no negativity from me... Anxiety drives me through the roof and with MS, it makes my symptoms a nightmare. I have friends who have been cheated on and I work with divorce attorneys doing depositions and you wouldn't believe how many women file for divorce for these 2 reasons: 1, they don't love their husband anymore and 2, they just don't want to be married anymore. They admit still loving their husband but want to be alone a lot more and divorce... A former co-worker who was married 32 years and was 2 years away from paying off his mortgage got served divorce papers right after a 2 week vacation in Italy with his wife. Her reason was simply not wanting to be married anymore. Can you imagine waking up one day and out of the blue having that happen? No Fault divorce effed this country up so bad... It's a reason why MGTOW exists and why men are not marrying... I keep seeing women complain that men are commitment phobes... they aren't! They are afraid of divorce, not marriage. one of my friends who is divorced has 2 kids and he sees them 2 days a month.... pays $4500 a month in child support for kids that basically aren't his anymore.... I see this crap A LOT
There is a lot of truth to this post though I may not agree completely.-
Here are some points and experiences I have learned.
*I have learned that over 80% of divorces are indeed finled by women.
* Have had several friends, of all ages, where their wife picked up and left them. Have seen what a mess it had made of their lives. The Lord hates divorce. This is stated numerous times in Scripture and there is no reason to encourage it. Even with infidelity involved, the Lord accepts divorce but, still hates it. Think about that, would you want to do something the Lord hates because you want to anyway?
*As the laws have changed since the 1960s with no fault divorce, no one needs a reason to get a divorce. Because of this, many go into marriage with the understanding that they can get out of it at will
* people, both genders, do not take marriage seriously. Women was more concerned with getting married and the actual marriage ceremony itself than the commitment of being married. I have dated so many women that have told me how much they cherished their wedding but, ended up hating the guy.
Another important topic that has not been covered is hsow much easier life can be if you stay single. Think about it, the average person is married 1-2 times, rasies kids, etc.
If you stay single, or put off marriage until after you are established and better off ( as I have ), then, you will not need to work for the rest of your life and not be dependant on social security or other. Because, if you work and make a decent living, do not burn it and waste all of it, most people will aquire enough wealth, have their home paid off, etc by the time they are in their 40s. Of course, there is still the option of marrying lat when you are established.
I am so glad I do not have to work a regular job anymore. Have a great retirement already for when I get older and get to enjoy life and do what I want when I want ( for the most part ). And there is still the option of marriage and family. it makes life so much eaiser and more pleasant. with all the spare time, as much as I wish to do my own things, it provides time for serving the Lord, volunteering and just enjoying life and not have to drive in traffic each day to 'keep up with the Jones'.
something to ponder, esp for guys.