anyone ever feel this way?

[janny108]

When I was growing up(I'm 52 now) I had an extroverted mother and to an extent my sisters identified with her, and I did not. I was kind of criticized for my personality(I'm introverted-take it from my dad possibly). How can I make the most of my personality? I've gone thru 12 step for codependency since my family dynamics pointed in that direction.

I'm in a new church (6 months) and I've noticed people tend to be similar. I've been in churches where it is very loving, people hug, etc. Here it seems hugs are "reserved". I feel sometimes like I'm not visible much. When we moved here 6 years ago, I lost a lot of friends and it is taking some time to forge new ones.

Anyone relate?
Jan

 

[janny108]

What kind of ministries have generally more introverted people? I'm involved with music and when I show up at rehearsal it sounds like a big party.
Jan

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

Music groups are a great place for introverts to get pulled out of the shell a bit.

Sometimes I don't feel visible, but it's usually when I'm feeling more introverted. When I feel extroverted, I fit in with many people. I notice that I tend to hide when I feel shy.

What activities does your church have that allow for getting to know people? I joined a ladies Bible study at my church and I got to meet people that I had never met before and a few have become close friends. When I joined the choir it was like a big party and I met lots of people that I'm now comfortable around.

I know it's tough, but look for things that allow for meeting people but isn't too overwhelming for you. Something I've recently gotten involved in is the food pantry and helping with distribution so it's a small group of people.

 

[janny108]

I agree that we sometimes have to be pulled out of our shells. LOL I sang a solo last night, and it was like a lot of people came along beside me and complimented me. Now I know we should not live for people's approval or comments, the Lord gives the talents.
jan

 

[Anti Existance]

You need to love yourself for who you are, forcing yourself to be something you are not, is just a form of lying against your true self. If you would consider yourself as a rough diamond, you have to chisel yourself into the beautifull shape you want yourself to be. You know maby they had a point that it would be better for you to be more open, and maby indeed its a good direction to take, but only if this is something you truelly want yourself, too.

 

[Johnnz]

I agree that we sometimes have to be pulled out of our shells. LOL I sang a solo last night, and it was like a lot of people came along beside me and complimented me. Now I know we should not live for people's approval or comments, the Lord gives the talents.
jan

That last sentence is only partly true. We cannot build each other up if the other person just deflects anything positive. Sure, God gives th talent. But it's your hard work, your application and practice, your courage that allows him to use it. It's not pride to accept well meaning affirmation.

John
NZ