Asexuality discussion..

[Apollo Celestio]

Is this a disorder, a curse? Do you know any? What do you think of it? Asexual can be defined as someone who doesn't want to have sex and/or doesn't get sexually attracted to people, not asexual reproduction.

 

[Washington]

A sad "disability."

 

[Apollo Celestio]

A sad "disability."

Why do you say that? Was that sarcasm?

 

[Washington]

Why do you say that? Was that sarcasm?

Not at all. Sexual desire and response is a very neat emotion, and anyone who lacks it is missing a pretty exciting aspect of life.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Not at all. Sexual desire and response is a very neat emotion, and anyone who lacks it is missing a pretty exciting aspect of life.

I see. And I can understand why you think that way, but people can live happily without it, it could be labeled as freedom from something that enslaves everyone else. Thanks for the reply. I'm just trying to get a non-Christians view on this thing.

 

[FaithLikeARock]

No.

But I'm not bias at all.

 

[Ryal Kane]

I certainly don't see it as a curse. As someone who is probably going to be single all his life, there are times when I wouldn't mind being asexual.
It's not a lack of emotion, simply attraction.
Asexual people still have friends and socialize like anyone else. In fact perhaps they can do this better sometimes due to a lack of sexual attraction and the potential awkwardness that goes with it.

 

[Washington]

I see. And I can understand why you think that way, but people can live happily without it,

Absolutely. As the old question goes. How can you miss something you've never had? I lived quite happily without a cell phone before they were invented. In fact, I lived quite happily without a personal computer before they were invented. So I fail to see what your point is.

it could be labeled as freedom from something that enslaves everyone else.

If one was a pessimist of sorts, I suppose. That a Christian would consider a human characteristic bestowed by a loving god as enslaving is a bit odd, but whatever.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Absolutely. As the old question goes. How can you miss something you've never had? I lived quite happily without a cell phone before they were invented. In fact, I lived quite happily without a personal computer before they were invented. So I fail to see what your point is.

I'm just stating the fact. So I guess there isn't a point to saying that.

If one was a pessimist of sorts, I suppose. That a Christian would consider a human characteristic bestowed by a loving god as enslaving is a bit odd, but whatever.

Hence why I worded it that way. I do view it as a blessing, but I don't think that what I refer to as an enslavement to sex is what you think it is. I'm talking extremes and the way the world views it.

 

[Pogue]

I wouldn't view it as anything negative. One of my best friends characterises herself as asexual, but she still socialises (considerably more than I do!) and has good friends. It's just that she doesn't feel strong sexual attraction to anyone. As long as she's fine with it, so am I- I don't see any reason why she would want to change as long as she's happy.

 

[HaloHope]

Is this a disorder, a curse? Do you know any? What do you think of it? Asexual can be defined as someone who doesn't want to have sex and/or doesn't get sexually attracted to people, not asexual reproduction.

For a while I considered myself a-sexual I did not feel any form of attraction to anyone till my early 20's. I felt close to people sure and did like others company but I had no sexual urges whatsoever. I dont think it was a cuse, or strange.. it just was. People are who they are. However I did eventually develop a sexuality, just later than most. Around age 21 I started noticing other women and things kinda went from there .

 

[Madcoil]

Being asexual is the best choice I ever made.

 

[Bombila]

Asexuality can be a boon to some people. I've noticed several people I considered by observation to be asexual excelled in their chosen professions through not being distracted by sexual relationships.

I'm sure some people are naturally asexual, but it is also possible to choose or experience asexuality and be comfortable with it. I was celibate for ten years at one point in my adult life, but in fact the experience was asexual, because I hadn't the slightest interest through that time period in sex.

 

[Washington]

Being asexual is the best choice I ever made.

I'm sure some people are naturally asexual, but it is also possible to choose or experience asexuality and be comfortable with it.

Asexuality is not chosen. It is a natural occurring state of mind. If one choose not to have sex then it's celibacy. And, asexuality does not preclude people from having sex, whereas celibacy does..

 

[Mling]

I have a friend who I'm pretty sure is asexual. She has no desire to have a close partner (little enough that she considers the idea of having a girlfriend and the idea of having a boyfriend equally disagreeable and does not really differentiate between the two,) and as far as I can tell, she has no desire to have sex. She has never masturbated and doesn't really see the point.

Interesting thing is that she has an absolutely filthy mind. Well, WELL beyond the pale of a normal filthy mind. Like, the topic of tentacles has come up on a number of occasions.

She likes people-watching and thinking about how people interact to be interesting, and finds the idea of unusual sexual experiences to be fascinating, on an intellectual level. She just.. you know...would never do it herself.

 

[Mling]

personally, I consider asexuality to be a sexual orientation, like any other.

 

[Vene]

personally, I consider asexuality to be a sexual orientation, like any other.

I see it more as a lack of an orientation. And, believe it or not, people not having sex doesn't bother me.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

I see it more as a lack of an orientation. And, believe it or not, people not having sex doesn't bother me.

Which in itself is an orientation..neat huh? Thanks for the replies.

 

[PassionFruit]

I don't find anything wrong with asexuality. If that's a person sexuality, then it just is.

 

[GrayCat]

I don't know exactly what i am but whatever it is, i didn't choose it.


I am not someone who finds random people sexually attractive. I just don't, and find it hard to fit in when my friends talk about who they think is attractive cause they will be attracted to several random people at a time which doesn't make sense to me. I look at people and see perhaps artistic beauty in their features sometimes, like the same beauty or mystery I feel when looking at a field or a forest in Autumn. It is not sexual.

I would be asexual by that definition, but i am interested in 2 people and have been for awhile, one male and one female. Sometimes i am simply friends with them and occasionally I wish i were more. This is based on emotions and feeling connected to their personalities. So I don't know if having a lower than typical sex/relationship drive is asexual or not.


I personally don't care what people are or if they chose it or were born with it.. There is no reason to get hateful or upset about something that does not harm you or anyone else.