Hi,
I need advice. I have temporarily relocated to a new area, and am planning on moving to another state. I decided when I came to this new area, I would not tell anybody about my Asperger's Syndrome and just try to act as normal as possible at my new Church congregation, and around this newer set of people.
I feel like I am living a double life. I try so hard to pretend to be normal. When I am in small group Bible study, when people are cross talking I find it very difficult to understand what is being said or what is going on; which is typical for me in most group settings. People eventually end up finding out odd things about me like me eating the same exact foods for several months on in.
I am planning to move out of state, I feel in one way that if I let out that I have Aspergers up front to people in the new state that it will be much easier for me to feel like I am in my own skin around people. However, as some other aspies on the spectrum, I look normal and can bre pretty passable as neurotypical, and I am pretty certain that there may be people who may doubt that I have aspergers, or think that I am making it up, or may disbelieve because I seem very high-functioning. Even though I appear very high functioning in many ways especially in social situations I am having a lot of trouble as I am in them.
Anyone have any experience with this? Should I have a tell all or tell no person mentality? Or should I just tell some? I feel like if I am going to have a deeper relationship with people it needs to be with the complete authentic me. I know I could just tell some people and not others, but it seems like again it may be like I am living a double life toward the other people who don't know.
Any thoughts?
Thanks.
I need advice. I have temporarily relocated to a new area, and am planning on moving to another state. I decided when I came to this new area, I would not tell anybody about my Asperger's Syndrome and just try to act as normal as possible at my new Church congregation, and around this newer set of people.
I feel like I am living a double life. I try so hard to pretend to be normal. When I am in small group Bible study, when people are cross talking I find it very difficult to understand what is being said or what is going on; which is typical for me in most group settings. People eventually end up finding out odd things about me like me eating the same exact foods for several months on in.
I am planning to move out of state, I feel in one way that if I let out that I have Aspergers up front to people in the new state that it will be much easier for me to feel like I am in my own skin around people. However, as some other aspies on the spectrum, I look normal and can bre pretty passable as neurotypical, and I am pretty certain that there may be people who may doubt that I have aspergers, or think that I am making it up, or may disbelieve because I seem very high-functioning. Even though I appear very high functioning in many ways especially in social situations I am having a lot of trouble as I am in them.
Anyone have any experience with this? Should I have a tell all or tell no person mentality? Or should I just tell some? I feel like if I am going to have a deeper relationship with people it needs to be with the complete authentic me. I know I could just tell some people and not others, but it seems like again it may be like I am living a double life toward the other people who don't know.
Any thoughts?
Thanks.