Apology

[Elderado]

I would just like to apologize for all of the unrest around here lately. It seems trouble follows me and I have brought it to this section of the forum as well. I came back to the forum because somebody had told me Dan had passed away and I wanted to see if there was anything about posted about it on the site. Now it seems you guys are all on the radar and it probably has a lot to do with me. I invited a lot of people to post their thoughts and prayers on a thread that was not intended to be for anyone other than "mature singles". I'm sorry. I realize that was wrong and that our prayers probably don't even make a difference in the grand scheme of things. It's just that I cared about him and his family so much. I probably wouldn't even be here typing this if it wasn't for that man. I wanted others to know what was going on and pray for his family because I've been so worried about them and I know they are having a really rough time with it all. I should have just left it here and not invited anyone else. Dan would not want to know that his presence here was a disruption. He came here (it appears) because he didn't know who else to turn to, and you guys showed him lots of love and gave him lots of positive reinforcement. But I'm wishing now that he never would have come here and brought all the drama to what was probably the most peaceful section of the forum. Then I come along and made it even worse. Anyway, I hope you guys can get on with your lives and just forget any of this ever happened. Maybe the staff will leave you alone then. Again, I'm sorry for any unnecessary hurt and/or drama that I caused here. It was just me caring about a friend and his family and it turned into a huge mess. I really regret it.

 

[dayhiker]

Elderado, Your words show what a loving and sensitive man you are. I accept you apology, but honestly I don't think you did anything wrong. What you did was loving and those that posted were loving. So that isn't wrong.

I pray you also noticed that people were grateful for for the added info about Dan and his family and life. So the foul I don't see as being with the people who posted.

So if you need or want some web friends, I pray you hang out here at post that we may get to know even better.

 

[blackribbon]

I don't think you did anything wrong. And I do believe that prayer makes a difference. I know it did for me when my husband died. I don't know how to explain it but I really do believe that it was prayer that kept a sense of peace around me when everything else was falling apart.

I didn't know it would become such a big issue and really didn't know that there were such strict rules on this forum. I encouraged people to post too.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Oh Elderado,

It's not you seriously. I would blame the haters for all the "drama" but never you. What you did for us has been amazing in my opinion. You gave our relationship with Dan depth that we never could have gotten from anyone else. I think Dan would side with you on this.
The situation with us being more heavily moderated, is what it is. I will not say more because I guess it is not allowed.
Personally it isn't going to bother me except we now have to be very careful with our words unlike before, but hey, again I can deal with it.
I don't want you to leave. I love all the pics and stories you have shared. YOU honored Dan's life and had it not been for you, maybe we would not even know he was gone, ya know? And I for one, am very glad that Dan did come here. It's too bad that we weren't enough, or that his kids weren't enough, but he had injuries that prohibited him from making sound decisions. I feel very honored to have known him online and can't wait to meet him in eternity.
Oh and that thing about prayer not mattering? Yeah I believe it matters more than we will ever know on this earth, so yeah....

No apology necessary (from you anyway)

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

Elderado, you have nothing to apologize for. The bit of drama caused by that one sick, hateful person would have happened whether you were here or not. You were on the lookout to report problems so your presence actually decreased the chaos. So, some friends of Dan posted messages and the messages were moved, not deleted, because the posters weren't single. It is good people found out and were able to post. The posts might have a wider audience now, which is good. On the other hand, I didn't like the threatening of punishments. It is what it is.

 

[Eagle Of Oz]

Elderado, you havnt done anything wrong. Those of us who only got to know Dan in the last few weeks of his life, even tho we knew he had such a beautiful heart and soul, we also experienced a lot of sadness for him, for what he had been through, and how much hurt and pain he was in. You sharing, and inviting others who were friends with Dan to come and join in, has in my opinion helped many of us who are grieving. Your photos and sharing have helped us to see what a fun loving, life embracing man he was. I'm also glad that you've shared a bit about the struggles his boys etc are going thru, because as a few others have said, I believe prayer DOES work.

As for causing trouble, YOU have not caused ANY trouble...and all I can say without getting myself in trouble is...ummm....how shall I say this...I think the responsibility of the issues that have arisen around here falls elsewhere....and now I shall duct tape mah mouth shut!

 

[mjmcmillan]

FWIW, I've sensed something being a bit "off" here for some time. Last week, I knew that there was trouble before I saw it. It felt "heavy" if you know what I mean.

Right now, if I said all that is on my mind it would cause more trouble than anybody really needs, so I'll keep a lid on it. Suffice to say though, I won't be posting anywhere near as much as in the past.

 

[dayhiker]

Hi mjm ... I think its a wise man who knows when not to say things that would cause more trouble. Thanks for doing what you knew was the right thing to do.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

FWIW, I've sensed something being a bit "off" here for some time. Last week, I knew that there was trouble before I saw it. It felt "heavy" if you know what I mean.

Right now, if I said all that is on my mind it would cause more trouble than anybody really needs, so I'll keep a lid on it. Suffice to say though, I won't be posting anywhere near as much as in the past.

Sad to say, but I, too, am regularly leery of posting lately for more than one reason. I wonder everyday, if I will come here to find a pm saying I'm in trouble. I don't think my posts are bad, but I guess it's subjective. We have had a hard enough time keeping this section lively, and now this.

mjm, does it still feel "heavy" to you?