulated. I will carry on charting my temp and taking the OPKs. Maybe I just ovulate later in the cycle than I used to or my cycles are getting longer.

Anyway, it will be a miracle if we conceive this month as we can't seem to find the energy to BD. Last night when I was planning a night of passion, my son decided to not settle in his cot at all and spent the night in our bed! Bad timing or what. That is at least rare nowadays as he's usually a good sleeper, but it is so much harder this ttc lark now we have a child. Does anyone else find that?

Looking forward to chatting on this board now and again. It was such a great help to me last time round.
 

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Hi Bookwormprincess,

I realised no one had replied to your thread - it really is quiet around here, isn't it? So I thought I'd come here and say welcome back I think in some cycles you can have several spots of E/W CM and sometimes that means you are not ovulating but not always. Simply having my daughter led to my cycles being all over the place and I didn't have periods for the first six months, so it may be the fact that you've already had one child that has changed your cycle.

I hope things go well with plannig your next child and I am praying that the post-natal depression will not come near you for your second.

God bless

maharg
 
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BookwormPrincess

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Thanks Maharg, it really is quiet. It seems we are the only ones using the ttc board lately!


Have you starting charting your temperature again this month? Mine are all over the place at the moment, I really don't know what is going on. Have a look at my chart:

bookwormprincess Ovulation Charts

I hope my cycle settles into a predictable pattern soon to make ttcing easy to plan like last time round. I am so fearful that I might not be ovulating or have too short a luteal phase. But I must trust God and if he has more children planned for us that it will happen. I always thought women who already had a child couldn't feel as strongly about trying for another as they did when they wanted their first, but I was wrong. My desire for a second baby is no less strong than for my first and the fears about it never happening are there again because I really want my son to have a brother or sister, and I'd love the chance to experience a baby without post natal illness although I have been told the chances of getting ill again are 1 in 2.

Anyway, I hope this month works out for you with a BFP.
Take care
Natasha x
 
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