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So your in class. You try to keep your thoughts clean. But you get "dirty" thoughts...worse yet there about the person who sits in front of you and is your gender. How do you get around it? I've been struggling since I was 12 and it keeps getting harder especially now that it's more "accepted" to be homosexual. Every single day I have to sit behind this particular girl who well quite frankly i find attractive. Any ideas? If I ask for a seat change what should i say for the reason? I don't want to lie but it would be weird to say "Because I'm struggling with my sexuality and I find her paticularly attractive."
 
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Yeah, try to think of a legitimate reason, other than finding the girl in front of you attractive, to be moved somewhere else where you won't have to constantly struggle with it. Distraction is usually a good reason, or maybe if you need to see the board at the front of the room better, or if you can't hear the teacher.

At least you don't have to struggle with finding one of your teachers attractive :) Now thats a harder thing to deal with and I have to deal with it every weekday.
 
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I would suggest that you ask the teacher for a seat change because you find sitting toward the back to be distracting. [You don't have to say what's distracting you.] Assure him/her that you would be able to focus much better at the front of the class. While it may feel like the teacher would need a better reason than that, I doubt it. He/she will probably be happy to accomodate you without reading anything into it.
 
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Far too many sexual thoughts are labeled dirty. If that girl is attractive then she is. That does not mean you are homosexual, just that you recognise her attractiveness. And some young women go through a time of apparent attraction to the same sex. But most do go through it, and come our very much heterosexual a little later.

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Asking to move is a good way to avoid the distraction. But also, finding someone attractive doesn't necessarily mean you are sexually attracted to them. I think especially now that it is more socially acceptable there are some people that will have a thought then worry it means they are thinking something more than they are. It doesn't mean you have to worry, but taking precautions against distractions in school is never a bad idea.
 
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I agree with the others of finding legitmate excuse to sit in front of the girl. Awe of beauty is not evil, just when you lust its not good.

I was having this problem specially with Communion, so many attractive ladies in back row. I found that stop thinking about what others think of me, specially one I liked, and listening to my spirit. It helped quell these thoughts and let me stay focus on why I was there.

Galatians 5

"25 Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives. "
"16 So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives."
" 22 But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control."

It is a very hard to hear voice in my mind. Sometimes it rises to the occation, but for most part it is ignored. I turned my spirit into my personal foreman to give me guidance in difficult times or confusion. I think it is what we call our conquence now of days, a strong sense of responcibility, true, and reason.

Let the spirit help you keep your mind where it should be. Which will help you beyond this problem as well.

God bless!
 
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