Anyone going through dui?

[Bigbody]

Hi all, I'm young (19) but, am going through the dui process now. I was arrested and spent the night in jail on the 8th of this month. I haven't even went to court. I have asked God for forgive me but, I can't stop beating myself about it. I'm in college and have a geat job. I was suppose to be moving to a 4 year school this summer and getting a house with an old friend. I was going to be able to transfer my job so I thought I was set. Not to mention that I am good with my money and should of had well over 5k in the bank with no car payment to make the move nice.

I have not had any alcohol since the day of my arrest. I have vowed to give it up till I'm of legal drinking age and by then I may decide I'm better off. For the last two weeks I have dreamed more than ever... They all involved alcohol. I have been a binge drinker since 17. If I make it a month then that will for sure be the longest I have been sober in nearly 3 years.


I have no problem with paying fines and attending classes but the losing of the license is another thing. The reality is sitting in... I have researched and researched and have found no hope. It looks as if I can't even qualify for a restricted license of some sort even though I will still try. I'm going to end up losing my job before its all said and done. I have no idea how i'm going to continue my education. I feel all this anger building up. I mean I haven't even went to court and I already feel like I am being sentenced to death. I don't know... Maybe it won't be as bad as I think. But, I actually got a MIP when I was 17 and lost my license for 42 days ( I know exactly how many days b/c it was that big of deal). It drove me nuts. Not to mention I was working two jobs and going to high school. I can't imagine losing my license for a year all the while finally moving out from under my parents roof and starting out on my own.

Is there any light at the end of this tunnel?

 

[TheMainException]

Dude, the consequences hurt. It's no doubt. Start looking online for carpool programs that might be in your area. You may have to talk to some of your neighbors and friends about getting rides. You're going to have to be very upfront with them and tell them the truth about the situation. It's going to hurt. You're going to be embarrased and ashamed and your reputation will hit dirt for a while. But your honesty and commitment to stay sober will eventually bring you back up in the eyes of those around you. Be truly repentant. Some times the court system allows for the possiblity of being able to drive to and from work...but if you get a very straight line, no other options type of judge, you might not have that chance.

I don't agree with this rule, as I've only ever seen if cause more trouble than good, but we have to live with the consequences of our actions...some people don't get caught, but you're lucky you did. No matter what happens, I think that you can pull this back from the ground floor if you return to God and stick by His side. When all is said and done, he'll pull you up by your boot straps and clean the floor for you.

 

[BlessEwe]

Perhaps look at it in a different way. My father was killed by a 19 year old male drunk driver when I was 7 years old. Not only did the decision to drink and drive mess up his live, but many children who became fatherless that night ( 7 men coming home from a gig in my fathers van, 5 men were killed)...

Because of the lifes affected with the many who have been killed while behind the wheel, they are not just slapping the hand anymore, and this could be a major wake up call for you.

This is a life changing event for your life that was heading down to a very distructive place (Jails, institutions, and death)

So while you are unable to do the things that you planned, be thankful that it is not a super long term situation and on your record for the rest of your life, or you are in prision for killing anyone. And perhaps this happened so that you have to really stop and take a look at your future if you pick up drinking again. You have so much ahead of you, bindge drinking will only ruin it for you.

You sound like a very smart young man heading off to start your life, take this bad situation and turn it around into a positive one in your life.
God Bless

 

[healy]

last year I was reprimanded legally,it didn't make any difference some 5 months later and I hope it is very different for you. can i ask how many of your friends drink around you,and are you up front about your dui with people you just meet? I tend to hide my past,making it worse when people get to know me. the light at the end of the tunnel for me is only beginning to change as I seek counseling from my church.

 

[hotsauce5000]

i am.
pray
go to AA
get a lawyer
google your city to find AA meetings.
there are AA meetings everywhere every day every night.

 

[BlessEwe]

i am.
pray
go to AA
get a lawyer
google your city to find AA meetings.
there are AA meetings everywhere every day every night.

Welcome to the board! We hope you join in.

 

[70x7]

Yes there is.
Awhile back I was in the same situation. Going out drinking partying driving. Well, it caught up with me and I too spent the night in jail.
I havent ever been in serious trouble before and that was definatly the worst thing that had ever happened.
That was also the last day I had drank. Nothing ever since even to this day.
The process was very nerve wrecking and I lost alot of sleep over the next months. I too was in fear of losing my job as I am a electrical project manager and do alot of driving from project to project.
It was hard for me to understand why it all happened, but I soon realized how fortunate I was that nobody was hurt or killed or any accident of any kind. I just got pulled over for swerving.
After getting out of jail and reality set in about what had happened, I began to anaylze my life and where I was headed. There had been so many other times that I should have been arrested or pulled over before and as it progressivaly got worse, everything finally caught up with me. The VERY next day, I gave my life to Jesus. I became a believer!
Sounds ironic that I would be thankful for getting tossed in the slammer, but I truley was as that was how God had gotten my attention!
The next months were still challenging but I know God was with me for all of it. My court cases lasted nearly 9 months. The officer did not end up showing up so it got dismissed (praise God!) but my liscense had been revoked for 6 months.
My work was more understanding than I would have thought and everything turned out ok there.
I too, did not think there was a light at the end of that dark tunnel. Our state (NM) has a serious DWI problem and they crack down very hard. I had already counted on the worst.
What comforted me the most out of everything was knowing that God was with me and that everything works according to HIS plan. Granted, this event may be troubling for you and not easy to be calm about, but remember what He went through for all of us. There will be times of trouble and we will go through trials in our lives but remember He is there. Call on Him in these times of need. There is a bigger picture and a larger plan He has for you! This bump in the road will eventually pass but it will neccesarily be an easy road in the meantime, but KNOW He is with you. Praise Him in times of good and in times of bad. He is the ruler and the only one you need to be accountable to!

Genesis 18:14
"Is anything too hard for the LORD?"

 

[BobW188]

Welcome to you also, 70x7. Stick around!

 

[hotsauce5000]

i just joined this site last night, didnt think this particular forum is where i would land first , oh well.
i hope its ok to just spill this here, if not i guess ill just leave.

i could use some prayers, even more than i have now.

im in a tighter spot than bigbody is. these are NOT alcohol related, rather reasons alcohol was needed.

my marriage went south
my finances went down after moving out of "our" house we just bought
my child support didnt get paid as planned
my IRS returns were not filed as i "thought" they were (03,04,06,07)
my quarterly taxes were behind.
I dont handle lonliness very well.


i just got used to working and putting off taking care of my Paperwork till another day. things were bleak, i didnt drink that much, accept for saturday nights. in fact i cut down a lot. i was so lonely for over a year, and torn up inside. i ended up at a bar in tomball and had a few drinks.
back to the non lengthy version.

i got arrested for DUI with no one to come get me. they kept me 2 weeks in which i completly lost my mind. completley. while there i found an old bible in a box of old paperback romance novels and read the new testament about 95% though.
by the time i got out i was really a wreck, lost my rent house due to funds, moved back home just to survive. they charged me with felony dui since i had done it in 87 and 91. (the 10 year rule was abolished).
so november hits, i have no money for good legal representation, still owe 3 months rent, couple thousand in bills and im a nervous wreck.

it gets worse.
here comes chld support court, they threaten me with jail cause i dont have money.
here comes the IRS with threats of jail cause my returns havent been filed in years. (was unaware)
here comes my work license was expired which carries threat of criminal charges. ( was unaware expired)
drivers license gone for at least 6 months mandatory.
they make me pay for a breathalizer in my truck even though they know i dont have a driver license.


i hope my situtation sheds light on yours bigbody, you can skate past yours with a good lawyer.

for me, ive busted my but, my wonderful dad has been driving me to jobsites since november. paid my back rent and all but about 800 in back bills. been to AA quite a bit, repaired and paid past due quarterly taxes, filed 08 and 07 irs returns, should file 06 and 04 tomorrow, been through the process of getting a license to drive limited hours for work, paying child support and been to their court but go again in june, and handling as best i can with my work license. if im lucky ill get a lawyer who will let me pay off a fee instead of up front. if i get a felony conviction, my trade and career of 19 years are over, felons are not allowed in my line of work.

ok this is lengthy afer all, sorry.

i must mention a good friend recomended these vitamins designed to reduce stress and they work very well for me. called nutricalm. only one place i know of to get them but they are made by natures solutions and sold in a little shop in old town spring. (spring, texas)


oh yeh, they gave me a court order to not possess or consume alcohol so i havent had a beer since october 13th and my head is really clear. isnt that weird. i have wanted to drink a couple or a lot several times, but i dont trust "the supposed good guys" they have already lied to me more than once.

the biggest thing thats made me want to drink alcohol is dealing with "THOSE PEOPLE" ...."the system". they are rude, full of it, even made me pee in a cup for a couple of months.



alright, im done, sorry about taking anyones time to read this. i do feel better letting it out though.

please pray for bigbody and for me, so that i may see light soon, i cant take this much more.

 

[BobW188]

You've got the prayers. From all of us. Also for your Dad, who sounds like one special man.
Stick with it. With what you're doing (and not doing), with AA, with this Alcohol Abuse forum. Slowly, slowly things get better. Give it a few months and years and I think you may see that those other problems had more to do with alcohol than you realize right now. The System? Just remember when the urge hits, you got involved with them because of your drinking. Don't set yourself up for another round.

 

[BlessEwe]

So sorry to hear about what is going on hotsauce5000. I am glad you are reaching out for prayer.
Remember you are Not alone, God is with you.

I am also glad you are going to meetings. Reach out for help and get a sponser. This sponser can help you get through this and perhaps connect you with a support system that will allow you to take the healthy steps. Steps that many before you and after you will have to take, And have been able to get through it.

If you feel you do not want to go that route, join a bible study or any type of support group to surround yourself.

The important thing is not to isolate and allow this to slam you even further. So many in the AA rooms have been where you are now and will be able to support you through this.
Hope you keep us posted on how things are doing, be involved.
Will be praying for you.

 

[hotsauce5000]

thank you for your support.
i do pray a lot. been putting that new bible to use, has my name on it. the page marker even has my name on it.
i was able to be stress free all weekend and for the first time in months i was relaxed and not worrying to the point of being dizzy.
i was around beer all weekend and it didnt phase me at all. i did crave one for a few minutes but i slammed a few cokes instead, still made me burp real good. my friends that are drinking beer keep checking my koozie when they see blue sticking out the top, i just laugh cause its a pepsi. mixed cooler i drink coke or pepsi.

i didnt mean to hijack bigbodys thread here, i guess my next post i will make a new one. im just new here, finding my way in the sub-forums.

thank yall again for your support. ill go make a new thread now so i can find it again.

hotsauce