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As kids grow older, parents need a different kind of inner strength.
Do our children need us to be strong? Where is our strength as parents? Where are we allowed to falter? How do we lose strength? Are you a strong parent? What if your kids don’t see you that way?
When you know someone loves you, you don’t want to cause them pain with bad news. It’s often easier to unburden yourself to someone who won’t be hurt as much, whom you don’t have to reassure, comfort, care for, or encourage in the face of your problems.
This same idea is true with children. When they’re small, they hide sometimes facts from you to avoid punishment or to avoid facing your anger. But when they get older, they don’t share things with you to avoid upsetting you. This is more concerning, because it’s a clear symptom that you’re no longer their invincible “superhero.” Instead, you’ve become someone they want to protect.
Your children want to keep you as far away from their worries as possible. To achieve this, they hide or simplify painful events and difficult or complicated situations. This goes hand in hand with a sad reality: They’ve renounced your help in return for not upsetting you.
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Are you a strong parent?
Do our children need us to be strong? Where is our strength as parents? Where are we allowed to falter? How do we lose strength? Are you a strong parent? What if your kids don’t see you that way?
When you know someone loves you, you don’t want to cause them pain with bad news. It’s often easier to unburden yourself to someone who won’t be hurt as much, whom you don’t have to reassure, comfort, care for, or encourage in the face of your problems.
This same idea is true with children. When they’re small, they hide sometimes facts from you to avoid punishment or to avoid facing your anger. But when they get older, they don’t share things with you to avoid upsetting you. This is more concerning, because it’s a clear symptom that you’re no longer their invincible “superhero.” Instead, you’ve become someone they want to protect.
Your children want to keep you as far away from their worries as possible. To achieve this, they hide or simplify painful events and difficult or complicated situations. This goes hand in hand with a sad reality: They’ve renounced your help in return for not upsetting you.
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Are you a strong parent?
