Babies in Christ

[Living for Him]

My husband and I started going to church about 4 months ago.We joined a group called the Alpha group,and took a 10 week class together.We, I say we because he says he has,have given our lives to the Lord. I was born again. I had backslidden and left the Lord about 11 years ago. He was Catholic for 13 years with his ex-wife. I do see that he is learning ,but I also see Satan attacking him constantly. He's been trying to quit smoking now for about 2 months. The doctor even gave him a prescription. He was doing so good, and now he isn't.

I never was really into alcohol. I would have a glass of wine occasionally. He's one of those guys who can drink 6-8 beers and you would never know it.He doesn't change. (Thank God)My problem is this: I never felt good about drinking. Ever. I did my share of it, but now that I am born again, and am exploring and learning about Jesus more every day, I have no desire to drink alcohol. His desire hasn't went away. That bothers me a little, but what bothers me more is last night, he said"don't change too much, you might not want me anymore." My change is for lots of reasons. I want to be different. I didn't like the old me. I want everything about me to be different. I think God wants us to be different too ! And my mom always said,"you know how to know if you're doing something you think is wrong, but are ignoring it? Ask yourself, would I be unashamed if Jesus walked through the door and saw me right now? Do I think he would be ok with what he saw?"

What does it mean that he still has this desire? Will it go away? Is it only a matter of conviction?

And am I not supposed to share the things I learn with him,because it somewhat seems to offend him, or maybe even scare him? He said "I'm sorry I'm not where you are yet..." I've never told him where I think he should be...only where I am. Am I wrong?

Thanks for all of your thoughts on this,

Living for Him,
Lori

 

[Julie]

2 Corinthians 5
17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

Sounds like you are on the right track.
I would, if I were you, try to keep my husband going to church where he would hear the Gospel preached each time and have a opportunity to trust Christ as his Savour if he has not done yet.

I'll be praying for ya both! Stay faithful, God is so good!
Julie

 

[allieisme]

WOW..sounds so much like me and my husband
I want to live at the Church, thats how much I want to be there all the time, and if they would let me, I would
He feels he gives his time on Saturdays, and or Sundays.
(I work at the church on Saturday's, so he goes and we bring the kids).
And with the drinking: I dont desire it at all, I was born again, last April, and I've had some every now and then up until about 1 and 1/2 months ago, when I had a little too much, and I told God I would never do it again, and I've said it over and over again, and this last time I felt like such a disappointment to God, that I dont even desire, a glass of wine anymore.
And with the smoking, I was totally the same way, I smoked since I was 15, now 26..and quit probably 5 months ago now, and every time I would try and quit before I heard Satan's nagging voice telling me "It's ok, to have one more, you wont want any more after that" YEAH RIGHT!
Here is the scripture that I have quoted a couple of people, that totally helped me, and to this day, dont desire smoking either, in fact, I cant stand the smell

Here is the scripture:
NO TEMPTATION IS IRRESISTIBLE, YOU CAN TRUST gOD TO KEEP THE TEMPTATION FROM BECOMING SO STRONG THAT YOU CANT STAND UP AGAINST IT, FOR HE HAS PROMISED THIS AND WILL DO WHAT HE SAYS.
HE WILL SHOW YOU....HOW TO ESCAPE...... 1 CORRITHIANS 10:13

And in the begining when I would start to get the urge to have just "one more" I would say this over and over again, and suprisingly enough, the cravings werent bad at all, and I quit just like that

allison

 

[Blynn]

Lori I will pray for you and your husband.

God bless you
Roberta

 

[amie]

Hi Lori,
I want you to know that I am praying for you, your husband, and your beautiful family....always....
Love and peace to you always Lori...and God Bless you
Amie

 

[Remny]

You know your husband; He doesn't sound bad to me. Maybe worried, but only because I'm sure he loves you so much. You can't really compare you to your husband, your wants to his, your habbits to his. It doesn't really work like that. God has a specific plan for you, and a specific plan for him, and those are probably pretty different. What is right for you, may not in God's eyes be right for him. It is not so important that you try to apply rules to his life or that you have a certain set way of living. It is important that you love eachother and enjoy eachothers company. We will all always be imperfect. If we were all perfect there wouldn't be much need for love... because love, love is knowing someone's imperfections and accepting them still. Otherwise how could God love us!!! We are certainly riddled with imperfections.

Your husband... I think he is intimidated. I'm sure you guys are on the right road, but you have to let him know how much you care for him... if you are useing all your breath to be concerned about what you don't like about him... it will be easy for him to think you in fact do not like him anymore. But I'm sure you have plenty of good reasons to like him.

The best you can do is make sure that YOU do what YOU need to follow God's will, when you finally do right and are happy you can share that with him. Then he will learn from you. Being christian is about shareing the joy of God. So be joyful and share, he will catch on to what he needs to catch onto!

Well I'm praying for you,

Benjamin Jeanotte

 

[Auntie]

Good advice there, Ben.

I would add, make a list of all your husband's good qualities. Then give him little compliments every day!

 

[Kristen]

I am praying Lori!

 

[Living for Him]

Thankyou all so much. All of this has helped me. I have and do try every day to point out all of his good qualities, and he knows how much I love him.

Thankyou for the advice ,scriptures and words of encouragement.

Love and Godbless you all,
Lori