autism/work

[joris]

I'm kinda worndering... for several years (since teenager), I feel rather negatively about school/work.
My parents tend to speak way positively about school/work, as if there's some finding purpose in working or such. For me, it feels more like, school/work seeming a curse, would rather want not to ever be required to work at all.
I guess it doesn't help that I don't really have "friends" at school (not "friends" as, people I feel I could trust anyway).
Sure part was caused as a whole lot of teasing happened at secondary school, which pushed me towards depression, but am not sure whether that's all.

As my parents are really pushing to continue with school, am still in studies ("computer science"), though it's going really slow, as I'm not really motivated to do anything about it, and especially now as a lot of it is "doing projects", which means, am supposed to work on my own, not in any class setting or such;

Do others here recognise this, how do you respond to this?

 

[gracechick]

Keep perservering is what I would say. I know college isn't easy with these disorders, but if you check online I'm sure there is a board somewhere for you to discuss this. Also if you feel you need a coach or someone to encourage you maybe that would help. Maybe on your campus there is a program or group that would be of help to you as autism has gained alot of exposure recently.
From what I understand CIS is a good major if you don't like excessive social interaction. And besides when you have that good job you can spend some of that hard earned money on any hobby you jolly well please

 

[uniquetadpole]

Joris...what do you like to do? The key would be to find some way to take what you like doing and get paid for it. See if there is a help center at your school for people with learning differences...they may be able to help you sort out how best to get you to where you need to be.

Me I have AS...I am high functioning... I loved school...not the social aspect of it...but I love to learn. I did well in school...I did less well in college though because there was less structure... but I still enjoyed the learning...but I still had my meltdowns and off weeks especially during exam times. Then I graduated (mind you it took me 8 years to get my bachelors). I went to work...and was absolutely miserable...and now I have have a major breakdown...and am out on disability. Everyone thinks I ought to work towards going back to work... but I simply don't want to go back to that sort of torture... my therapist now is now pushing me towards working at all unless it is something that I really want. But I will tell you it isn't any easier living on disability below poverty level. So if you can find something you like doing and can make money at it...then I would suggest pursuing it... and if you are capable of finishing school...I suggest heading in that direction...but perhaps...you may want to change speeds to meet you needs better. I hope this helps.

 

[joris]

Well... I guess; I am often at the computer, also when not working for school, still trying stuff... well, perhaps it could be that I'd enjoy as work (I find it kinda hard to see that for real)

What you say is kinda part of the problem for me as well. These projects are setup such that one is to just work on some large program by himself and deliver some result, so there is hardly any defined schedule.

Since the end of the summer, I speak to the teacher more often, which at least puts some structure in it, that kinda helps at at least.

 

[uniquetadpole]

I am glad it helped at least some... hang in there. Things are tough but that is where we discover what we really are capable of doing.